Lol. 0 girl interaction first 3 years of high school. that + being total AFC. Summer before senior year, watched old episodes of the Pickup Artist, and read the game. didnt get into the community after that though, it took me a horrible relationship after that to realize i was such a pussy w/ girls. and people in general. THEN i found this website and it changed my life. Took it upon myself to become a more charismatic, awesome person that chicks dig

Had two goals in life become rich enough to do whatever I want and gain good enough social skills to do whoever I want, this seemed like a good way to accomplish the latter.

Heartbreak. My first heartbreak. That's what got me into this PUA stuff.
I figured, rejection from a random HB10 wouldn't be as bad as my first heartbreak; here I am. Learning the skills of a pua.

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"When I get sad, I stop being sad and be awesome!. True Story." - One of the greatest PUAs ever!

Because I was unsuccessful in the past. Not so much an AFC, just a complete wuss. I read the Game and saw what was possible and thought 'fuck it, im only 16, i have my whole life to enjoy woman if i get good at this.'

since then, i haven't been overly active but have gradually improved my game. however, this summer i am going to put myself out there more than ever before.

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Life is what you make it

making approach as a habit and not an act =)

I got into the idea of being a pua back in sixth grade. Seriously, eleven or so years ago... I told myself that "That's it! From now on, I'll be more social, I'll talk to more girls!" But it didn't work out like that...

Years later, I was in high school and my friends and I were partying and I was hooking up with girl after girl, but we weren't having sex. I would make out with girls, finger girls, and get some great BJs, but not sex! This always happened while we were all drinking.

Also, for some reason, no relationships! I never had the balls to really date. I did have a few girlfriends in high school, but my stupid Afc mindset always told me that they wanted to take it slow. That I wanted to fuck Them, and they just wanted "Nice" things like holding hands, and "sweet talk." Bull Shit!!!

Then I had a few good flings that just didn't last! Or it was like I just made the girl SO HORNY, that she just fucking jumped on the next guy she saw!!! Really...

So, what was my problem? I looked for the answer, constantly. I watched the show on Vh1 with Mystery, I read books on body language, and I tried my best. Nothing.

I wasn't looking in the right places. Mystery's demeanor screamed magician and so, I didn't see what he was doing as a subculture, but just his own odd and probably wrong methodology, that noone else was doing. I was wrong.

The body language books all were way too sincere and so, I realized that they were wrong. Doing what they told you just made you give away your intentions and strategy.

So finally I got "The Game." Can't remeber how I found it, but ever since then, I've been focused on my two passions: Seducing women, and Playing guitar:)

I enjoyed reading that.

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Life is what you make it

I was at a presentation by a Sociologist who did his PhD dissertation the pick up community. I said to myself this sounds cool

My story is still being written

Took a trip to China while in high-school, during which I took a much bigger interest in spirituality. Learned Buddhist philosophies, coupled with an extremely supportive Christian family upbringing (parents will be celebrating their 30th soon), made me realize that there were/are certain areas in ones life that must be aligned and mastered, in order to enjoy a productive life:

My relationship with women, I discovered, happened to be one of those areas

Namaste



(If one of you have any questions regarding your spiritual walk (or lack thereof) as it pertains to the game, feel free to PM me.)

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"That's some bad hat, Harry"...

<<<<<See that profile picture?
i SWEAR thats not me

Very Very interesting thread, from the wide responses of guys looking for validation to guys not even remembering in the first place... hmmm


As for me I got in partially to live life and find some adventure in the world. Meet new people and have some war stories to tell. Another reason was to help my friends that were HUGE AFCs. I was always the best with girls and thought this would help me teach some of my buddies to get better at there own game.

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dont hit the rotweiler

Well it started with my parents, they got married when they were young had kids bought a house raised a family. My dad is a real good guy, I wanted to be just liek him.

I came from a decent family, went to private schools, had confidence was on my way in life. When I was 18 meet the love of my life. 1 year later we moved in 2 years later we got married, 2 years after we had a kid. I got a good job making some decent scratch.

Then I find out she is fucking different guys. Now most people would get mad, problem is those last 4 years I felt like an animal trapped in a cage. I turned down girls that came on to me. I was constantly fighting myself trying to be the "good person" i wanted to be. She set me free.

For those of you who have a dog just picture taking them to a field and taking of the leash off.

I found about PUA in December 2010. I slept with my coworker after the office Christmas party and we had never spoken to each other before. I may have made mistakes with my texting afterwards, or maybe she truly didn't want to take it further. Anyway, I shared my story with the world because I was unsure of what to do. I never want to be unsure again.

for me it's not so much about becoming a PUA, it's actually more about NOT being an AFC.

if picking up chicks is the end result, that is great, but what i really want is to not be taken advantage of anymore.

about me?

i'm 6'4, 210 lbs of solid steel (down from 280 and flabby), workout 7 days a week, good looking, intelligent, and ... *wait for it* ... a HEART OF GOLD.

yep, that last trait has caused me a lot of pain in this life. i'm about two years out from a ten plus year relationship. i was the nice guy for all those years. highschool sweethearts, i made her finish highschool, put her through college three times, bought her a house and two cars, had a beautiful child together. i literally gave her everything. arguably, i gave her too much. she cheated on me with total fucking idiots. nasty little punks who's asses i could beat. losers. no money. no jobs. no nothing. but guess what they had? game. and apparently they weren't the nice guy.

so, don't want to be a nice guy anymore. and i'm not. i've changed. i'm cold as ice now. i just need to learn some tactics. like i said above, it's less about being a PUA and more about maintaining control and being a man.

hope to learn a lot here.

i was depressed just got out of a long term relationship, i knew after the first 2 months it wasnt going any where but i was afraid of being alone so i tried to stick it out, when i realised i was wrong i broke up with her and after that i spent a good year failing at trying to meet women, they either just plain werent interested, i was too nice or they prefered my friend.....i got angry about it all and kept thinking there was something wrong with me.....i met my friend martyn who recommend i look at a book, that book was the game by neil strauss. i read the book and thought it was all lies till he showed me it works one night out, i decided i would take the plunge so to speak and my life changed i got social i started meeting women and i had a couple of decent relationships since then.....it got me over my self doubt and i can stand up for myself now....im not afraid any more, so it helped me sort myself out


thanks for reading this i really needed to tell this story

Carl

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"Man is not made for defeat. A man can be destroyed but not defeated." -Ernest Hemingway

For me, years of just not getting it

I was miserable for years, Not trusting people and being generally turned inwards

In high school, I began with a false face. I hid my pain, put on a false persona. This was to be my redemption, my armor against the pain I had lived with. And for a year, I was finally having social success.

But I didn't know how to act. Since I had built a false persona, I still wasn't truly happy, fell into bad habits and did a lot of things I'm not proud of.

But I wasn't going down without a fight

I after getting a better handle on my life, I decided to finally figure out who I wanted to be, and not worry about what others wanted me to be.

I stumbled over some of David DeAngelo's material. Suddenly I had a baseline for being a more attractive person. I wanted more... So I got into more material. It started by reading "The Game" and escalated from there. Suddenly, I was having more success with women than I ever imagined possible. I was able to attract women I had never believed possible. I was able to recognize where I had faltered in the past, why past relationships went wrong, and finally come to terms with myself.

You might say it was a journey to get truly strong inner game. And with strong inner game, outer game comes naturally.

And Now, I can finally say, I'm happy to be who I am.

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