| I Got focused on work and haven't been able to post for a while ... have a rough week behind me and probably a rougher one ahead of me but i wanted to post to keep myself and others motivated. I was almost not about to post at all, but seeing other's responses motivated me. I hope this does the same for others. This is over a couple of nights so bear with me ... Also, incase you're wondering, i keep track of the approaches by jotting very minimal notes down in my phone
but first to other's responses:
To taffy:
you're right buddy. I think it would also be wrong of me to neg if they are getting bored ... Thanks for the tip, I'll just jump into another opener next time. And what do you mean "if you're gunna go unnatural?" is there a method to going natural? (apart from being myself)
to Teedub:
thanks for the advice and feel free to post away! ... i'll try to keep my plan more flexible, actually i didn't stick to it that much so maybe I should be a little more strict. I also think that i may smile too much?? you think that is a bad thing???
Night 1:
[2] girl at pregame HB7 - I was with all of my boys (and girl), and i think that probably had some inbuilt social value from that, so just went up to her and introduced myself. Opened easily. Fluffed for a bit, got some kino in with "proper ways to introduce yourself to people from your own school." BUTT ... wasn't really feeling her. At that point, my friend came into the conversation. He seemed into her, and I didn't feel like continuing it, so just excused myself to go get a shot. My friend actually ended up hooking up with her ...
[what I learnt] There were atleast three hot girls at the pre-game, dont be a pussy next time, just go up and talk to them. "pre-game" insinuates a bounce (to "the actual game") ... it's really easy to integrate with the set during the bounce and the re-initiate contact, comfort at the location.
[3] 2 set HBtits (6.5) and HBsb (smaller boobs) ...
deep: hey who's hotter ...
HBtits: uhhh ... Salma Hayek.
deep: are you sure? let's see what your friend thinks. Hey, who hotter ...?
HBsb: Penelope cruz, she's pretty!
deep: See! this is how most girls respond! they go with the pretty girl. Most guys though say salma hayek. Any guesses why??
HBsb: BOOBS!
deep: yeah, exactly. but you're friend responded like a dude. She's not a lesbian is she???? *smirk at HBtits*
HBtits: oh shut up!! slaps arm.
deep: [Turns to HBsb] you get a prize for being straight [deep holds out hand, she accepts and gets twirled] ...
I introduce myself to both and fluff for bit: "what brings you guys to my hood?" "where do you go to school?" ...etc?
Then I get bored of the conversation and realize that there are hotter girls so excuse myself. Ran into these girls again twice by the end of the night, made up some excuse both times. Number closed HBtits, but didn't want to call.
[what I learnt] I just felt like opening, so I did. But i think i should be aiming for hotter girls to keep my end of the attraction up =(. Any thoughts anyone???
[4] 2 set at bar. HB7.5 and friend with back turned. Both are waiting in line to get to the crowded bar. I am too. She's maybe 5'5" so i tell her...
deep: come with me, i'll get you to the bar faster
HB7.5: what?
deep: THE BAR IS CROWDED. COME WITH ME, I'LL GET YOU TO THE FRONT FASTER!!!!
HB7.5: ...okkkkayy [missed chance for kino? maybe, but we get to the other end of the bar with her just following me. I didn't think she'd do it, but i guess she really wanted a drink ... not that i was going to pay for her, lol]
AT THE BAR: introduce myself and then fluff. WHere are you form .... etc.
Then friend from before finds us and tells us that she has drinks for everyone. HB7.5 leaves and while leaving says ...
HB7.5: come find me
I see her again later in the night, but now in a group of 6 girls and AA takes over. Dammit!!!!
[what I learnt] Keep both girls together. Hb7.5 got taken away because I didn't introduce myself to both girls. Had I done that, both may have stayed with me ... and i would likely have felt more comfortable reopening later, because if HB7.5 wasn't in the same mood, then I could easily switch my attention to the other one.
[5] 4 set HB8 opens me
hb8: take a photo
deep: why should I do that???
hb8: just do it!!
lemming ... i mean, deep: [takes photo and then gives camera back without saying a word]
[what I learnt] dont be a lemming . and use photo op to open and start conversation.
[6] 2 set latinos --- dont remember anything, but proud of myself because I think all latino girls are soooo hotttt!!!
[7] 5 set, mixed. HB9 Hot dancer catches my eye. Normally, i dont open mixed sets but this girl was especially hot, dancing at the edge of her group and the guys didn't look intimidating so I found my kahunas and opened ( ... like a chump)
deep: WOW! YOU HAVE TO BE THE HOTTEST DANCER IN HERE
HB9: No, i'm not, there's no way.
deep: I guarantee that you are.
[ HB9 starts dancing towards also hot friend and says ... "did you hear this guy????" to her girlfriend. One of thier male friends begins to dance in between me and HB9. I got flustered and little embarassed, but most importantly, didn't know where to go from here (any ideas???) so I just walked away. I dont think i got entirely blown out of the set, because she didn't tell me to go away and her body language didn't tell me she was not retracted. But i didn't know how to handle both her and the orbiter at the same time]
[what I learnt] I dont think the situation was as embarassing as I make it out to seem but i need to know how to handle the dudes ... hummm. .
[8] 2 set mixed???? wtf have no idea what this one was. maybe not even worth counting cause i didn't learn anything...
[9] 1 set
I was standing while she was walking by and recognize her from somewhere.
deep: hey what's up??
HB7: hey! [gets pushed by person moving behind her]
HB7: I'm going to have to come back! bye!!!
... never came back! ... teardrop (there is no teardrop emoticon)
[what I learnt] this one is right outta the books. Dont open a set with more energy then you. i.e. Dont open a moving target, unless you are moving.
[10] i was standing in the exact same spot where the last set ended. Guy with a broken arm in a cast was next to me standing with a tough look on his face.
deep: hey man! what did you do to your arm???
ToughGuy: i broke it doing ... {i dont remember what he said}
deep: that's not what you tell the girls right? You gotta tell 'em some ridiculous shit, like you got it in a fight, hahah.
after this [not so]ToughGuy opened up, shot a few jokes and then had to leave cause he found his friends.
[what I learnt] Nothing, cause he's a dude. But it was fun talking to him, and probably made his night a little better. Also i opened with the sole intention of talking to him, so i'll count this one.
at about this point of the I started feeling a little more comfortable, and started loosening up a little bit
[11] same exact spot as last two sets, this time turn to my left ... 5 set, but only 2 are within audible range: HBchunky and HB7. Some dude just walked away.
deep: hey! what's up?
Hb7: [frowns and looks away]
deep: [to HBchunky] what's wrong with her? [turns to HB7] you know noone's gunna hit on you if you look so mad all the time!
HB7: [frowns again ... maybe she couldn't talk??? i dunn know]
deep: [to Hbchunky] is she always like this??
Hbchunky: No, she's just a little mad today!
deep: [moves over to HBchunky] and begins fluff ... {i forget what I said}
anways as i'm talking to HBchunky, one of my friends come into my line of vision behind HBchunky and motions to me about how chunky she actually is. So I decide to screw it, and make an excuse to walk away as there is a little time left in the club. Hopefully made her night a little better!
[what I learnt] can't win all the sets. my original target was the hb7 but i just turned to the friend who was more responsive with the hope of restarting the rest of the set.
[12] 7 set, begins pretty much in the same spot as the last three sets. All hot HB8+, all dancing with no dudes, all in an enclosed, exclusive, very expensive area of the club. they are about 5 feet away from me.
deep: HEY ! WHY COME TO A CLUB WITH NO GUYS? AND THEN JUST DANCE WITH YOURSELF?
set: no response
deep: repeat question.
set: no response
[what I learnt] there's hot rich lesbians in the world ...hahaha, I have no idea how I could have done this any better. Ideas anyone?
dammit, it's getting late. Want to wake up in 6 hrs to get back to work ... i'm gunna have to pick this up later, there's plenty more on my phone, some of which actually ended in success!
good luck everyone!
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