Hey, so me and this girl we were going out for a long time, but all of a sudden she "realized" that she likes me as a friend...She keeps telling me that she wants to keep hooking up now with guys until she finds "the one". However, she keeps texting me everyday and she shows some IOI's whenever we hangout. Do you think she's not ready for a commitment? also if we are "friends", how can i hook up with her?

i would.

If your still talking to her as a friend, you wont get laid.
Stop being her bitch. Your not a friend, you are a man and want sex!

Ignore her for a while, your not her little girlfriend, your not there to talk about boys and put makeup on eachother. When you do hangout, clubbing or whatever, KINO KINO KINO KINO!

Thanks alot, but what should i do when i she texts?

You exchange texts often right?

Instantly in my mind:

Ignore her, or give a reply like a day later, without even saying sorry for a late reply. If she asks, just say you were busy, had some stuff on or across those lines.

Or play it how she does, just a bit harder. Let her know how your day was, talk about women etc. See the reaction you get.

End of the day, whether your dating, in a LTR, or a breakup, women want a reaction, it's how they deal with things.

Show your annoyed, they will do it more, show your not fussed, they will stop sooner or later and take more notice, or if it isn't a bad thing going on, doing something in a sly way, will make them think about things a little more.

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Good tips.
If she texts; don't reply back. If it was me I wouldn't text back for a week, if I even texted back at all.

IF you do text back...for whatever reason, don't apologise. This means no "oh sorry I was busy, or my phone was recharging".

Women do that too, and IMO, that's why it works so well on them. Kind of like reverse psychology.

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If she's your ex, AND you still (try to) hook up, you're setting a onenitis trap for yourself. Be honest with yourself: does her banging other guys bother you? do you wish you were still with her? do you think about the times you two were dating a lot? are you just trying to get your self esteem back by fucking her? If the answer is yes to any of those, you need to cut her off and go elsewhere. For more reasons than one, I do not bang exes. She had her shot, she blew it/bored me/whatever. Her loss. Even if you've got tremendous inner game and can casually hook up with her shortly after getting dumped, once you're been around a bit, you won't want to.

Thanks alot everyone we haven't texted each other for 2 days, but she has my headphones and kinda want them back. Any ideas? also she's leaving for xmas break, should i say anything?

Say you have X day off, and will be comming over to pick them up.

But when you get there be polite and mature. Simply thank her for looking after them and walk away. Don't get pulled into an argument, your better than that.

Stay cool, keep a clear head. This is key to a "break up". The minute you get riled up and lose your cool, you lose.

Yep, composure is the key here, let her know you need/ant your headphones back, sort a day, stay mature and polite about it. You don't want to come away wishing you never said this or that.

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