Up & down saga continues for me but over the past week,I've regained control of my LTR.

Just had a minor argument with my MILF gf.

Those familiar with my post would've known that weeks ago,she got mad at me- even wanted to break up because I didnt want her to hang out with her drunk friends.

I violated 1 of the fundamental codes of the community,not to give up your social life(or friends)for any woman.

Since we've been together(2 years),I all but abandonned my guy friends,stopped haging with them,etc.

Over the past 2 weeks,I made a conscious effort to reconnect with old buddies and start partying and hang again.

Gf doesnt like the idea,despite she still hangs and partys with her girls-even put them before me at times.

So tonight,I told her I'll be hanging out with my buddie more often from now on.

She threw a fit,hung up,called back asking me if I mean that and she doesnt want that.

So I basically said,am I not supposed to have friends?

Guys,how do I get this point across.

I know there's a balance to follow.

So I cant be hanging with friends 5 nights per week.

But I at least want to do it every (other)weekend.

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Come on Hobbit;a little slack bro.

Besides breking up,any other avenue you would take?

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lol u dont have to break up with her man. Alot of girls are like this. There is nothing unusual about your girl. What you need to do is ignore her moaning. She a human being unless shes mentally retarded, she'll understand that u need friends in your life. Shes just testing you man to see how much she can control of you.

Rememba that an attractive man, is one that cannot be controlled. Go out with your friends, if she texts u something crazy or keeps calling, ignore her, and when you see her next, act like everything is normal. smile and cuddle her.

if your scared she'll dump u, dont be coz she sure as hell wont. be a man and do as u please, this is what a man should do, and its what she'll uncontrolably be attracted to. she'll be chasing u day after day. rememba, be a man and dont let her control you.

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i went through this shit with my last ex .

the bet thing you can do is make plans with your friends and gf and stick by them. if you and your mates are partying on wednesday and she phones you up on tuesday saying she wants to go for a meal just say youve got plans and that she should respet that .

this also goes the other way . dont cancel on her for your bros.

if that fails i say dump the bitch . theres plenty more milfs out there

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Fuck man I would not tolerate this. This is the start of her trying to control you more and more. Get in a fight with her. Believe it or not fights solve things. Don't just yell and refuse to listen to her though, make it a productive fight. Tell her how it makes you feel that she still has girlfriends but she doesn't want you to have buddies. Maybe you can come to an arrangement, instead of going out with them you can bring them over for a bbq or something.

Sounds to me like she's got the classical women's thinking "he's getting bored of me so he wants to hang with his buddies and fuck around". The fact that you're two years in doesn't help, between the 1 and 3 year mark is where most of the problems start to surface.

Salut!

Don't be her puppy. It's not the situation when she tests you how much power will you give her - she has already gotten the power and now is afraid to lose it. It's her emotional nature, not logical. She's not afraid of you banging drunk chicks. Rickless1 is right with "he's getting bored of me" thing, however it's not the possibility of SNL that she is scared of, she takes it personally as an attack on her. Just another shit test. Be calm and say you are going out tonight no matter what she says. If she panics "Me or them", say "I won't play these silly games". Style said that an ultimatum is a voice of helplessness.

Salut!

Surielx.

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k-loc

i've read all your posts about your story


and i think too you really should stop this story. Break up. She's not worth you. You know it TOO.

I know it's hard though.

@Hobbit-I value your insights like a friggin' wizzard(lol).

@Naughty Pencil-Lol,I dont know I could've mised this possibly being a test of control.

Great point,and I think the best bet is to ignore her moanings.

As with everything,it's a power struggle,and she's had about 90% of control in this LTR because I became a pussy and allowed that.

Chasing is what she's doing right now,and this' what I want for now.

Im tired of friggin chasing.

Good points Naughty Pencil.

@Smooth99-another great point.

I even mentioned this that it wont be cool for me to
give all attention to my buddies and neglect her.

Neither cool to give her all attention and neglect my bros',which is what I'd done.

So it's a balance here;much alpha thanks Smooth99.

@Riskless1-Wow,more valuable points.

She is trying to regain total control,which she had.

I definitely agree with you on fights(disagreements)being a good thing where we can get issues out.

It's so ironic how just 2 weeks ago,I was the bitch in this LTR,whinning that she ditches me for her girls.

She broke up with me about a week and a half ago,I went doing my own thing,we resolved our probs',we're back together and Im now in control and it's killing her.

Surielx-Lol,you're 100% right bro';she had the control prior and she's throwing a fit now that she's looing it because Im regaining dominance.

Wow,great insight about she not being so much afraid of me having SNL,but an attack on her.

I doubt she's gonna give ultimatems.

But I can forsee her being upset at me and giving the silent SPAM for 2 days(lol).

But basically Surielx,you're saying to play it cool.

I surprised myself and played it so cool that she hung up and called back.

She's used to me calling her bacc whinning.

Salut Surielx!

@Apocalyptica-Thanks for following my posts;I follow yours too.

But this case isnt a cause for break up.

Im now regaining myself & control in this LTR which I didnt have prior(control).

I believe a man should lead.

Im now leading and she's pissed about it(for now).

So this' no cause for breaking up.

It's cause for me to celebrate(lol)!

Anyway,good advise guys;Im loving it.

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you know, 1 thing:

the more posts from you here, the more trouble you are in to. the more downwards this stuff is going.

Deep inside, you realize the best thing you can do is reconsider the whole stuff.


ALL of us are ready to give good advice to others on the forum, but A LOT of us are not able to think reasonable what matters their own situation.

look at me. still thinking to contact her. i should not.

@Apocalyptica -I gave you the best advise I ever given -ever on this forum,in order to win back your girl.

I was in similar situation as you,but I use tactics and had her chase me.

I tried giving you same advise but you claim it wouldnt work on her.

I called her back,but it wasnt to get back with her but to go out as friends.

You strictly ignoring her wont cut it.

You have to be in her life indirectly.

I turned around my LTR from where I was the wussy- bitch like you were,and Im now confident & in charge.

You can do the same.

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can you copy that post? i missed it i think.

so you claim i actually should be in her life "indirectly" ? How do you mean that?

That is contrary to all the 'golden' rules of "NO CONTACT".

I actually know that no contact at all won't work to get her back. Even in the beginning when she was all over me she nearly contacted me. She never did. She is incredibly PASSIVE and laid-back. Also with friends. All of them need to contact her. She never contact some other, only if she reallllyyyy need to.

But this should not be in this topic anymore.


As for your girl, i can only read that you have a lot of trouble, since you post so much here.
It is NOT normal for having all those stuff in a healthy relationship. That's why i said, break it off. But i udnerstand you not to do it. It's not like you do it with a snap of the fingers.

@Hobbit-I dont know if you're talking about me or Apocalyptica.

@Apocalyptica-When I mean indirectly,I mean to haunt her perifery.

This' what I did.

She broke up with me.

I chased her,she rejects me.

I started going out with buddies to bars & clubs.

I flirted and gamed women.

Later,I posted my adventures on Facebook,she sees my updates:"I had fun at the bar and danced my as off".

I posted photos of me clubbing and having fun.

This' me making her jealous & insecure indirectly.

She now sees that Im living my life and enjoying it without her.

My girl's pride is huge so I know she would not contact me eventhough she's itching.

So I took the initiative to re-contact her via phone,knowing she will answer.

I didnt call and beg her to get bacc with me.

I played it cool and invited her to go club with me.

So I put it as though I was re-sarging her.

She agreed to meet me at club because I didnt beg her to get back with me.

We end up having sex after club and she virtually begged me to get back with her.

We're now back together with me in control,LTR in my terms.

That's what I was advising you to do;live your life,let her know or see you're living and gaming.

Then re-contact her to just catch up-not get back together.

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thanks for your post

however, my situation: she said behind my back to a girlfriend "she doesn't care about me". i wonder why she said that while she wanted to hang out with me. later she said LJBF.. so wtf? she hangs out with me and wants to be friends, but she doesn't care about me?? on clue on this girl....

so i wonder if its worth to have hopes.. and i wonder if she would EVER check my Facebook ..

Stop being so fucking pessimsitic bro'!

Damn right she would checc your Facebook!

It's natural for ppl to checc in on others.

Plus if yall have fb-friends in common or if yall are fb-friends,she will see your fb updates.

So what if she says she doesnt care about you.

The fact that she talks about you say otherwise.

Im not gonna lie to you,ppl always advise,"dont call her,no contact".

Correct,that's the best advise for you.

But you know yourself best,and you know that you WILL contact her again-today(if you havent already).

So I encourage you to contact her;which you were gonna do anyway.

But it's your attitude that counts when calling her.

Dont be emotional,dont beg her to get back,dont ask her how she's doing,dont cry!!

Play it cool like Jame Bond.

"Hey,Im going to a bar Friday to hang out".

"If you feel like it,join us as friends".

Thats it!

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Be honest with her, you want to see your friends, when you want to. If she doesn't like that, she doesn't respect you, she's selfish and being hypercritical.

What happens, you ditch your friends, another 2 years down the line, she ditches you for whatever reason, your in a worse position. No GF, no friends, that just isn't worth it.

Man up K, tell her the truth, if she can't accept it you walk, she'll start thinking and with any sense, she'll come running back knowing she was in the wrong.

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