so,i was with her for like a month or so,and everything was great,we sms-ed each day,see each other twice a week,cause i live in other town,but i was getting a job in her town so we could see each other more... Last 2 days she was distant,ok,i get it,she goes to college and it is her priority,but that was her excuse to leave me and not see me anymore. She said that this was going too fast and shes not ready for serious relationship so its better this way. And besides all this,i am too calm for her,too "shy".
I really dont want to lose her,dont know what to do now.She said we could hear from each other sometimes but not see each other anymore. what am i supposed to do to keep her?

The truth is sometimes difficult to hear.

If she said this phrase to you, take it on face-value and start gaming other girls. You might be able to retain her as friends with benefits if you do this correctly.

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She's probably telling the truth and just isn't ready. Did she hint at this at all when you were together?

A lot of times guys will "choose" not to pay attention to these types of warnings and then act all suprised when it happens

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well i guess she did give me a hint,but she was in love with me and i thought that she said it just like that. What she said was something like " why havent i met you after my college,for 2 years"

oh yea,did i mentioned that she dumped me over msn....i said we should meet and discuss that and she denied

Break ups aren't easy...that's kinda chicken sh!t but again as said before...take it for what it's worth and move on. You can't force her into something she doesn't want...that is not good for either of you and that's something you don't want, trust me!

If you look, there is another post just like this, but the other way around...the person is trying to get rid of the girl and doesn't know how. She wants him bad and he doesn't want her...advice given...be honest and cut her loose!

Point here...if someone doesn't want to be held on too, then let them go...perhaps in doing so may trigger some later attraction and you can move in from there.

Sorry bro...just accept it and move on.

Gonna have to agree with Cedius on this one. First of all dumping you on MSN is really weak, and her denying a face to face makes it even worse. Some girls are just cold like that. Understand that it has nothing to do with you and its just the way she is. Experience the pain and frustration, learn from it and continue on your path a stronger and wiser man.

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[quote="hard2get"]so,i was with her for like a month

but i was getting a job in her town so we could see each other more

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really man ? come on just because you get into a relationship doesnt mean you can suddenly stop acting like the prize and appearing to be the challenge. you made it too comfortable for her and remember attraction can leave as soon as it came ( if not quicker )

also shes in college ofcourse shes not gona be looking for a serious relationship.

as for the dumping over msn / not having a face to face , well that just fuckign sucks mate and more of a reflection on her than it is you.

move on and learn from this experience and i promise youll come out better than ever.

besides what better place to learn and move on than a pick up forum

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