The point is you don't talk about gaming, or mma, or computers. You talk about living life and enjoying it. Anyone can appreicate that.

But what if someones live is just mediocre? All you're doing is basing the excited loving life situation on nothing great. I just don't get how that would be attractive.

It is quite possible summarise certain people with the line "I love my life it's brilliant! I just do average things and nothing special. But I love it." This is not attractive. It's actually very unattractive because it suggests they don't have high ambitions. They are excited by being average.

"I'm doing life and I love it! I do nothing in particular, just hang out at the pub, have a menial job, I'm going nowhere in life, and I'm thrilled to death about it!" I just don't get it! That's not even close to attractive.

For example, last week. I was hanging out chatting with an HB8 and she was telling me about her life and what she wanted to achieve. After hearing about her low expectations of life I just lost interest in her. Even though she was excitedly telling me about it and was very passionate.

Is that just me and my personal tastes?

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Looks like we have very similar opinions fellow MMA practicioner . But I am beginning to realize that what you said above is what make people stand out in a conversation and attract other people. Don't ask me why. I also think that what I do now (which is very similar to what you said in first post minus trying new stuff every month since I dont have cash being a student in a poor country) is not much to talk about. I keep comparing myself to the guys that were SOMEONE when they were my age (21) and I feel like what I am now is really not much.
But when I look around myself most guys aren't doing any better than me in all other areas (most of them are way below me) except that some of them are banging more girls than me. And all of them think like the sentence I quoted.
But I dont see myself thinking like that untill I achieve something big.

I'm glad someone is agreeing with me here.

Achieving something big is brilliant. You don't need to tell people about it, they just hear!

Trying new stuff as a student is perfect! Keep it low budget and simple. When you have more money, up the ante! Cook a new meal, learn a new language (sign language is perfect for a club to communicate with your wing! "I was just ordering drinks.....No I didn't tell him to distract your fat friend while I isolate you"), reading is simply opening your mind to new experiences. Also don't forget those weird clubs and societies at university!!! I recommend Circus, Chess, Ballet, Yoga, or whatever is new to you. If it's new try it.

There are a few exception of things you shouldn't try. Drugs (I've seen so many people ruin their lives because by getting addicted, it's not worth it), unprotected sex (a kid at uni won't help your grades! At least make sure they're on the pill and uninfected), drinking as much as you can (alcohol poisoning, not as funny waking up in hospital), drink driving (waking up in hospital without a license and having to explain to your parents why the car was driven into a wall and you crushed a child [not a personal experience, but that of someone I know]).

Not all new experiences are good. But the lesson you learn is good knowledge to have. Better to learn from someone elses mistakes on the big things, and make your own mistakes on the small things.

One mistake I made was eating before yoga. I farted LOADS! Well embarrassing, but I laughed more than anyone else, so would still recommend it!

Being a student is the perfect time to try new things.

Find a hill, put out a mat and sit there looking at the view for an hour or more. It's a brilliant experience, and at the least will give you an air of mystery about yourself.

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Take the hint mate... how many people are going to post about your insecure ego bullshit before you figure it out? Even your signature is ego bollocks... "I'm so good with chicks I can't help getting laid".

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Thanks for the input Pebble.

Not been on the forum for a while because I've been busy with my job.

Don't worry about any insecurity or anything like that. I genuinely didn't understand an attractive lifestyle because I always just did what I wanted and what interested me. Didn't realise that is about 50% of what an attractive lifestyle is. I'd always assumed attractive people were only present at solitary points, like in a club, where people saw just that one element of their life. So never thought anything of a Lifestyle that was attractive.

And 'insecurity' is not a word that is ever used to describe me by myself or anyone that properly knows me.

I'm not going to be on this forum much if at all, and will only be posting in the health and fitness section if I do post.

There's so much negativity in this forum that it's not worth it. There is very little encouragement, equipping, and empowering. I'd always thought that was what this forum was about.

Don't get me wrong, there are a few people that are fantastic and I'd pleased to have talked to them. Genuinely great people that don't need to put others down to make themselves look better.

But for me, I've got other things that would be more productive uses of time, for me. I wish everyone the best with their sarging, FB's and relationships.

I'm going to write a Leaving Forum Post. So and Bye's or STFU's can go in there haha.

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