hi,

So yeah, I have a question, which I am sure has be asked before but can't find it.
Let's say you game a girl for a while, you are not in friend zone, and she shows interest in you.
You go out clubbing with some friends, and randomly pop into her at that club, BUT you are making out with another girl. She sees you and send you text which could be interpreted as jealousy during the night...
How to recover form that? I mean, it obviously makes her jealous, shows DHV, but still, how to react then??
IMO I would act as nothing happened, see if she brings it up, and if so gently tease her about it...

Any effort from her to contact you, in general and after the fact, is a submission of power and an IOI.

Act as if nothing happened and be frank in your answers if the subject in question is questioned?

Her "So who was that girl you were with?"

You "Oh that's Melissa."

Her "How do you know her?"

You "I met her that night actually."

Don't go into detail about things beyond what is asked, even though you know more questions will follow. The more questions she asks you about it, the more power she gives up, so don't overdisclose.

Also, don't be apologetic in your answering. Don't try to make the situation less than what it is, or less than what she thinks it is. It is what it is. You met a girl. You're attracted to each other. You made out. End of story. And if it's more than that, and the girl asks you, be concise and honest. Make it a mystery so she DOESN'T have complete peace of mind about it. It will keep her thinking of you.

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Hey,

Thanks for the answer.
But what happened really were more angry text, starting from "where are u?" to "Are u still making out with that chick?", "were going soon", "I saw u making out with that chick so go for it if u want a root". I was shitfaced and didn't even notice her text...

So I assume she liked me and was pretty pissed.
I just sent her a nice text the next day, saying that it was a drunken mistake and that i would have prefered to spend the night with her. Her reply to was ok, but not great. But i messed up again by being all cocky in my reply, saying about that other girl i picked up "she tried to get into my pants all night long!!! But i'm used to that I'll be in town sat night".

Now I think i took it too far... She didn't reply to my text asking if she would be in town tonight...

Maybe you should have handled this a bit diffrently.

If she sends you text saying like she did.
Wait til next day.

Did you have fun last night?

She'll say whatever she feels like saying.
Probably that she is pissed off...

Ask her Why?

Cause your a fucking asshole, bla bla bla

You dont answer.

Then call her and have an ice-cream 2 days later.
If she agrees to meet you, she has gone beta and accepts that you do whatever you please and you wount have this problem again.

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Energy... oh man I love your answer.

This is good.
But, yeah, it would perfectly work if you really know the girl is into you, otherwise, you need the balls to try it... Cuz like, what if she is too proud to admit that you fucked up... She'll just get over you, assuming your are not interested AT ALL. And girls can turn attraction down quicker than most of us...

But definitely worth trying one day...

I have to admit, at that point I didn't realised that she was interested in me. I was just assuming she could be. I mean, no matter how many IOIs you have just in front of you, most of the time you don't see them. You see them after, when it's too late. I mean, this is what happen to me... I'm not very experienced yet.

The whole point is that YOU have NO obligation what so ever to this girl.
There is really no reason for her to be angry, so YOU never admit being guilty of a crime you didnt commit.

Some girls will of course make the choice of not seeing you, but overall you'll be good.

If a girl gets upset cause she likes you, tell her its a good thing she likes you!

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