I like DeAngelo's stuff too. I don't have the ebook but I have more than 4GB of videos from him. I definitely have to watch them and take some notes!

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DAY 29: approaching cute tourists.
Missing a great opportunity.

I wanted to take care of myself today and decided to go to the Louvre to take some photographs. I really enjoy photography. I'm not enough good at it and really need to practice. I think being good at it could be a good help when it comes to my inner game. I also wanted to approach a little, but that was definitely not today's goal.

In the train.
- I sat next to a HB and got my DSLR out of my bag. I started to watch some photographs and thought about asking her which one she liked better. I actually noticed she had Uggs (ugly shoes brand) and thought about negging her on that. I was feeling AA and I enjoyed it. The pleasure of approaching is so great when you overcome AA! It really gave me the urge to do it. Yet, I waited too much, 2 stations later, a pregnant woman asked her if she can have the sit. Here I was, sat next to a pregnant woman. Hopefully, she left one station after.
- The HB tried to get her sit back but some kids took the sit. Here I was, sat next to two 6/7yo kids watching at my DSLR and enjoying the slides. They were liking my photographs so I started a conversation with them. "Do you like them?" "Do you want me to tell you where you can see these statues?" bla bla. The kids made me nervous actually. The situation was weird since their mother was speaking another language with them (arabic I guess). I think she was telling them to stop annoying me. They got off the train quickly.
- I actually noticed that the HB was still here but I had to leave the train.


Psychée ranimée par le baiser de l'amour. (Photograph I wanted to show to the HB)

Not going to the Louvre.
The waiting lines to get tickets were huge. One of today's lesson: going to the Louvre a Saturday is a bad idea! So I went to the Virgin Megastore.

At the Virgin Megastore.
I took a look at some books and arrived in front of the Moleskine (I love these fucking notebooks) part of the store. Some of the notebook seemed to be on sale. I opened an employee about it.
ME - Excuse me, are these Moleskine on sale? I can't remember the exact price of these notebooks but they seem cheaper than usual.
HER - Let me check this. (took the notebooks from my hands and scanned it).
HER - Yes, the usual price is 15€, they're now at 13€. Wait these ones are still at 15€.
ME - Oh okay, so I won't take these. Thanks for the help.
HER - You're welcome.
Okay, nothing new here. She was busy and actually that's not even a result since speaking to employees is easy for me. Yet I wanted to do a "Replay" exercice to practice a little on conversation.

Replaying the conversation.
Here what I shoud/could have done:
- Tell her how much I loved these notebooks and ask her what she thinks about them. (=> why not)
- Ask her if she has already written on them, tell her that someone recommended them to me... (=> better option I think)
- Ask her general recommendations about notebooks (=> cheap)
- Ask her about her job at Virgin: are you studying aside? (=> going non linear)
- Ask her if today was busy (=> non linear)
- (suggestions?)

Subway station.
In the subway station I noticed to cute tourists HB with a subway map in their hands. They seemed lost. I opened them in English as they walk in my direction.
ME - You seem lost. Can I help you?
HB 7,5 - Yes thanks, we trying to go to... (looking at the map with her)
ME - Saint Michel? (I wanted to say something in French )
HB 7,5 - No, we're trying to go to Concorde (she had a cute south american accent)
ME - Ow, you're in the wrong direction, you have to go the other way. (showing direction)
HB 7,5 - Okay thanks! (they started to leave)
ME - Where do you come from by the way?
HB 7,5 - Chile.
ME - What? Italy? (being playful). Too bad I don't speak Italian.
HB 7,5 - No, Chile.
ME (in Spanish from now on) - So you speak Spanish, cool. Look you have to go the other direction... (repeating, in Spanish)
HB 7,5 - Okay (smiling and impressed ). How can I go to the other platform?
ME - Go straight ahead and then turn right.
HB 7,5 - Thanks you so much, bye.
ME- Bye.
Now that is a result. She was really cute and was totally mine but I did not have the damn reflex to actually do something. I got into the train and realized I could have easily # close her. Damn. I just... haven't thought about it.

Replaying the conversation.
- Ask their name.
- Ask them how long were they staying in Paris (=> good transition to #close)
- Ask them what they have visited (=> good transition to #close)
- Tell her her accent was cute (=> make her shy)
- Ask them if they knew some French (=> good to make me speak French)
- Ask them to tell me "thanks" in French (=> C&F)
- Ask them what about a threesome (kidding, but not so much, lol => getting wild)
- Ask them what they think about French guys/charm/language (=> C&F, great transition to #close)
- ... (so many options here, damn)
- (suggestions?)

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Working on spontaneity #1.
LyricalDream gave me a little exercice to learn how to be good at making spontaneous remarks to open a set. He asked me to make a remark on how my sister is dressed, or on what she is doing... Sister time.
ME - You shirt is cool (pretty lame I admit, let's say it's my first try).
HER - What? Who are you talking to?
ME - Well just guess, do you see somebody else in that kitchen?
HER - Well, that's not shirt, that's ... bla bla
We started to speak about clothes and she gave me some advice on where I could find good stuff.

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What I've learned.
- Conversation has to become a reflex!
- Spontaneous remarks easily lead to conversations.

Questions to move on.
None, I have to practice conversation until it becomes natural for me to hold one with a HB.

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DAY 30: being unable to overcome AA.
Feeling tired and wasting opportunity.

I haven't planned to go out today but I finally did. I wanted to try to approach tourists and take advantage of Kasabi's post (Hobbit's last reply). Truth is, I also hoped that an opportunity like yesterday's (2 tourists from Chile) would came out. I went to the place where I was sur to find tourirst: The Louvre.

My goals.
- Approach 2 sets and focus on conversation (easy goal since I went out late)

In the train.
- When I got off, a girl drop her iPod. I gave it to her. She said "thank you". I said "you're welcome". She was a bit surprise that I actually said something. Once again, I had an opportunity to engage a conversation. But I haven't the reflex so I just walk on.
In the line for a ticket.
While I was in the line to get a ticket, I noticed 2 girls (17/18yo). They were after the couple right after me in the line. One of them was cute and checking me. As I approached the window, I got my ID out of my wallet and hold it in my right hand. I noticed in the reflect of the window that she noticed it and started to speak to her friend. I guess they were surprised I was actually French. I got my ticket and went to the museum entrance. Period. No replay for this one since I really don't know what I could have done, situation was

In the museum.
Let's be short.
1) A beautiful HB artist was drawing a sculpture. Noticed her but did not know what to do, did not want to interrupt. (yeah silly excuse).
2) Later, in front of a piece of Russian contemporary art, a girl was right next to me, she was by herself and was looking at the same thing. AA was here. I did not have what it takes to overcome it today.
In the subway.
1) A beautiful girl checked me quickly. I got into the subway with her, stay really close to her, showing that I was not intimidated but was unable to game her. Results.
- Approach 2 sets and focus on conversation => 0/2
Today, I did not have what it takes to overcome approach anxiety. Yet, I really like feeling the AA in me because I know I'm progressing each time I overcome it. I'm also tired of wasting so much opportunity to learn. I have to pull myself together. I think I need to rest a little.

What's next.
- I have the opportunity to assist to a conference from Clay Shirky tomorrow morning. Dunno if I'm going since I'm tired but would be a great opportunity to see my ex-coworkers.
- Going to an Indian restaurant tomorrow night with 8 or 9 friends. I've chosen the place and all. It will be good to see some of them.
- Preparing stuff for Brazil: need to go grab my visa and pack.
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Working on spontaneity #2.
Time for a small report one the exercise LD suggested me: making spontaneous remarks to my sister to enhance my spontaneity.
ME - I like you style today. (not original once again, have to work on that.)
HER - Thanks. (nothing more)
ME - I like your scarf. (I noticed it around her neck)
HER - I got it for 10€
She left right after, she was on her way to work. No conversation.

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What I've learned.
- The spontaneous remark is better if specific. If too general, the conversation might flake. (I like your look... thanks. => I like you shoes... yeah I bought them recently... bla bla)
- I had tons of opportunity to meet girls in the end.
- I need to sleep!

I need to relax a little (watching Police Academy on TV righ now, lol) and have a good night. I'll be better tomorrow.

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DAY 31: one month of game!.
...meet me.

I've done 31 DAYS of field reports, that's to say 1 month of Game!. I have still a long way to go of course but I wanted to celebrate a bit by unveiling a bit of myself. So guys, meet AFC Daniel.

Meet AFC Daniel.

I took this picture at the Louvre

Next time I post a picture, I'll be with a girl on it. Word.

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Wheres your face!?

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I'm building some intrigue here! I'll show my face when I'll f-close a HB.

(Haven't you seen my private message?)

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Haha mate, you're style is sooo like mine. Same style leather jacket - scarf - average to short hair (waxed or gelled) .. yeah yeah, good PUA look ! Love you !

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AFC Daniel,

Joining the party a bit late. I flipped through every page(I think) and enjoyed reading all the posts; this is good.

Just a few thoughts on your journal method:

1. You seem very comfortable with what you've been doing but I'm not sure if it's well balanced. The quantity of words are not as important as the level of focus you have for each section. Currently it seems that it's: 10% = goals for the day. 80% field report. 10% lessons learned. (This is a more like a newspaper journal but a reporter's task is not to improve this news in the future.)

Think less 'reporting journal' and more 'athletics journal': A football manager will keep a journal but there's probably A LOT less focus on play by play field/game report (by the time you get to the game, you're busy playing the game), more focus on lessons learned afterward and even more focus on GOALS OF THE DAY(Strategy!). Yes, you'll write less overall but you'd focus on your daily tasks much more.

2. You seem motivated with what you're doing so this is the most important thing. If you like your method, stick with it. However, after a month of this, it's difficult to think about the next steps to take because it's difficult to figure out which aspects of your game need the most work. You might want to try a more structured approach:

a. You already wrote down your 'end goals' in your first post. Let's call these goals "Dreams".
b. You already wrote down the things you think you 'lack'.
c. Identify and classify: Which of these things that you lack can be considered BLOCKS to reach your 'dreams'? Don't just lump all these issues on a pile of writing. Take one page for each "dream" and write down all the things you currently do not possess that prevent you from reaching that one dream.
d. Next to the "blocks", you'd want to write all the solutions . . . many good suggestions have been made in this thread already.
e. Now don't just 'think' about doing something for the day. Create daily tasks out of the recommendations made in this thread and PUT THEM IN A CALENDAR. You'd want to be as specific as this: 12pm to 2pm lunch break: Open 5 sets with the "Hey, is that the new iPhone?" - opener. High five all. Use the favorite coffee shop #close routine on all 5. - This will sharpen my # close technique.

*^This is just a suggestion. It seems you're doing well with your style but I think just a little more organization could prove to be a bit more efficient. A calendar of tasks/events is a fun thing to keep. . . and eventually, you'll need one anyways to track all your dates.

Oh, and a # close you can repeat over, over, and over again:

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Interestingly, you naturally create excitement and 'future meet-ups' with the girls in your 'reconnect' posts. The problem is that with strangers, you probably do not make enough 'safety connections'. Many, many ways to do this but once you get in the habit, it'll be as easy as flicking a switch. You will see their facial expressions change; they will close the physical gap . . .

If these girls begin to treat you like the way the girls you 'already know' treat you, wouldn't you feel pretty comfortable about suggesting 'future meet-ups'?

. . . I think it's about time for you to start closing! Right?

I read you like scarfs too in your "Unspoken Laws of Attraction". I could work more on my hair though. I actually cut it by myself.

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Hi Kasabi,

First of all, thanks for reading my journal. I truely appreciate your help.

I understand your point. I spend too much time describing every interactions. I should focus more on my goals and lessons.

1- GOALS.
- what is the goal for today?
- why is it my goal? = what am I trying to learn today?
- what is my strategy? = how do I plan to achieve this goal?

2- REPORT.
- how have I applied the strategy?
- what are the results?

3- LESSONS.
- have I achieved my goal?
- what are the lessons from today? = what have I learned?
- what do I need to improve?
- what could be a next goal?
Exactly, it's really hard for me to see what's the next steps. Identifying my "blocks" (b, c & d) will definitely help me since it will allow me to have a big picture of what I have to work on. I'll think about that and write a post later. You're right about the calendar thing (e).
I'll read the post! Thanks for you help Kasabi. I have to get better at organizing all this.

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DAY 32: reflections on my journey.
My dream and blocks: time to open a new chapter.

One month of Game. In one week, I'm leaving to Brazil. I think it's time for me to open a new chapter in my learning journal.

Organizing the rest of my journey.
I need organization. Right now, I'm unable to forsee the next steps in my journey. The best way to learn something though is to learn step by step. The smaller the steps, the better I'll learn. Here, learning should be a process in order to be efficient. Getting organized will prevent me to waste my energy and motivation. Let's organize all this.

My dreams: what I want.
I've started this journey for two main reasons:
- I want to be a real man: confident, dominant, secure, funny, social, attractive, trustworthy, successful, ...
- I want to attract women.
Of course, one can argue that my second goal is actually a result of achieving the first one. Indeed, being a real man attracts women.

My blocking points: what I'm missing.
What am I lacking to be a real man and attract women? Let's do it the other way around. What's actually preventing me from being a real man and attract women? (I've already been working on most of these points but I wanted to write them anyway).

- LACK OF CONFIDENCE/INSECURITY
I don't really know where my insecurity comes from but I do lack of confidence. I don't believe in myself as much as I should.
- NEEDYNESS
When I feel lonely, I feel that I need attention/affection from someone. That usually leads me to seek approval from others.
- LACK OF CONSISTENCY
I have no consistency. I can show confidence at one moment and feel insecure right after.
- LACK OF EXPERIENCE/GAME SKILLS
I have no experience at seducing women I don't know. I have no skills to attract women. In other cases, I usually end up in the friend zone.
- FRUSTRATION/ANGER
I get frustrated quite easily. Sometimes I end up blaming others for what happens to me.
- FEAR
Sometimes, I'm just scared of not being able to handle things. I also have approach anxiety.

The solutions: how to fix these issues.
As I said, I've already been thinking about these issues. I've been working on them. Truth is, most of these problems come from false beliefs.

- LACK OF CONFIDENCE/INSECURITY
I should believe more in myself: I'm good looking, well-educated, funny and have an attractive lifestyle. I'm actually attractive to women but I'm generally too weak to take action.
> Approach: the best way to get confidence is to put myself in the front and to get competences in approaching women. The first successes will be crucial.
> Work out: working out provides confidence and boost self-esteem.
> Film myself: recording myself allows me to work on my voice, face expression and smile.
> Stop masturbation: masturbation kills my confidence and makes me feel insecure. I need to stop that.
> Find a hobby: getting good at something gives a boost to self-esteem.
> Build an attractive lifestyle: building an attractive lifestyle will enhance self-esteem and confidence.

- NEEDYNESS
The point here is that I need to understand that there are plenty of women out there waiting for me to meet them.
> Approach: approaching is the best way to make me understand that I can meet any women when I want to.
> Extend social circle: meeting new people through friends is a great way to make me understand that there are lots of opportunity to meet women.

- LACK OF CONSISTENCY
I still have ups and downs. I should be more constant in my Game.
> Approach: the best way to tackle this is to get used to approach women, which means that I need to get competence.
> Meditation: meditation will allow me to keep control when emotions come up.
> Stop masturbation: masturbation makes me moody.
> Journaling: journaling helps me to take a step back and think about what went wrong.
> Sleeping: being tired is the best way to become moody.

- LACK OF EXPERIENCE/GAME SKILLS
I should have more experience and skills when it comes to the game.
> Approach: getting experience is all about putting myself out there.
> Read material: reading material allows me to get the knowledge I need to succeed.
> Journaling: journaling helps me to learn lessons from my experiences and allow me to get the help of the community.
> Film myself: recording myself allows me to work on skills as voice, face expression and smile.

- FRUSTRATION/ANGER
I should be more cool and relaxed about everthing and stop blaming other people for what happens to me.
> Meditation: meditation allows me get rid of frustration.

- FEAR
There is no fucking reason to be scared.
> Approach: being in the front will allow me to understand there is nothing to fear.
> Meditation: meditation will help me to get rid the emotions/bad thoughts triggering fear and approach anxiety.
> Work out: getting in shape helps you fight fear.

Okay. So that's what I came up with. Now I need to fix all these points by applying the solutions I've just written. Of course, I can't do everything on that list.

My first actions.
FOR NOW:
- Approaching: setting a strategy and learning lessons from the field.
- Meditation: 5 minutes daily.
- Work out: keeping up working out at least 3 sessions per week.
- Stop masturbation
- Journaling: focusing on goals and lessons learned from the field.

FOR LATER:
- Build an attractive lifestyle: waiting for Brazil
- Extend social circle: will come with Brazil
- Find a hobby: I'm thinking about taking class of something in Brazil (photos/BJJ/dancing?)
- Read material: I'm going to stop reading material and focus on practice. I'll go back to the material later.
- Film myself: I think I'm going to film myself in Brazil and post it on Facebook. It would be a great way to give some news to my friends (and work on my skills: voice, smile...).

Note: there won't be other "reflection" post for a lonnnnng time. Enough thinking, let's do this.

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Woh, very impressive . . .

Here's the truth. I've shared the 'structured journal' idea with possibly 100 people in a span of 10 years or so. (And I'm not counting the numerous times that I've typed up similar suggestions on this forum. . .) How many of those people do you think nodded, agreed, and thought that this was a "great idea"? Answer? ..... All 100. I have never met anybody who couldn't see the logic behind a organized, executable, strategic plan. They all LOVE IT . . .at first.

Here's the kicker. I'd say that 90% never even began the process. I mean . . . they do not even bother taking a blank piece of paper to write "Dreams" on the top. Of the remaining 10, 8 of them stopped at 'dreams'. And the excuse was something to the tune of "This is stupid" or a "waste of time."

2 people actually even bothered writing all the things that you just wrote in one day . .. and it's probably because they were close to me and I was on them every day to chat about it.

So what I'm saying is that I'm totally fucking impressed. And your level of comprehension and fluid thought process is on par with some of the brightest minds I've met. If you don't mind me asking, what do you do?

*Oh and if you'd like some help with turning "actions" into scheduled strategic 'tasks' that you can write up into your calendar, let us know.