hey guys i am a freshman in college and have been tryin to get with this one girl for a couple weeks now. i first met her at a bar. i was at the bar ordering a drink and she came tapped me and said "oh nevermind." (she thought i was her friend at the time who was wearing a similar shirt) i sat down with some friends of mine and saw her again. we had eye contact and she says to me "i keep thinking your my boyfriend you look exactly like him" i said "oh yeah your boyfriend huh" and she replied "well actually hes not really my boyfriend." he was standing close to us and she introduced me to him. later on in the night she came up and asked me if i had a cigarette. i pulled one out and said she could cut it with me. we were smoking it when she said hold on ill be right back with my cigarrette in her hand. she walked away and never came back. i continued to drink and socialize with friends when i saw her walking towards us. we had eye contact again and she turned right around.
this was the end of that night. the next week i went out with a friend of mine who knew her. we took the bus downtown and when we got off the bus i saw her. i was feelin pretty drunk at the time and went up to her and said "i remember you, you were the girl who stole my cigarrette in the bar last week and never came back." she said "whatt i dont remember that, i was so shitfaced last week." i continued to try to display some value by being uninterested saying "yeah yeah whatever" we walked for a little bit and one of her friends said something to me which i thought was her being rude. i said to the girl i was trying to get with, "i dont think your friend likes me" and she replied and said to her friend "why dont you like him i think hes funny!" turned out her friend didnt say anything bad to me and i just misunderstood it. anyway we continued walking for a bit and i made conversation with her. she was laughing with me for a little while but did not show too much interest. we got to the club and she said "i cant believe i was rude to you last week" dont remember too much of what i said but that was about it.
two days after this i saw her at a house party. she came up to me and gave me a hug. after that i dont think we talked much or at all. my question to you guys is what should i say to this girl. we make small conversation when i see her but i never know how to take the next step and sit down with her and hopefully number close. i am also confused as to why she showed interest at first at the bar and than later in the night ignored me and ran off? if you guys could help me with midgame and keeping a conversation going and how to isolate her i would appreciate it.

Wow,3 encounters with this girl which went no where.

3 chances to build something to even f-closing her,went down the toilet.

Now you're mentally scrambling for possible # close.

You had 3 shots at # closing.

Your key mistake was not holding nor capturing her attention.

Why not?

You had no routine,no gambit,no attraction material.

It's your job to attract her.

Small talk about nothing wont attract her.

You should have grabbed this girl's attention with a routine(canned or not),then worked from there.

If there's a next time,you now know what to do-an attraction routine to open her with.

Whe you'd seen her the time where you said,"the girl who stole my cigarette".

That was a good opener(like call-back humor),but you failed to transition into another routine.

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this is what troubles me. i dont know what routines to run since i already screwed up the first 3 times. its beyond the poiint of just asking what her name is and finding out basic information. if you could hook me up with a routine man i would more than appreciate it. this girl is slammin, and i know if i just put in that little bit of effort i could have a chance

There are so many routines out there(canned),IDK where to start.

But this one,I made up yesterday.

It's based on a classic routine,but I dont remember the PUA who originated it.

This' based on me gaming a 2 set or a group,but yo can modify it for a lone-wolf.

Me:"Hey guys,I have a quick problem and I need some female advise here.
Who's the smartest one[neg]"?

HB's:[They should debate and laugh].

Me:"Anyway,would it be ok to date my best friend's ex-"?

HB's:[They should debate over the interesting topic].

Me:"OK,real qick[False Time Constraint],the other night,my best friend had a get-together.His ex- stopped by unexpectedly like she wanted to crash the party!
She drank a bit too much then started literally fucking hitting on me !
Even telling me she wanted me to lay her!
I mean guys,would that be ok to lay my best-friend' ex-"?

The beauty of that opener(which can be used as a 2nd.or 3rd routine)is that it's contraversial.

Women love topics like those[it's chic crack].

But the key here to delivering this routine,or any other,is body language,congrunecy & tonality.

You can modify it,lenghen it(for anticipation),shorten,etc.

I've never field tested this routine(my own)but I just know it will work(for me).

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alright man im gonna give this a go when i get back to school. the problem i have os just transitioning from the opener to midgame. ill let you know how it goes. you were very helpful, thanks

alright man im gonna give this a go when i get back to school. the problem i have os just transitioning from the opener to midgame. ill let you know how it goes. you were very helpful, thanks