Warning: Mooshy post incoming.

So I've been dating this girl for about half a year now, and she is absolute dynamite, I could go on and on for hours about the things I love about her, and I know she feels the same way about me. But here's the thing, we live in different towns, a 10 hour drive so the last 5 or so months we've only seen each other for like 2 or 3 weeks total, but always had a blast when we're together.

So a week ago, the semester is over for me and I'm heading back to my hometown (where she lives). I wake up the day after I come home to a phonecall from her, saying she needs to talk about us (yikes!). I drive up to her house where she says that she just don't have the energy to put any more feelings or emotions into our relationship when we live in different places and she might move to another town or even out of the country next year (she still lives with her parents).

The thing is, this is the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with, I've never been more sure of anything in my life, and I do think she has at least, if not still, felt the same way. And for me, a couple of years in a long-distance relationship is a small price to pay to be with the girl of my dreams. I also think that I look at things a little different seeing as I don't live at home anymore, and am more of an "adult" or more mature if you will.

I am meeting her in 2 days to talk, and my plan is of course to convince her to change her mind and give this a shot, even though there is work to be done and sacrifices to be made...so I turn to you for advice on what to say, where to meet, what to do, you name it. All help is greatly appreciated, I can't bear to lose this girl!

At this point, I wouldn't say that you even know the girl enough to be "sure" that you want to spend the rest of your life with her. You barely ever see her. You think you know her, but you don't.

You can choose to convince her if you want. Who knows, you might even succeed. The thing is, long distance relationships don't work out. Like. . . ever. So if you convince her, you will only drag out the pain for a longer period and the pain of breaking up in the future will be even greater because you will be even more emotionally attached to her than you are now.

Fight for your relationship and you will get to know her better, thus be more attached. The break up will come sooner or later. Question is. . . how painful do you want it to be? I know you expected a different kind of answer. So I hate to break it to you - but life isn't a fairy tale. I'm saying this in the nicest way I know.

Good luck

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I don't really agree a long distance doesn't work. I know enough people who succeeded.

But yeah, the odds are not really in favor.... And all depends what distance we are talking about!

I love your sincerity and understand your feelings but I think your vision is quite blurry.
See,when a girl breaks up with you and you start posting questions on forums regarding how to get her back,the situation pretty much speaks for itself. Here it is buddy :
what to say : Are you sure you wanna break up with me ? Have you thought about it really well ?Fine then goodbye
where to meet : some place where you have buisness afterwards,at your place,so on...
what to do : understand you want to change her mind by begging,if you succed(low chances),this relationship goes even more deep in the mud
you love her,would you split up with her ?ofc not.but she splits up with you. see,the feelings are not quite the same.Guess what ?this relationship is already unbalanced,this relationship is already unhealthy.
You are not to blame,you are sincere in all this.But there is a difference between being sincere and letting people walk on you.
On the other hand you cannot accept her for who she is.I had practiced martial arts for 5 years,yet I thought there was a better club in town.I told my master I'm gonna join there,and 6 months later I came back to him,realizing that club isn't suited for me.When I came back I was also more wise,more "picky" should I say.What if my master told me " go fuck yourself,you're comming here for 5 years,now you wanna leave ?" or "please stay,we can't handle without you".Because this is what you're doing on a smaler scale.
Why would you want to beg ? Beggers got nothing to offer in exchange.If you go begging she will percieve you as one.If she thinks you are worth it she will come to you,no worry.
Hope I at least shook your reality a little bit.Think about it

coming from a state of desire plus distance. Its burning you up bc you don't want to lose her. Why not agree the long distance thing isnt working and make it easier to get back together at a later date. Just fade back and find a way to keep in touch if you know that a few years from now you may live in closer proximity.

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