OK I seem to have a lot of problems keeping relationships with the girls i have sex with. Tends to be the problem that if I like them I always show too much affection and never see them again. So I had this idea for a kind of routine where shortly after having sex i tell her that MAYBE it was a mistake and i shouldnt have done this because i was KIND OF, seeing someone else. Say shes not my girlfriend but we've been hanging out a lot and kind I kind of like her but now Im confused...

Im pretty sure that if i did this we would definitely end up continuing to have sex anyway and i would act reluctant to play hard to get, give her the fear of loss. Then in the end when the time was right I choose her over the other girl.

Any opinions on this? Would it work? anything else I can add or adjust before I try this out soon.

Since I dont know anything about how confident you and calm you are before, during and after having sex with 'the girl' its hard to give you a good advice on what to do.

But I'll try.

From my own experience you have the chance to create something more solid by using diffrent methods if we're to call what Im doing I'd call it "The playful method".

So what do I mean by saying 'playful'?
Well, its all about making the sex part something you both are cool with, something you enjoy, something that is natural. I think thats the way to go.

Example:
2 Weeks ago I met this girl at night club. Yada yada yada...
We are having fun and she comes with me home.

The next day I wake up and she is in my bed. I remember we had a good time and when she wakes up we start talking bla bla bla.
Im like laughing and telling her she's smooking hot and I am to rate or drunken sex act it a definte 7/10... she punches my shoulder says its not fare...

The point is: we had sex, its no biggie, we can talk to each other the next day, even though Im 100% complete souber I can still be the cute guy she met the day before.

I give her my number, before she leaves Im like: " 7/10 is definetly worth a High-five..."
She laughs, kisses me, leaves...

Later that night she texts: "Your 10/10 "

And then its done.
Its playful and nothing I say or do can go wrong.
She came over 3 days ago after I texted her: "Wanne make out and watch a movie as an excuse for having awsome sex?"

If you can find the playfull way of behaving things doesnt have to be that serious, and the girl will keep feeling attracted since your a calm, interesting, non-needy guy.

I hope this, in someway, can help you.

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I drank some wine, I saw her, I conquered

Thx, thats actually a really good routine. Will try it out. Any thoughts on mine though? Just dont bother with it??

If you can keep a playful, relaxed frame - having sex with her is just natural and there is no need for 'games'.

I think you just need to feel like its a not big deal, if your start making a big deal out of by saying "maybe we shouldnt have done this" that will probably make her a bit more insecure and you seem like your a man who doesnt know what he wants.

Making a girl insecure by implying you are seeing other girls could be something you need if she's about to put you in FriendZone.

Overall, if you wanne be honest with her about not dating exclusive you should just be honest, not make a big deal of it. If you show any weakness or hesitation while saying it she'll understand you have a hidden agenda- and from my experience they wount like it.

Girls arent - contrary to belief - stupid.
They just have bad luck while thinking...

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Vino, vedi, vici.
I drank some wine, I saw her, I conquered

Haha, love the quote at the end.

Hmm, I just feel like in my relationships, or "situations", when ever I am into any girl she runs a mile, and when Im not she chases me a mile. I want to control this but always bugger it up somehow.

Just chill, and everything will work it self out.

Dispite what many guys on this forum thinks, simply telling someone you 'like' them isnt a bad thing.
As long as your not being needy.

I think this guy sums it up pretty good:

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Vino, vedi, vici.
I drank some wine, I saw her, I conquered