Right, well in my opinion, she probably has some form of liking towards you, but if she's still going out with her bf, I'd stay away, and giver her the cold shoulder. Are you a mug? Ask yourself that (I'm not calling you one), imagine she keeps being nicem then drops you, how you going to feel?

I wouldn't have even called her back, if it was important she'd try again. She's attention seeking. If she isn't happy with her BF, she needs to call it a day, and I would even say this if I were in your shoes, but I wouldn't say" End it if you want to be with me"

I'd just say "If your not happy, call your relationship a day"

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imagine how you will feel in 5 years when you have a kid together and you catch her "watching a movie" with a guy you have never seen before.....because she is bored with you. If you have a good game and can keep her interested and intertained for years or just want to go along for the ride (and risk it)... go for it. One of the girls I am seeing now is very "social" and has guys falling all over her, I have to keep telling myself "I knew this at the start, don't expect her to change because I don't want her to expect me to". Don't think just because you are willing to change she is.

A footnote, without risk, well, life stays the same and is boreing.

I feel silly for bringing this back up since I should've followed everyone's advice and just leave it at that but still.


This situation is still running wild, I met the girls a few more times after my last reply and things always go the same, lots of touching, no kissing, no nothing.

After a date last week, I was fucking pissed off at the whole situation and basically told her that I had to move on and didn't want her to call or text me again.

I tried to stick with this but next thing I know she wouldn't let me go and kept texting me. The next day she asked what I was doing, told her I was going to this club with friends and she replied ''same''..

So I saw her at the club, she came and said hi and left, and then texted me saying she ''missed me so much'' and ''all she wanted to do was to kiss me'', when she came back over I put the cellphone with her text on it in her face to see her reaction, she kinda giggled and said she thought she deleted that.. That was that..

on the 23rd she came over to my place, we watched christmas movies and wrapped presents together..There was alot of cuddling, at some point I was lying on my stomach and she was lying on top of me, kissing my neck.

She called me yesterday after her work wishing merry christmas, saying all will be well tonight and I will have a fun night..Somehow I could tell she was projecting that on me and I think she was subconsciously talking about herself..I had a shitty christmas thinking about her all the time and wishing she was with me...Kinda hard when you're the only person in the party who's single that night haha.


I'm thinking at this point I should do a freezeout, I think she won't change anything to this situation as long as I accept it. She basically have two boyfriends and I don't think she really minds.

I'm thinking just not answering to calls text for a while and see how this goes.
It's a make or brake situation.

This needs to change for the best or for the worse, but it needs to change.

If she's been saying and doing the things you just said, grab her, kiss her, I would have, what is there to lose? Fuck it man!

On the other hand, if she's back to playing games, just freeze out, ignore her calls/texts, a few times or a few days. See what happens. You need to sort yourself out man, or you'll be in the same situation playing her games time and time again, she needs to learn her lesson, before you become even more a pet to her.

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I know man, she just sends mixed signals.

She says she's not ready..At the club I was patting her back and she said stop touching me like that and blabla..She said she liked the fact that there was no awkward moment like me trying to kiss her..I just didn't want to risk kissing her if I wasn't 100% sure she'd let me kiss her. Never had a girl reject me from kissing her and wouldn't want that to happen in a club full of friends haha.

She's probably saying that because she doesn't want to be responsible for the kiss..

But still, I felt like if I kissed her while she's still with her boyfriend it wouldn't make me feel to good.


I'm so fucking insecure right now, I'm flipping off because she hasn't called or texted today..It's been 2 months since we've never spent a day without talking to eachother..

Last thing I know she left my house two days ago and called me while she was driving back home because she couldn't stop thinking about me..But somehow my paranoid/afc mind thinks I ruined everything. There's nothing to ruin hahaha.

It's been a day and I think she's genuinely worried already..

I didn't answer her text yesterday, she texted again this morning very early and she called a few minutes ago from her job, she left a message saying she was thinking about me and worried, and she'd try to call later..That if I needed her I could call at her job.

Is a freeze-out a good idea ??

Listen son, this chick is playing tricks with your mind, u are already in paranoia love with her, u so much believe she dig's and want u, well, don't be surprise she could be doing the same to her other victims. Now, ask yourself this one question, is this what u really want? and trouble u want to go thru to be with this girl?

So to answer your question, yes, freeze her completely out, let her come get u if she really want to turn her boredom life around. period.

over and out.

She is thinking of you, seems now she is worried that she may have fucked up. Answer her next call, use some BS excuse like women do, you've been busy, phone was left at home etc.

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Thanks..

This is such a weird situation for me.

I answered her call today, told her I left my phone at home and blabla..She said she missed me very much because it's been 4 days we haven't seen each other..She asked me to hang out with her tommorow.

I don't know what to do. Haha.

Go, but you decided where and when, make out you already have some plans.

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I was planning to do that and made a nice outline for a cool day date.

Funny fact : She called saying that she put me in her top 5 cellphone thingy so she can have unlimited texting and calling with me..Kinda nice.

She also asked if I would mind if we saw each other at night instead of day...Said she wanted to sleep in and do some laundry during the day...

I need to find something original..restaurant or movie is too cliché we've been there a few times already..

She called a few minutes ago saying she couldn't see me before 7 because she had to go at her friends family's house for supper.

I told her to forget it, that I had other plans and we could see each other another time. She just said ''Ok''.

And then she texted me this :

I know I have trouble showing it but I never put myself thru such torment for a guy I like you so much.

I'm fucking sick and tired of this..

did you kissed this girl yet? sex?

if not, ignore her completely

Let her feel this "torture" if she's telling the truth, let her understand she is fucking things up.

Think what you wish to do on your terms, go out and get laid? If so, give her a call, set up a random meet, if she flakes again, just ditch her.

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That's basically the problem..

She says she has a hard time regulating her time, that she's really bad at it but that right now she'd rather be with me than anyone else, that I'm really important.

But still..Yesterday she went to the clubs with one of her friend and her boyfriend and this morning she had breakfast with another friend..This is silly.