Hello, long timer lurker, first post,

There's a girl in my night class whose way out of my league, I suspect she knows I have been financially blessed (to a small extent). She on the other hand comes dressed from work as a secretary, very sexy, but I have an eye for clothes-- and hers very clearly show a lack of budget. I've only seen her with one purse, a some what dirty velor Juicy Couture (gag). Her car also sucks.

I don't talk about expensive things around people I don't know/aren't rich, but I still live my life and wear and drive what I want to. Based on the fact she has a Juicy bag I suspect she's some what privy to some of my trendy casual clothes. I think this sort of clothing is rather gauche, but I don't want to start wearing classic and tailored men's garments around town at my age--- I'd look like a pompous ass.

Now when I say she's out of my league it's not just because she's got an extra pretty face on a thin body, but she's very very developed and womenly (think salma hayek). I am 20, look 18, 5'7 and thin. Never had a chance with a girl that had a body like this, all around a beautiful women's body. She could already be a total trophy wife for an established doctor or lawyer.



How do I play this? Should I just be aggressive and play in to my wealth? This all feels really shallow.

Are people going to look at me and think I am some Napoleonic chump whose getting played?

I feel like getting a women like this should be a great accomplishment, and the fact she's the one showing interest..... But I feel like less of a man.


I haven't even really thought about all the implications of the situation. I'd have no problem spoiling her, but I don't want that to be the main reason of why she talks to me.

Has any one been in this situation, shed some light?

Dude, i really am not in a position to give you game advice but here is a little relation advice: Dont sit there and spoil her. That's DLV shit and even if she isn't rolling in dough it dosn't really matter because women like that know they have something of value (hence the need for this whole PUA thing). And if they DON'T know that they have the option to be a golddigger it will become very obvious to them when guys start spoiling them.

If you really want to HAVE her, you need to actually get her to like you. If you get her in the mode where she is mainly into the stuff you can do for her (pre-gold digger) then she is just one jump away from the next rich guy who can do more.

My advice, do NOT play up your finances. Its just merely a small perk out of many that makes you THE man she needs.

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Look man, resources and the ability to provide a good life are part of the equation when it comes to women. Especially quality younger women, too young to have a decent career and with a lack of family connections.

No need to flaunt it, but you'd be crazy not to let her know you're in a position to offer her a decent life if it comes to that. And a fun one in the meantime.

P.S. Beware of women that will willing allow you to have sex with them without a condom (always use one until you're married anyway). This is an old ploy meant to ensnare well to do fellows. I mean, to some women why should they throw away their freedom when they can have their cake and eat it too, in the form of a large alimony/child support payment? This can literally fuck your life up.

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Okay let me be real specific. Let it be known that are well off. Thats fine and there is no harm in that. But when you start giving a girl money (clothes, jewelery, expensive dining, ect) you are setting a precedent to be used. Don't do it.

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"Responsibility for our lives is something we never lose but which we often deny... You can blame whomever you wish, but you’re the one who must experience (or endure) the results." -Steve Pavlina (http://www.stevepavlina.com)

Agreed... I come into similiar situations from time to time... I'm by no means rich but as compaired to my same age peers yes I do quiet well.

Personally I treat the girl no diffrent then I would if I worked at Burger King and made minimum wage...

Make it a non-issue... it's part of who you are good bad or other. I say it's only as big of a deal as you make it.

And honestly to be able to be in the position you are at your age takes a special kind of person... I know I've been there. My guess is thats hat she see's and thats what she likes... and your just selling yourself a bit short.

In my opinion it's far worse to be a position where you have little to offer (not talking about giving her money, clothes, jewelry, etc..).

Which to a women spells 'boring' and unsuccessful.

How you got it seems less of a concern to them.

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