So I'm a good-looking bloke yet hopeless with women... Recently I've told a few girls this and the response has been pretty good! It disarms the defensiveness they have with good-looking guys, as they often think the guy's just a player. I think they see it as cute, and it makes them feel special because they feel like the guy had to work up a lot of courage to come talk to them. And the best part is, it's true so I don't have to act like someone I'm not.

Discuss.

I've done this before, not to random woman though. Normally, yes, it does get a good reaction and disarms them immediately, but you will almost never hook up with the girl you told this to. They treat you like a little brother and are not afraid of being more sexual around you because they know (or will think) it intimidates you.

I told these 2 girls who I was somewhat friends to that I was a virgin and had massive sexual anxiety. Surprisingly, they didn't care too much. However, they did become more flirty with me and treated me like I was no threat at all. So I guess it could work in your benefit if you're trying to score with her friends.

I remember I was at a rave and one of the girls were talking to me, being very touchy and kissing me on the cheek, and her boyfriend asked, "Who's that guy you're crushing on?" and she just said, "Oh Dither? He's such a cutie." and that was the end of it; I was no threat to him so I guess he saw no reason to come and over and stop the interaction.

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I think this tactic accomplishes two things:
1. disarms them (good)
2. buys you a hustle-free all-expenses-paid ticket to a friends zone (umm...yea)
Dither is right, use this with caution

Al

I think the principle of this this would work well as truth or a tactic but maybe by adding something to keep attraction. Maybe if you say something along the lines of "I'm rubbishg with women so its up to you to chat me up" You would be telling the truth while being playful about it. I personally love playing about with my weaknesses, if you say it with enough charm it conveys that you live a care free life which is good.

AG

Imagine if the pilot of the plane you were riding in got on the loudspeaker and said, "I`m not too good at flying planes". Would that really disarm you and put you at ease? I didn`t think so. You don`t need to tell women you don`t know how to deal with them. She will figure it out.

I don't think you can compare the two... It's not exactly the same as putting your life into someone else's hands.

If your goal is to have sex with or date the girl, it's a terrible idea.

HI I SUCK AT SEX

omg so hot.

Frist, Bad with women
Second, want to use that quality to attract women

Your mentality and learning capabilities are getting screwed man.

How about, "I used to be bad with women"

This can do two things: allow you to NOT accept yourself as a person who is bad with women and you can use this in an interaction that can build some attraction.

Here is an idea I had when I read this

Joker84: "You know it might be really hard to believe, but I used to be bad with women"

HB: "Oh yeah?"

Joker84: "yeah but I've figured it all out and it's so simple now it's like I don't even have to try any more, and I owe it all to one thing. you know what it is"

HB: "No what?!"

Joker84: "When a girl gives me "the look" I know I can kiss her in less than five minutes"

HB: "so what's the look?"

Joker84: "I'd tell you but I want you to be your kiss to be a surprise:P"


You obviously need to be bold here. So bold that she'll come in to your world. The point is, you can still embrace your flaws and leverage them to become better.

Hope this helps man!

maybe not, but you will get the same result in both situations. she wont be "getting onboard", so to speak. lol