Basicly qualification is open ended questions, if you are asking questions and she is responding by telling you about her self she is qualifying herself so don't think to much about the term qualification think more in terms of getting to know the other person, the only thing to look out for is if she is responding to you questions, the more she responds and the bigger her answers are the better


For her responding your reward is showing interest in what she says in a positive way


For her not responding first you want to try to work round it and ask a few more questions but if not just leave, your punishment is cutting of communication, fuck her she doesn't get the prize, and if shes in a group talk to one of the more open people if you get a chance but leave her out of the fun, don't be gay about it and give her dirty looks just act like shes not there but if she tries to join in and talk to you, let her and be friendly because if you don't you're have punished her trying to invest and that makes you the dick.


Remember with my last few posts, this has to be all experience yourself to get your conversational calibration down, you have to learn through real experiences what topics people respond to, take what I have writen and figure it out for yourself.

Found this video (its AFC Adam) I think its the best explanation of punishment and reward I've heard to date

Its around 4mins30secs

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=akoG1Ixw ... re=related

Punishment and Reward E.g. (Credit AFC Adam for this knowledge)

1.

You - Tell me three interesting things about yourself
Her - I can only think of one (and she tell you)
(at this point some guys would think wtf she didnt answer what I asked and neg her or whatever, this is very bad because you have punished her investment! instead reward her with an afirmation and interest)
You - Ah cool, blah blah so how do you...

2.

You - Tell me three interesting things about yourself
Her - No
You - (you look at her like kinda disgusted/dissapointed) really? < Punishment
Now ask a smaller question with a bit of a compliment - come on your friends look like real out going people you guys are bound to have some mad adventure to a crazy club or something planned for next weekend or something...

Hope this post clears it up in terms of conversation calibration and has made it easier