Took a girl out to Taco Del Mar (very casual) thursday night, had a great conversation, escalated a bit, and got a kiss close at the end of the night. (Just a peck)

She told me this weekend her roomate was gone, which I could assume only meant she wanted one thing...

Friday comes around and I"m at the gym and I see her on the treadmill. I kinda just poke her sides and startle her just for fun, flirt w/ her a tiny bit (couple min) then tell her I'll text her today (saturday) to set something up.

I text her at 12pm today to set something up...And she doesn't respond. I call her at 5:30pm, no response. I didn't do anything after that, it's now 7:00pm and I've heard nothing.

Was I acting too needy? How needy is too much? By what she told me in the car it just seemed like she would want to hang out this weekend............


Btw, I am a sophmore and she is a freshman (college). I have my own apartment, and she still lives in the dorms.

I guess you don't always have to look for an explanation in yourself, it could be something else came up you don't know of. It's good to look at what you might have done wrong but it's not always your own fault I guess.

HB doesn't like to be startled, and especially at the gym even though she knows you. You also need to show more DHV.

Why don't they like to be startled?

You should've set something up while at the gym. Its ok though, you got her man, just a little more work and she's yours. Try calling her the next day to see whats up, if no answer wait until you see her in person. Im in a very similar situation if check out my post. Dont worry though, you got this.

And when you see her, dont make a big deal of it. Just ask her if she ok. If she says she's fine and why do u ask, say you tried getting a hold of her and you thought something happened. Then move on to another convo with her.

I don't know I feel like I blew this one......Wouldn't she have texted me by now?

Bro, relax. I am feeling just like you, and from the people I've talked to (boys and girls) they have told me to relax, and not make a big deal out of it. Give her some breathing room. When do you see her next, tomorrow?

I'm a sophmore, she's a freshman, we live on opposite sides of campus. I met her at a dining hall (I just sat next to her cause she was hot). I don't have any classes w/ her. I've bumped into her a couple times at the gym. Do I just wait to "luckily" bump into her, or should i text/call her?

Wait until tomorrow, and see if you bump into her. If you see her at the gym or anywhere just be like, "Hey how are ya? You ok?" And she'll be like "Yeah" or she'll say "Yeah, sorry about the weekend I was just really busy with whatever". Then just build comfort/attraction with her. Dont try to force anything on her, if she looks conftrable, and giving you IOI's try to hang out with her again. IF she asks to make it up to ya just be like "You could take me out for some coffee or ice cream" or something like that, ONLY if she asks to make it up to ya. But you'll be fine, you already dated, and kissed once, so let time take its course. And be patient.

If I don't bump into her, should i text/call her?

Yes, thats what I would do.

Cool, thanks. It's just hard to know when too much is too much. Say I text/call her tomorrow, and she doesnt' respond. Then what? Text her again? That would seem too needy...no?