Due to my shyness, most of my game is through text. Since i am a computer geek and music producer, i spend most of my time at a computer. I will usually find a clever way to get a girls phone number via facebook (or whatever medium im using) by sending her a cheeky 2-3 liner. Oonce i have her phone number, it usually takes no less than a week of texting before she is in my bed. In fact, i have become so good at this, that by the time she meets me, it does not matter how nervous or awkward i act - she's already made the decision to fuck me.

But then there is that certain type of girl, who can't seem to pull the trigger (... or LET me pull the trigger). I chase her for a minute, the flirting is great, she is showing me multiple IOIs, and cant seem to help herself from talking to me - like clockwork messaging me everyday. But something (im not sure what) keeps her from taking that final step.

Usually these girls do a very predictable and very cheesy tactic.. i called it "im bored, entertain me now." text.

"im bored at work." (aka pay attention to me cuz im not stimulated)
"what are you doing" (aka no one else is answering so im going to hit you up)
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We all know what im talking about...

My question to you guys is... what is the best way to take that tactic/attempt for attention, and turn it around and use it against her? What can i do to maximize the gain from such a response.

Ive tried many tactics from flat out ignoring, to a neg/cheeky joke to make her laugh.. you name it.

But the bottom line is that when a girl is like this with me, i cant ever seem to complete the mission.. it's like being thrown a dead fish.

this is your common shit test right here

I AM NOT ENTERTAINED IN MY CURRENT SITUATION
YOU ENTERTAIN ME NOW

what you did do with both of those is you avoided what she said or you DID what she said

what about you, your important too right? you have a life that you could get bored with?

2 ways you can handle it, instead of ignoring it just say, "no im busy", and move on with life or you can say " No, IM bored you entertain me"

btw its not great to keep all your game text message use some phone game and for christ sake USE THE FEILD, start getting some inner game for yourself if your shy.

this is your common shit test right here

I AM NOT ENTERTAINED IN MY CURRENT SITUATION
YOU ENTERTAIN ME NOW

what you did do with both of those is you avoided what she said or you DID what she said

what about you, your important too right? you have a life that you could get bored with?

2 ways you can handle it, instead of ignoring it just say, "no im busy", and move on with life or you can say " No, IM bored you entertain me"

btw its not great to keep all your game text message use some phone game and for christ sake USE THE FEILD, start getting some inner game for yourself if your shy.

this is your common shit test right here

I AM NOT ENTERTAINED IN MY CURRENT SITUATION
YOU ENTERTAIN ME NOW

what you did do with both of those is you avoided what she said or you DID what she said

what about you, your important too right? you have a life that you could get bored with?

2 ways you can handle it, instead of ignoring it just say, "no im busy", and move on with life or you can say " No, IM bored you entertain me"

btw its not great to keep all your game text message use some phone game and for christ sake USE THE FEILD, start getting some inner game for yourself if your shy.

Well it's not just shyness - i have whiskey for that lol.

It's the fact that i need "my game" to work with my lifestyle.. which is usually alone.. at a computer.

I really like the idea "No. Im' bored YOU entertain ME." - except the fact that me showing boredom might lower my perceived value.

Oh the infamous "I need attention" text. Sometimes a girl just needs attention. And you're right - I do not send this text message out to men I'm looking to hook up with.

The recipients of this text are those darling men who comprise my emotional spank bank. Every woman has one. Friends with feelings for me, guys I can't really remember from the bars who I gave my number to, ex-boyfriends, guys I have nothing in common with, men with girlfriends. Women will string these guys along for months with vague "we should hang out" messages. We just need to be reminded that out there, someone wants to have sex with us.

Texting is a sure way to stay in the emotional spank bank because you end up basically providing a service for these women - you send over attention which then swells their confidence so they can go hook up with other guys. If you can't get them to meet up after a couple tries, forget it. I have strung guys along for years with well-timed "how r u?" texts. Don't be that chump. [/i]

Intriguing, top stuff Zephyrine

Women need validation (and a good saucing)

You choose what you are going to give them

Scamp

LOL no man people get bored, no vaule is lowered especially when your trying to get her compliance, it should be her job to entertain you, and thats where your vaule INCREASES

sorry about the long time it took me to reply

Fender43

Good insight Zephyr. I do the same thing toward girls I wanna keep around. Just staying on the radar for future hook-ups. Not quite the same, but kinda. Stringing someone along for your own needs.

Usually see out of the blue texts like that as an opportunity. Like if they're randomly thinking about you, the iron is hot and it's time to strike. My advice would be to get direct. If they don't wanna play along, no big loss and it's done.

Ex.
her: Bored in class
me: what would you rather be doing?
her: something else
me: come here, we'll figure it out

Call me crazy, but don't these problems go away if you are old fashioned and simply don't text anyone? Some of us old farts think that younger generations may be losing social skills, an ability and willingness to interact face-to-face. Facebook, texting, looks to some of us like strategies for staying on "remote control." Is there so much to gain from this newfangled stuff?

Come on guys, reading some stuff like this makes me lose a little faith in humanity! It's so cold!

I agree some girls do look for attention by writing things like "how r u", "entertain me", but some are into you... and want to be entertained! I wouldn't advise going cold and saying "no", you're trying to create rapport, not push them away. Plus it could look like you're scared of saying something that isn't entertaining. What I would do is just continue the conversation or say something to start a new conversation, and at the end write "entertain you? Why would I want to do that?". It maintains an edge of defiance to a possible shit-test, and doesn't push them away. Any criticism, Zephyrine?

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