Hello,

Girlfriend, couple of months, but lately i feel like i'm wussy'ing out more, starting to care for her more, and not wanting to lose her, getting more reactive, something i didn't have in the beginning of the relationship, now, i know somewhere this can't be a bad thing...

but the problem is, i'm getting more clingy, needy with that mentallity, which i HATE myself...

now, my question, anyone has experienced this? Tips or mindset to deal with it?

i read http://roissy.wordpress.com/2008/03/27/dread/ given to me by NoQQMoarPewPew, which has some good tips in it, any more like that are appreciated, thanks for time!

If you follow the tips in the thread you linked you will ruin your relationship.

But sure you must be joking.

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This is the source of your problem.Stop judging yourself at all.You're only just human.
Read tips to improve,read whatever shit you want,but while you're not "improved" you don't have to hate yourself till you reach the evolution you want.

Try to understand and adopt the attitude that if you do lose her, it wouldn't be the end of the world and you will be fine. When you feel like you would be devistated if you lost her is a quick way to actually lose the girl. Take it a step further and learn to believe that if she left you it would be a good thing because she was not on your team and now you have the opportunity to meet an even better more attractive girl.

This take some work but girls like to be around a guy who has options, if she gets the feeling that she is the best thing that ever happend to her she will lose attraction for you.

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A good thing I did to help me when I was last infatued with a girl (oneitis)

I took a journal, and I wrote my feelings down, how I felt about this girl.

It read something like this :

I'm afraid I'll never like a girl this much again in my life, I think she's the woman of my dreams, she's perfect, I like everything about her and I wouldn't want to be with anyone else.


I read that from time to time when I feel a oneitis coming back and remember how I felt, and how I feel today, and laugh.

You need to remember that love is a chemical reaction in your brain. You learn to deal with that.

i read a tip on here to do when you are starting to get onitis. Picture her getting gang banged.......and enjoying it. Lol that always seemed to take her down a notch or two.

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lol, that one works for sure!

Ok, thank you, seems logical, it's a bit of a scarcity mixed with fear i guess, more girls will probably, like in ur case, help me over it, thanks for advice

spend less time together and be less available

for what its worth brother, I am on the tail end of who you are becoming. It doesn't look good from here and wish i would have been more proactive versus reactive when i was in the same space you are now.
The truth is she will leave. Congratulations on seeing the problem.
My advice is to become more unavailable but not altogether.

You are about to jump into the nice safe guy zone if you continue down this path.
There is no reason to hate on yourself.
Yeah, you need to stop caring so much.

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This.

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At least you noticed your Oneitis in it's early stages. Most people don't realize they have it till they get dumped.

Talk to other women, it helps you realize that there are other girls out there. It is essential that you realize that your girlfriend is interchangeable with a thousand other girls, some of whom will make you even happier. Never let yourself believe that she is the only one who can make you happy, that's how Oneitis begins its mind-warping effect.

Regression back into AFC mode happens because none of the stuff you learned has been internalized. It's one thing to mimic Alpha concepts to come off as attractive to a girl, it's a whole different level to truly adopt an Alpha mentality.

It helps me greatly to realize that your insecurities are self-fulling prophecies. If you are insecure that your girlfriend does not like you, you will act needier, which in turn will make her like you less. Do not act on your insecurities, they are irrational. Your fears will manifest themselves into reality if you let them get the better of you.

Focus on other parts of your life, never make women a priority. Be busy stealing cars or gunning down your enemies, you shouldn't have time to worry about how much attention your girlfriend is giving you.

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Will try! Thanks, good advice!

Try to relax, nothing is gonna happen if you do nothing wrong man.

Follow the advices of the forum, you will see.

For example, don't call her as much as before, spend less time with her, show less affection ... She will feel that, ask you why you're changing like that, and show you more interest !