Ok, so I am not too bad at gaming.

I go out with my friend quite a lot who has no AA, absolutely no fear. The normal plan is that he opens a set and I come over later asking if he's seen Emily or whatever to see if the set is ready.

Once I'm in a set like that and I've been introduced etc, I feel more powerful, like I have more status almost. I can perform quite well in these circumstances and am fairly cocky / funny. We've had sets where my friend opened a 2 set and when I came over one of the girls tried to drag her friend away to go and dance as my friend was introducing me. However he friend said, hang on, I want to meet his friend - which made me feel excellent and I ended up k-closing and # closing her that night (no f close )

My problem is that when it's up to me to approach myself, I always seem to completely lower my value somehow. I never feel as comfortable talking to the girls and it's almost like I really want someone to 'hold my hand' until I, myself, have got comfortable talking with the girls - let alone them talking to me!

Perhaps it's because I'm never the one to open sets and I don't actually know any openers?

Thoughts?