I have always been a bit shy, well alot shy at times. When i find myself in a grup situaltion, like a dance club, all i do is sit down like a AFC. Somthing holds me back, even if i drink. What can i do. I know just getting out there more and more will help, but is there any other pointers??

Tell yourself that you will never see most of those people again anyway, so you might as well get out there and enjoy it. Get up and dance, even if you're not that good. Just by getting involved you're doing more than half of the guys in there, which already puts you in a better light than them.

Just do it. No other simpler answer than that. I can spout out all the bullshit in the world to you about how to do things, but the straight answer is, go for it.

Approach, open, stack your routine, close if possible but always try to leave with a DHV, move on. REPEAT!

Striker i have social anxeity too, i mean the kinda were i should be on meds. I have gotten 2 forms of advice that i need to work on and that i think could help both of us.

Both are exercises, they put you in 100% chance to fail scenarios.

1) Goto any store/reteraunt/shop and ask for something far from what they would have

ex: Goto a salon or tanning place and goto the counter confidently and say "Hi, I would like to order a pepperoni pizza." say this with a smile and good posture etc. If they say something like "huh?" or "what?" ask again, if they say "We dont have that here." or some other version of this that implies they dont serve pizza say something like "Well ok, have a nice day then." and turn around and walk out. Maintain your confident smile and good posture, keep your voice confident.

do not say sorry, its not your fault they do not serve pizza!

2) Walk upto women (preferably one that intimidates you, but anyone will do) and say "Hi! I'm Marvin Martian. What's your favorite flavor of bowling ball?"

same as before do it with confidence, dunt do it like its a joke, say it slowly like u mean it, maintain your alpha smile and posture and voice. this is Ross Jeffires exercise to get over aproach anxeity.


I have yet to try them but i will try to get to it and let you know if it helps. i went to AC this last weekend and completely froze on opening groups i need to get over it.

OMG, no wonder people say Ross Jeffries is full of shit.

There could be an occasional girl that might be interested in a guy that did the first example, but I submit that once you do that, every girl in the salon or tanning place would imprint your face into their minds and make a note to never go out with you, lol.

For the second one . . . again, a girl could find you funny, or more likely weird, and the occasional one may be interested in your "quirky" personality, but I again say that you'd more than likely get the same results as the first one.

As far as I'm concerned, these two methods would make approach anxiety worse, because of how I would think they would leave the approacher feeling. Man, just open your mouth and talk. Move your body, open your mouth, crash and burn several times, and after that you'll realize that crashing and burning isn't the end of the world. We've ALL done it.