Ok, first the back story! Met this girl we went out had a good time, she texted me a few times telling me how she like talking to me, and that she had and involuntary crush. ok, now fast forward...I need a critique of how I handled this.
We were texting a little today, and this is how the convo went.

Me: did you have a good time with your family this weekend?

Her: Yeah it was great! Did you?

me: Actually I did...how were all of your travels?

her: Still going I am in .... right now.

Me: ....! you and your family doing any thing exciting?

her: no we just got here, it is so hot in there house!

me: just go shut off the heat and see how long it takes them to notice! I say 15min!

her: they finally opened the door!

me: Good I was a little worried! They say sugar melts when it gets to hot, but your lucky your not that sweet

her: You are SOOOO cute!

me: Like little bunnies cute, or your average everyday cute?

her: hahaha! average everyday cute!

me: Thank God it was not the bunnies! you gonna be free Monday or Tuesday?

(no replay so after about 2 hours, against my better judgment I tried to change the subject)

me: Just left the mall, I think I had to fight for my life to get out of there!

again no reply...

Now I am not to worried about this, but we had talked about hanging out again really soon, but now she has gone cold. Also it is the holidays, and she is with her family. I figure she is just busy with the family, but I just wanted another opinion!

Actually can any one tell me how to move forward from here?

If you are really worried about it, then you have inner game issues. I do not like how you basically told her you were setting aside two days for her, if she wanted to do something. I think it is much better to tell her you are doing something cool and ask her if she wants to come along. Also, I do not know how much you are laying on the compliments but it doesn't sound good.

If you REALLY want this chick, you have to put on your "I don't give a shit" hat. This involves ignoring her. I don't have the time line on the chat you posted BUT... it appeared as though you were going back and forth pretty quickly until you asked her out....a NO REPLY is a reply...it is a NO...I repeat..it is a NO! So, if you want to get into her head..."accidentally" text her with a text you intended for someone else (use a girl's name in the text that doesn't exist)....something along the lines of making a date for one of those two nights..get her thinking ur taking another chick out. THEN...text her back IMMEDIATELY with "OMG..sorry xxxxx I accidentally txted you that last msg...whooops! LOL...and leave it at that. If she has ANY interest in you, she will start giving you a hard time....if she ignores you..ignore her and move on...Good Luck! oh yeah....p.s. - do NOT make the date for EITHER of the two nights in question....make her wait... Chicks are like big game fish..to land the "keepers" you have to let the line out a bit before reeling them back in...sad but true.

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Atomicglow

yeah I realized that the no reply was a No...
the thing about her being sweet was just a failed neg...oh well better luck next time.
and I also realized I should not have specified two days!
thanks for the input it does help! And yes still working on the inner game.

The sad reality is that chicks want what they can't have. Mystery calls it the "Cat String".... The successful PUA knows the sweet spot between being a "good guy" and an asshole. It isn't that chicks DON'T eventually want someone who is nice...they just see guys over and over that are nice because they are groveling, not sure of themselves, or trying to manipulate their way via "nice guy" route into their pants. So, naturally their defenses are up whenever they see a guy who is being "nice." Let them see that side of your personality after they have "earned" it and you are in a relationship with them.

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I like this...thanks Glow that makes since. I think i have a plan moving forward...but at least I have finally gotten over approach anxiety.

Dont contact her at all. Wait till she text you again. Like He said "dont give a shit"

yeah she texted me the next day, I kept it real short then said I I had a busy day the next day and had to go to bed. she almost immediately texted me back say goodnight.

Now how do I move forward from here. I was thinking about letting it freeze untill next week when every one will be back from the holidays. any thoughts?

Perfect.....freeze it til everyone is back....Don't let your urge to text back get the better of you....keep us posted!

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ok, so at the advice of one of my friends I text her wednesday night because she was leaving Thursday morning. Just to see how it went, and to see if I could work a last second hang out. this is how the convo went.

Me: Hey work has been crazy the last couple of days, but I thought of you and was wondering how things were going?

Her: (2 min later) They're good Smile leaving for texas tomorrow and going shopping with my friend ... tonight. how are things with you aside from work?

Me: (10 min later) they are good. Just trying to stay sane with how crazy work has been. I have been catching some after christmas sales as well. Didn't have my fashion guide with me though. Are you ready for Texas?

Her:(4 min later) Who is your fashion guide? I'm ready as I'll ever be lol. I'm going to have a pretty tough convo with some ladies in my family.

Me: (10 min later) Since things with the last girl I dated did not work out I don't have a fashion guide. would you like and application? What are you haveing to call the ladies out for?

Her: (1 hour later) hahaha, I can be your fashion advisor.

Me: (1.5 hours later) I am holding try outs next week. But you can't lie when I ask if these jeans make my butt look good.

Her:(2 min later) hahaha, I'll always be honest I promise!

Me: (2 hours later) That is good because I don't flirt with dishonest girls. I am going to sleep thought. Please be safe on your trip.

Her: (immediately) Sweet dreams dear.


Ok so through that I did learn a few things though.
#1 Pretty sure through my weakness this girl digs me and will text me back.

#2 the part about the last girl i dated not working out...makes me look weak, and shows DLV on my part for failing in a relationship. Learned this thanks to a good friend of mine and she was talking to me about this, so I let hear read the text convo as well.

#3 I have got to freaking relax. I over think every detail in every conversation with every girl.

For some reason if I have a plan, there is no AA and I can normally hang. But when I freeze up, or am in a crowd that I am not comfortable in...mostly Bars, not really my scene...I get really nervous and start thinking to much. I have decided that I like Day game a lot more...but I am going out tonight with some friends for new years and we will see if I can be more relaxed and just not worry what people think. I should just assume that people love me and if they don't, who give a damn, there are like 6 billion people in the world. i only need a handful of people to hang out with.

ok, so at the advice of one of my friends I text her wednesday night because she was leaving Thursday morning. Just to see how it went, and to see if I could work a last second hang out. this is how the convo went.

Me: Hey work has been crazy the last couple of days, but I thought of you and was wondering how things were going?

Her: (2 min later) They're good Smile leaving for texas tomorrow and going shopping with my friend ... tonight. how are things with you aside from work?

Me: (10 min later) they are good. Just trying to stay sane with how crazy work has been. I have been catching some after christmas sales as well. Didn't have my fashion guide with me though. Are you ready for Texas?

Her:(4 min later) Who is your fashion guide? I'm ready as I'll ever be lol. I'm going to have a pretty tough convo with some ladies in my family.

Me: (10 min later) Since things with the last girl I dated did not work out I don't have a fashion guide. would you like and application? What are you haveing to call the ladies out for?

Her: (1 hour later) hahaha, I can be your fashion advisor.

Me: (1.5 hours later) I am holding try outs next week. But you can't lie when I ask if these jeans make my butt look good.

Her:(2 min later) hahaha, I'll always be honest I promise!

Me: (2 hours later) That is good because I don't flirt with dishonest girls. I am going to sleep thought. Please be safe on your trip.

Her: (immediately) Sweet dreams dear.


Ok so through that I did learn a few things though.
#1 Pretty sure through my weakness this girl digs me and will text me back.

#2 the part about the last girl i dated not working out...makes me look weak, and shows DLV on my part for failing in a relationship. Learned this thanks to a good friend of mine and she was talking to me about this, so I let hear read the text convo as well.

#3 I have got to freaking relax. I over think every detail in every conversation with every girl.

For some reason if I have a plan, there is no AA and I can normally hang. But when I freeze up, or am in a crowd that I am not comfortable in...mostly Bars, not really my scene...I get really nervous and start thinking to much. I have decided that I like Day game a lot more...but I am going out tonight with some friends for new years and we will see if I can be more relaxed and just not worry what people think. I should just assume that people love me and if they don't, who give a damn, there are like 6 billion people in the world. i only need a handful of people to hang out with.

I am not sure I agree that saying "things didn't work out" makes you seem like like an AFC...you didn't say it was YOUR fault. You were SO close to doing cat string with this chick when you said you didn't have your fashion guide with you and she wanted to know who it was!! You SHOULD have NOT ANSWERED!! Or given an non answer along the lines of "That is TOP Secret! . This chick seems to like competition and you need to take advantage of that....keep her guessing and she will be putty in your hands!

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did not know about Cat string. Just did some research. I like the theory, but i don't know how to go about getting back into some conversation where I can DHV my self and get her to chase me. I will keep researching. Let me know how you guys would go about it.

BTW I have been talking with several other women lately and a few of them have been posting on my FB. I don't use FB very much, but I know that this should be a good thing right?

ok so I opened the girl again trying to get a hang out.

Me: how is my favorite little brat?

Her: (instantly) hahaha! how am I a brat?

so I did not know where to go from here so I just said this.

Me: (5 min later) I was just flirting with you. How was texas?

she has responded and the convo continued, but I could not decided where to go from there. So I just went direct. how would you guys have done this, or did I do ok. Also is that kind of a shit test from her, just trying to call me out on making fun of her?