I'm getting closer to 30 everyday, I've had a couple of serious relationships when I was in my early 20s, but after the last one broke down I just hit the bars hard and have been successful. My friends are constantly making fun of how I'm with a different girl everynight. But it's got to the point that this is all I can do, I find attractive girls, bed them then get bored of them. I can never seem to find that spark anymore (save one or two girls in the last year but it fizzled out quickly). Is there anyway to go back to being normal or am I forever doomed to one night stands?

To some people your situation (being with a different girl every night) would be their dream. However, I have thought about the long term effect of being with a different girl every night, and your situation is what played out as the outcome. Wish I had an answer for you man but short of intervention from up above, I can't think of anything. I too would be interested to see if anyone out there that is living the dream is experiencing this and if so, what they are doing about it.

I think that most guys say that they would love to be in your situation but when you get there i think most find out its not really as fufilling as they think. Maybe just have higher standards about who you get involved with. I dont mean looks wise i just mean girls that have that extra something that you could see would have relationship potential.

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Are you hitting on younger woman?

If yes, reshift your focus to really mature ones, and be picky.

Also this: the feeling of love and care only comes after time. If you boot them before you can even START to have those feelings, you are in a vicious circle mate.

If i were you, i would write a list of the pros and cons of a one night stand, and then write a list of the pros and cons of being in a relationship...Which one do you see yourself in?

Relationships when your under 30 are super duper over-rated. People need to learn to be sexually independent to get the true message of being in a serious relationship. If i went steady with a girl when I knew right off the top of my head 5 other chicks I wanted to bang, then it's not gonna work out.

I have met a few girls that I honestly considered settling down for, but putting that label on it and the pressure of constantly keeping in contact and playing that "boyfriend" role killed it. Im perfectly happy to be friends with any girl, not even for the pussy. If you can maintain that line between friend and fuck friend with all kinds of girls, I dont see why clinging to one is anymore fulfilling than that.

Im of course speaking about younger people. It's perfectly fine to settle down and stick to a compatible person after you've partied enough and screwed enough, thats what a relationship (should be). If I made a pros and cons list about a relationship, I can...MAYBE put two down there depending on the girl. One being regular sex (And even then that's iffy).

Cheers for all the words guys, I've done my New Years resolution and I am no longer sleeping with women until the third date, that at least gives me time to learn their name and see if there could be something there, instead of giving them breakfast and a taxi number in the morning.

You're nicer than I am lol

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~Carmo~

Same Problem.
I've been hitting the clubs with my game, for the past few months now, and to say the least. I'm getting even better, and better. I've slept with a lot of women now, and I recently found one that has changed my whole thinking; a shy rocker chick, that is from the Middle East. She is absolutely gorgeous, and she is a.. very good girl, I've been on five dates with her, and I'm starting to question myself, she wants to wait for a long time before sex. Which is a part of a relationship, (She says Marriage, for sex.) But I know over time what i've learned with the Community will open her up. It's just a matter of making it her fantasy.

I don't know what to do, and I'm stuck between settling with this girl, or continuing my game, or leaving it. I'm stuck in a cross roads, between choosing a Good Girl, or continuing my gaming every night. A pivotal moment.

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"He is in command of my actions and seems to
be the leader of the men." -The Secret Garden, Women Sexual Fantasies.

"“The best way to get the person you want is to not be afraid to lose them” ~Neil Strauss

Yeah I like to not be a total bastard as sometimes you meet them out and about again and it totally fucks it for hitting on other chicks if a previous evening friend tells them how much of a dick you are. Although this has worked in my favour once as I had already told them I was a cunt, so they told her I had warned them already but they'd take their chance. Foolish mortals.