Attraction is not a choice. If you are being attractive, she will want to talk to you, so you don't need awesome contacts, money etc. And if you're not being attractive, none of that would matter. If she's not attracted to you - she's not your type, or having a bad day, or you're doing something wrong. So don't be annoyed with them, it's not their fault. And never get them to try and explain it.

Put yourself in situations you know are "good" - talking to people, being funny, dancing, etc. What you're looking for is a state of mind. Because if you're thinking about all the things that are right & wrong etc, you're putting your mind in a paranoid, defensive state, taking your mind away from the state where it can react to things in the moment.

For situations where it's not possible to track all the logical facts, the right brain is for making decisions through “experience” and give you “gut feelings” about what to do next. It’s scientifically proven that we use our right brain to drive a car, not our logical left brain like you might think.

If you experiment enough and also observe other successful people, you’ll soon find there’s no rules of when or where to do anything, just basic concepts about mental state. Eg. Talking to random people is good. Sometimes this isn't appropriate, sometimes it is, but it has more to do with how you do it, which is dependent on mental state. The only thing you know for sure is talking to people is the how most things happen, so you can be sure if you don't, nothing will happen.

Other things that are generally good - staying positive, being masculine, confident, taking the lead where there's no obvious choice, aiming to end the conversation first, etc. Not always true but good guidelines.

Focus more on enabling possibilities, not disabling them. Be more open, not more restrictive, and look at learning how to flow with the outcome of your actions, not just preventing them all the time. Often when you do something that turns out odd, this is how you lead to funny situations, or show how well you deal with awkward situations which ends up giving you a chance to show a good part of yourself where there wasn't a chance before.

And so when you force yourself to do certain things, you find it’s possible to cut into that state of mind eventually, by force, and eventually it gets easier and easier to get into that state of mind. Also you'll find, without keeping in regular practice, you'll forget what it's like and it'll be harder again, but quicker to get back in practice.

Everyone has certain amounts of limiting negative beliefs about themselves. It doesn’t mean ignoring them, because you can’t. When you go to talk to someone, these feelings will show through in your body language, tone, and choice of words. So you have to address these things and make them not true. If you have trouble talking to girls - talk to random girls at the bus stop or whatever. If you're fat, start exercising regularly. If you think you look bad - look into personal grooming. Two things will happen; you’ll convince you’re self this is not a problem, and you’ll actually get better at it too.

Everything is like physical exercise - learning how to get into that mental state, and getting good at detecting what to do next, is always improved and maintained by constant activity. This is not a stressful situation, just being aware that any situation in life is an opportunity to improve yourself. You'd be surprised how many situations you could make more of if you weren't walking around with your head down. Just remember that you can ALWAYS find reasons NOT to do something...

And part of this is reading/watching other dating material. Remember that people talk about “actions” they’ve done that worked, but the important thing is the state of mind that caused that action. Most of the time those actions are completely useless to you, only sometimes a certain phrase or action might be useful to you. But you should be absorbing it all to get a “feel” for the kind of thing you’re trying to achieve, and that will help you find the right mindset. Certainly hold onto certain ideas you might see that sound interesting, and try them out - none of them will be the “holy grail” but going through this process is just another way to learn from experience.

With women, it’s all about “sieze the day”. All this training you’re putting yourself through, it’s fine if things happen randomly from nothing by talking on a bus etc, but the real moments you are training for are those key moments where everything goes right situationally - eg. imagine being lost and running into a girl who’s also lost and looking for the same location, and she’s just another person at the beginning, but then you sort of end up hanging around together and enjoying this great day together. Or you just run into a stunning girl through the course of your daily routine and she seems to also be really keen on you, judging by her body language - it’s those moments that all the training will pay off, and you will feel your way through and do the right thing, and not screw up a perfect situation!
And seize the day applies to the relationship itself - like the point where she needs to feel cared for, or after you’re boyfriend and girlfriend and for some reason there’s this moment where she’s crazily full of lust for you, or there is just a really good opportunity for something you want to do and it’ll probably surprise her by you being spontaneous (this could be some romantic thing or some sexual thing) - you can’t cause any of these special moments; your experience will help you spot them, and then also help you make the most of them.