Ka, man cool down. There has been a big uprising about all the new people coming in and I guess you hit a nerve don't take it personally. Have you tried searching and reading old post on this?
Here is a website that gives you a good outline of the M3 model:
http://www.freewebs.com/xfman/outergame.htm
This forum is a place to exchange knowledge but it is not to just ask general questions all the time, but more of here is what I tired and how can I improve it thin". Props on planting it in the newbie questions though.
The best way to learn the flow is to, like the previous post said, go out and crash and burn comeback analyze what you did wrong go back out work on it then move on to the next step. Practice everywhere all the time. Good luck.
-Envy