Hello all, I need some help, ill truncate as much as I can as nobody want to hear a life story.

I used to work at a bar.
I left but still went in for a drink a few times a week with a few work mates.
My replacement was super hot barmaid - mariah carey when she was younger but without the huge forehead.
Over the course of a few months ive got to know her a bit and we have a really nice rapport ; she's always happy to chat to me, always smiling etc. we've texted a bit, she looked me up on a social networking site.
She has just recently got back with her ex after he randomly dumped her a few months back (when i first met her).The were together for a couple of years and she told me that she felt they would be together forever ... they are both early 20's...?!

HOWEVER...

recently she got in touch asking if i'd like to go for a drink and a sheesh or two with her.
So i agree, we pick a place and I say about going back to hers for a smoke after. Turns out we cant cos there are people in. I then sort other arrangements - which will be my mates boat on the marina near where we are meeting. I havent asked him yet and may not cos I think I know what he'll say and security is shit there.
So i say if she is not ok to drive the boat has 3 bedrooms and I know its a bit scary cos im a man and of course i will want to jump her bones. She replies that we will deal with ''them issues'' when we come to them..
She knows I fancy her as I have told her as much, not being the subtle type and she is happy to put herself in a situation where if i was her b/f and knew id want to kill her and me !


so whats going on here people???

games??

is it on???
it seems on surely?

and if it is on.... tips to build attraction, rapport please, things not to talk about - i.e dont mention her relationship??

im in a muddle cos this girl is gorgeous and I need to play this as well as humanly possible.

PLEASE ADVICE ......

There is good news and bad news here. First the good. It is DEFINITELY ON big guy. Now the bad. There are a MILLION and one ways to screw up an F-close. Here is my 10 commandments for sealing the deal with a chick that has an ex or near ex in the picture.

#1 NEVER mention the EX. That makes you look a little unsure of yourself...Why would u care about some other guy? You are the MAN so be the MAN

#2 Do NOT...and I repeat Do NOT take this chick out for dinner if you want to close. I have seen a MILLION AFC's get blown out of the water with this move because A) After a huge meal, chicks typically just lose ALL their momentum and just want to sleep and B) some start to consciously or subconsciously suspect you are playing them for a HO. A quid pro quo.... I buy you dinner so you fuck me. Chicks get really weird about this... Romantic dinners are best left for a chick you have been dating for awhile that you have already F-closed and now you are working on building long-term bonds with.

#3 DO go out for drinks and a light snack. Alcohol is a social lubricant. Though studies have shown it is not an aphrodisiac per se, it DOES lower ones inhibitions for what they really want to do. The fact she suggested drinks and sheesh tells me she want to create a situation that organically (spontaneously) happens.

#4 DO NOT be a fortune teller. You have already slightly fucked this up by telling her that ....."I know its a bit scary cos im a man and of course i will want to jump her bones...." WTF??? NEVER say this...that is F-closing cryptonite! You never tell a chick verbally you want to jump her bones...you do that with kino body language...she is supposed to want YOU! Turn the tables.

#5 PUSH-PULL, PUSH-PULL, PUSH-PULL as much as possible!! Creating sexual tension is a sure-fire way to turn up the heat.

#6 Show some value... I learned to play the harmonica and knew only THREE songs when I started. There was a piano bar in town and I got to know the pianist real well prior to our date. I asked him if I could accompany him on PIANO MAN by Billy Joel....so, i casually suggest we have a few drinks (NOT DINNER) at this piano bar....through the set, the guy introduces me to the bar (I NEVER told her I could play) and he asks the audience for their favorite billy Joel song...someone yells out "PIANO MAN!"....this is the musical equivalent of the number game where a chick guesses 7. So we start in...I play along, the audience goes CRAZY, and my date is giving me MAJOR IOI as I get back to my seat. Figure out the ONE thing you do best and figure out a way to work it into the date. If you have no skill sets, then go for the CUBE game that Style talks about in his book...that shows you understand her which will justify in her mind, why it is okay to sleep with her.

#7 When the time comes to transition from the public field to your or hers, give her the impression that it is only for a limited period of time...this again places the thought in her mind that you are NOT thinking about bedding her and keeps those (I am such a fucking whore) thoughts out of her head. Remember...chicks want to do it as much as guys but the overwhelming majority want to look themselves in the mirror the next morning and rationalize the F-close by telling themselves their emotions got the best of them.

#8 No means....don't go any further (for now)...if that happens I typically validate her...retreat a few steps back and start the process all over again. If you get to that point again....then do a major pull by suggesting that she is right and that if you were ever sleep together that would be a MAJOR mistake for YOU! Don't WHINE if she says no....almost leave her with the impression that you really didnt want it in the first place....chicks want what they can't have...YOU need to create that though in her mind if you are going to change her mind.

#9 If you DO F-close, decide if you want to see her again or not. If you do, then call her the next morning and let her know that you enjoyed hanging out with her and you want to see her again. If a chick gives it up, she may be feeling really vulnerable the next day so don't panic if she is clingy..that is pretty normal. If you don't ever want to see her again, don't call....that will just send her mixed messages....remember the pick up artist scores best for everyone by making people feel good not by making them feel BAD.

#10 Wear a condom....I don't care who you are or where you are from. Some chicks are psycho...and are trying to get pregnant, give as many men as they can herpes they got from some PUA that gave it to them, etc etc etc...until and unless you know this chick backwards and forwards, keep your destiny in your hands by keep your sperm out of her!

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Atomicglow

Thanks for the reply man, I would like to point out that when I said about jumping her bones it was said in a very sarcastic way, which she would have got. I put it across as an almost neg . Do you think in that case it is still wrong to bring up?

Without having met her, it is difficult to say. I can tell you that in my experience, a dry sense of humor or sarcasm when it comes to talking to women about bedding them works only when you are doing the cocky routine. If she scares easily and has her ASD (Anti-slut defense) working overtime, it may backfire. Just to be precise...a NEG according to Style, is an ambiguous statement or accidental insult delivered to a beautiful woman with the intent of demonstrating to her, a lack of interest in her. Keep me posted!!

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Atomicglow

Atomicglow,

I must admit that I am impressed with your reply. Pretty much spot on.


And I'm female. Most girls wouldn't even be able to articulate what half these feelings are.