So I've been hanging out with this attractive girl for a while now and I finally asked her out on a date. We went out and she was being a little bit distant at first but gradually grew more comfortable. No kiss at the end of the date cause I didn't feel it was the right time. Anyway, I saw her again today (she came over to talk to me and my friends) and I got lunch with her but she kept a lot of distance and didn't seem very engaged in our conversation.
She's a very friendly person and I feel like I may have mistaken her friendliness for liking me. I didn't really "game" her, just kinda tried to DHV and then eventually asked her out. I was looking for a potential relationship with her but I really get the feeling that she is uncomfortable dating me. So my question is where do I go from here? Should I try to stick with it and ask her out again or should I just cut my losses and move on?

Thanks,
Phantom

First off, I believe this part of the board is for those in relationships, not for those seeking...but here is what I think about your situation.

You went on a date you say...how did it go, what did you do, was there any attraction, did you show attraction to her as in more that just conversation but actual physical contact? All these are key questions here.

From the sounds of it, it seems like you just entered the dreaded "Let's just be Friends" zone. If you're wanting more than a friend, you would have kissed her...its trying to bang her on the first date where it's permissible to wait but again, not too long either then you come off looking weird or like you just want to be friends with her.

I'm going to assume that date didn't go too well otherwise, this question would not have been asked...what to do from here...recovering from LJBF is not easy at all but is do-able. I say start freezing her out, don't show any interest and give it a little time to reset before trying again. It seems like a lot of work when there are other girls out there but that's up to you to decide.

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You can't make the same mistake twice, the second time you make it, it's no longer a mistake, it's a choice.

I think you just made a new friend.






But seriously, it doesn't sound like either of you were attracted to the other. You didn't make your move? Ask yourself why. "I didn't feel it was the right time" is vague. I'm not going to outright call that an excuse, but...

Make her your friend, work on your game, and go after girls who you cannot help but go in for the raunchy, dirty make-out at the end of the date.

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