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women are so weird, sometimes it really isn't your problem, it's hers.
Fellas, read this statement over and over until it sinks into your soul. Guys automatically think it's something THEY did if things go south. It is never her fault. Bullsh*t.
This is why it is so important to control the frame from beginning to end. If things go bad, SHE needs to be thinking what could she have done different. Dig?
Learn how to gain the upper hand in your dealings with women.
Women's biggest disadvantage is their insecurities and constant need of attention. Learn how to manipulate these weaknesses and they will become puppets at the end of your strings.
My apologies for the rant.
Your right. One of my not so great points when a girl likes me and I like her, or when in an LTR, is, how do you manipulate their weaknesses? How do you gain that mental control. I've tried different ways, and failed more times than not.
How have you tried to gain mental control in the past? Can you give me a few examples?
I am 99.9% sure you are familiar with the tactics to keep a girl hooked. For example, being a challenge, not being needy, acting confident, and so on. The problem I see with most guys (and maybe this is where you are missing the target) is their ability to follow through with these tactics when they have strong feelings for a woman. It is easy to be cocky and funny with a girl you have little interest in, but if are hooked on HER scent, it becomes very difficult to keep your composure and do all the things to keep her attracted.
Check out this quote…
“When a guy has low IL, he does everything right” …read that a few more times. IL stands for Interest Level by the way.
Guys tend to fall hard for women when their attraction is high. They shower women with attention and start doing all the sappy stuff that kills attraction.
Girls on the other hand do a much better job keeping control. This is why women control the frame in 90% of their relationships. How do women manage to keep control? Options, they know they have options. They have guys constantly chasing them. If you don’t spark her attraction and keep the IL high, she will move on to the next guy. This gives them an incredible amount of confidence.
But here is a valuable piece of information.
It is very easy to crack a woman’s confidence. You can throw a woman’s confidence off track with a simple comment or two.
Me: hey sweetheart, where did you get that hat?
Her: why, you don’t like it?
Me: well, it’s o.k. I guess
Done, her confidence level comes down a couple of notches. It really is that simple. I used this on an HB9 a while back. She spent the rest of the evening searching for my validation. And she is married!
Men on the other hand don’t have a problem holding on to their confidence once it is set in place. Why? Because men are not swayed by what other people think and we don’t need validation to feel good about ourselves. Women are the complete opposite, and this makes them weak.
Thanks for the response. I'll be honest, my PUA game is good, getting the girl etc, but maintaining can be a problem, I've tried to gain control by: bringing her confidence up, making her have good times, negs now and then in a cocky funny way, freezeouts, hard to remember the exact ins and outs.
I know when a guy has low IL, the girl wants the guy more, because he is a challenge for her, right? She wants to win him over, she's assuming he has other interest, that's why his IL isn't high.
For example now, A girl I've known for year or so who lives away from me (near my family, I'm moving there soon):
She came out of a bad relationship about 6 months ago, has a heart of gold, I give her high interest, because I feel she deserves it, and I treat her well. I never saw her as a potential GF, as I had one at the time, and I didn't know I was moving near her.
We get on well, speak so much everyday, if any disagreements happen, I put my point across, but don't take everything so serious. I'm seeing her next week, because I see her as great GF material, and she's a HB9! How would you maintain this, what's the best way? Keep being how I am, nice, funny, caring etc, but also go quiet from time to time, I'm so unsure, I want to avoid fucking this up, because she's nice, and to learn, and break past this, as maintaining has been a barrier in the past.
She's said she's falling for me, I do care about her, but I don't love her, been there, done it with one itis's. So now, I want her there and for her feelings to remain the same. So advice here, would be appreciated.
Thanks
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