I think this is an interesting subject. Someone I used to look up to in terms of game told me that men and women will never be JUST friends. This obviously isn't true for some men because I am always hearing about being "caught in the friend zone" Its how you act, because i have a tight natural game I am a fun, exciting, interesting and show confidence-this makes her sexually attracted to me. Because you have had a previous relationship (as a friend) these encounters (in my experience) turn into a relationship, so you have to be careful where you draw the line in some cases.
It would really help us out a lot if you could tell us the reason you guys cant have sex right now. And if this is because you think a relationship beginning with sex will be only physical you are very wrong. Our neurochemistry causes us to have a very strong connection to someone we are sexually intimate with (because in cavemen times the men who didnt feel a connection to the soon to be pregnant woman left and she became vulnerable and did not survive-it works both ways.. I hope this is making sense.)

Another example of this is something that women tend to do is keep the guy they want to have a serious relationship in the wine and dine date phase while withholding sex from him to see if he will stick around and 'prove himself' to be a good partner, while doing this they still need sex so will be fucking other men. It is often the other men that they fall for in the end because of the powerful physical connection (its all neurochemistry.) Probably also combined with the fact that the guy she is holding onto is safe and boring while the other guy is exciting and
dangerous.

ok well i dont want to get into detail unless really needed. but shes got a friend in the military that is coming back that she says shes in love with. i dont see it and all of her friends that have known her for years and years say all its going to be is him being around for two weeks and them messing around then he'll disappear. so i very well cant do anything until he leaves because shes all about him. the only thing i can do right now is make my point that im worth more than he is. trust me..i have no issue with doing it now, its just her thinking her friend is gonna come back and wisp her off to some magical land.

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OK, so it's clear that you'd like to eventually have sex with her, yes? Are you physically attracted to her? If so, have you told her this?
I think this is a common "either/or" type of fallacy. The logic is that if it's a legitimate long-term boyfriend-girlfriend type of relationship, then it can't be based off of sex or physical attraction. I disagree with this logic. Yes, men and women can and do have long term relationships that are not based off of sex or physical attraction--they are called friendships. But if you're looking for something more than just a friendship, then sex will need to be an important part of that relationship. It can and will be based off of other things as well, of course, but what makes it more than just a friendship is the sexual connection the two of you have.

Don't trivialize this! Sex is an important and meaningful part of the human experience, as much as anything else in life is. Yes, women want and need sex too! She may have just come from a bad breakup, but eventually she will decide she wants to get laid again (if she hasn't already), and that person will either be you or another man, which brings me to...
So if it isn't you, then it will be him. If you want something more than just a friendship from this girl you need to figure out really soon if she truly is in love with this guy as she claims to be. If she is, then it's time to move on. If she's trying to avoid getting physically intimate with you, it is probably because she is getting physically intimate with him. It's your call how long you want to drag this out, but if it were me I would want to know sooner rather than later. Tell her you need her to make a decision or she will lose you. Don't let her string you along like this! I cannot tell you how many female friends I've had do this to me; more than I can count. But I don't blame them because I willingly let them do it. If she can't make up her mind, let her go and move on.

But bear in mind that I am not a qualified professional and this is only my opinion, so take it as such.

yes i have told her im attracted to her and such. i know shes going to have sex w her frend, its a given. i just have to wait till he leaves and figure out if they are actually going to stay together or if its just going to be a fling. all her frends say its just a fling and i think it is to. shes to needy and physical to have a cross country relationship.

so all i have to do is be patient yes? wait around till he leaves and then judge if/wen to make my move?

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