This is my first official post
Been on here for a while and decided after this experience that this would be a good place to start.
Day 1
Went out to a Drum & Base club with a group of my guy friends and arrived there quite drunk. I didn't have any AA so immediately started approaching girls, but mostly just going up to groups and giving out high fives all round and saying "Are you girls having a good time???" with high energy and a smile. Wasn't getting the best responses even though I like doing this as if I see them later and attempt a PU they often recognize me. To be honest my approach attempts were kind of weak, mostly because i was fairly hammered and wasn't using any PU techniques per se.
Anyway, one girl I saw jamming at the front of the dance floor, who was bare footed and looked like she was loving the moment, caught my eye. HBNympho. I approached with "You look like you're the girl who's having the most fun tonight" which is one of my favorite openers. She responded with a smile and bemused kind of look. So I went on about people not being in the moment and that it was awesome to see someone who was. It wasn't NLP stuff as the music was crazy loud and I was pretty much shouting it at her. At this point I think I just arbed off and carried on dancing.
Luckily I saw her again, this time in an outside area of the club. This is where the real magic happened. I approached her with good eye contact - locked eyes with her from a few metres away and gave a big grin. She was immediately responsive and I started a conversation with a flirty vibe. What I did at this point was basically vibe and rapidly escalate kino. I do this pretty easily when I've been drinking. In fact, replicating that vibe when i'm sober is something I'm working on doing. I think the key is being in the now and imposing a fun frame. Any suggestions on this would be great.
The rest of the PU was pretty simple. I *closed by deliberately saying some corny pick up line about kissing me which I knew wouldn't "work" but which made her laugh. I then went
calm and deadly, pulled right up close to her and looked down at her lips. The pretty much did it. After that she was all over me. We went to this lounge area and we were making out like crazy. It was actually super funny, whenever someone walked in, they took one look at us and left. At a point when i could tell she was super turned on, I said we should find somewhere more private. She said she really wanted to but she had her period. She was super honest like that which is something I like in a girl and is one of the things that led to my screw up (read on).
Day 2
After getting her number we texted for a bit and she was pretty open about the fact she wanted to see me again and bang my brains out. I also found out she had so many of the qualities I find super attractive in girls. So I started doing the one thing everyone who's been here for a while says you shouldn't do, I started becoming whipped. I fantasized about romantic picnics and long walks on the beaches with her (ok not really but you get the idea).
So we met up at her place a couple days later and were planning to go out to a club with a bunch of my friends. When I first got to her house, I started off strong. We basically just chatted a bit and then made out on her bed after a while. I wasn't using tactics, just riding off the value and impression of me she had from the first night.
The interaction went downhill from there though. I became completely AFC. Instead of demonstrating value I sucked value off her. Instead of setting the frame I reacted to everything she said. Instead of building a connection I talked about the weather. I was way too stuck in my head worrying whether everything I said was interesting. I have a problem with consistency in this regard and think it may be that I can't hold state. Any ideas on this?
Later when we went to hang out at my friends house things weren't much better and I could feel her losing interest fast. So guess what I started doing? That's right! Drinking again! And a lot. Ended up having more fun and getting a bit more vibey with her. In the end we ended up making out in a bedroom and getting down to it. I'm pretty sure this just came down to the fact that she was a freaky nympho and just wanted sex, not my gaming skills.
I probably could have forgiven myself for my AFC tendencies if it wasn't for the next part. After drinking a fuck load i couldn't get it up properly. I get this a lot and is another reason I should stop drinking, other than improving my game (anyone else have this or are you fine even after getting trashed?). HBNympho was offended by this. And after some on and off sex she wanted to stop. In my drunken state I had a bit of an ego melt down and got all huffy and puffy. Then I felt bad and ended up getting all needy and weird. Not Pretty. After that I knew it was pretty much game over. We were ok the next day, don't think she thinks I'm a complete weirdo, but I'm sure that pretty much killed all the attractive that was there.
Although I got it on with her, overall I feel like I failed and this doesn't belong in the lay reports. But hey, there's no such thing as failure, Right? Only feedback.
This was quite a long post with not that much actual pickup info. But needed to get this out and maybe some of you can learn from where I went wrong. Expect my field and lay reports with more description of tactics and techniques soon.
Any comments and constructive criticism would be awesome.
Lex
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