Had a big argument today with my MILF gf.

Today's a national holiday in my island so they had a Mardi -Gras type thing but in the day.

It's full of drunkards,guys going around groping chiccs and shit.

I dont want my gf in that sought of enviornment so I voiced that dominantly.

1 of her gf's was semi-tipsy and came up to us saying,"Let her be free and enjoy her F'ing self".

At that point,I was boiling.

My MIFG gf has peer-presure issues-and I know it but she denies it.

For her drunk gf,who's half her age to try pressure her into grinding on men in a Mardi-Gras setting,I was pissed that she didnt put that witch in checc!!!

So guys,am I so wrong for not wanting my gf to be in such an enviornment?

I can her all the experts saying,"Dont be jealous,be confident,let her mingle,Im too insecure,need to trust her more...".

So am I wrong for?

Should I had just let her drunk gf yank her off to grind on some men?

Or was I in the right by telling her let's leave because things getting too hecting & lewd.

She felt Im dead wrong so she went home mad and wont answer her phone.

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I used to be completly fucking terrified when my girlfriend went out to party.. I viewed all men as sexual predators that wanted to sarge her, fuck the shit out of her.. But i hated being a controlfreak so i never told her.. And after a couple of months i was totally comfortable about it..
The thing is.. It's totally irrational to think like this, she's with YOU! no one else, you're the one she likes.. I think you should try pushing your comfort zone here.. After a while you'll be totally comfortable about it

Good luck mate!

Great advice KoffertGutten;just what I was looking to hear.

You werent hard on me and telling me to be secure.

You're basically saying to slacken up a bit and I'll see how comfortable I'd get.

It's just the peer-pressure issue that got me hesitant.

Women in general,their frames are weak,especially with peer.

My MILF gf is 40 years old yet I've analyzed her being dominated a pressured by 20 year olds & younger co-workers.

I did call her and apologize;I dont know if that was beta-male of me,but Im beginning to feel that she felt that I'd spoiled her fun today.

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Update:

Went to see her just now but she refuses to talk to me.

Then eventually tells me to move on with my life,i.e.break up.

The twist to this is that she's currently pregnant and I'd researched that during pregnancy,women get bi-polar and think and talk irrationally.

So I want to believe it's her pregnancy talking.

But it comes down to peer pressure. from her 'single' friends wanting her to be 'single' & mingle in essence.

So in essence,she's choosing her friends over our LTR.

Wo,thts a lot of power that her peer group holds over her,despite her being 40 years old.

So guys,when she said to move on and break up,I just walked away from her door.

Should I chase or what?

I did chase by calling,apologizing and visiting her,all to get dismissed nd ignored.

So guys,is it freeze -out time and hope she'd come around.

Or give her what she asked for;break up and moving on?

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Given the fact that you still like her i would just freeze her out. Completely.

@Apocalyptica-It- not just a liking.

We've been together 2 years now,so it's an official LTR.

Of course I mingle and sarge when feel like,but I'd totally cut out trying to lay girl while just being the social sarger since Im in an LTR.

So Freeze-out is the best option as you'd said.

Totally BS to have my gf of 2 years being mad at me,ending our LTR because of her drunk friends!!

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Thats a tough situation you're in. It probably wasn't a good idea to lose your temper but what's done is done. And you've already apologized, there's not much more you can do. It's completely up to her now. I hope things work out for you.

Dude if you don't trust your girl...then why is she your girl?

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@Vietman100-I hear you but I definitely dont want a situation where the ball's in her court.

@Spread Love Ders-Great question.

It's not that I dont trust her,it's that I've come to learnt that she's very gullible under social presure & peer pressure.

Totally unexpected of a supposed mature woman.

Rather than just end it long time ago,I hoped over time she'd have changed and got her inner game together.

She's the damn type to,"babes,Im coming to see U in an hour[we live separately]",then ends up at some friggin' function with her girlfriends instead(lol)!!!

Why?

Because some how,her gf's convinced her that hanging out with them is more important than hanging with me.

I dont normally bitch about it but WTF!!!

So it isnt much a trust issue;more like wanting her to give me the respect I deserve as her man.

And my unwillingness to walk away I think has embolden her to take advantage where on many occasions she feels she can say to me,"we're done",and I would keep chasing to get back together.

1 of the times after she broke up with me,I actually did have the balls to move on and started seeing another chicc.

After about 5 days,she came running back crying and begging,so I ended up ditching the new girl and went back with th MILF.

She really need to be taught a lesson.

And me chasing her every time after she says 'break up' isnt getting it done.

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Sorry to say mate, but if she's hanging out with her friends instead of you (apart from peer pressure) she is NOT with you.

I believe that a person always does what he wants to do. Yes, peer pressure can be, but do you really think if she really wants to be with you, she wouldn't just go and see you?
It can happen one time, if it happens more, you should reconsider all this stuff.

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@Apocalyptica-You're 100% right about not giving ppl the benefit of doubt too much.

Ok,aside from peer pressure,she does do what she wants-at the end of the day.

Just for the record,I suck at relationships,and Im surprised this lasted 2 years(lol).

So LTR is my down fall.

Thi's how I analyzed this incident.

She went to the function in the morning,met up with her gf's & sister.

She went to a celebratory function that afternoon until night-with the same crew.

I then later went to see her and the witch wont even come outside!!

Stands at the door like,"what do you want"?

If she was home alone,I would assume there's a guy on her bed but she had many relatives over for the holiday.

So it's like damn!!You been out with friends all day-Cool.

Now Im here to straigten shit out and be civil,you dont wanna hear shit,instead saying
'break up'.

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@Pua Slave-wow,great stuff on the blog(lol).

Im speechless right now at how much it peaks to me[the lantern in the bottom of the valley metaphor].

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Hey K. My relationship ent bro in some fucked up way, not sure if you read my thread, check my posts.

As for this situation, I have a few questions before i state my advice, because I don't want to make my opinion by not asking.

You say she's pregnant, I take it, it's your child? Especially the fact you've been together 2 years.

If so, I'd freeze out temporarily, but I'm no expert. You love her, and you've shown this by trying to resolve the situation, she's being a typical woman who thinks "the power is mine" by being stubborn, she wants you to chase.

If the child's yours, I would only freeze her temporarily strictly down to the fact of, you having a responsibility soon enough, if that makes sense?

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@Chel-'I didnt know you had an active post.Send me a link or I'd look for it under "Relationship" section.

Well,the baby-to-be is mines(lol);assuming we've been together 2 years.

Key thing here is that she's the one who(supposedly)broke up with me so it's not like im being an asshole breaking up with my pregnant gf.

She's dumping me(lol)!!

So I have all rights to move on,but eventually be there for the child if it arrives(no miscarriage).

I've researched that during pregnancy,women go psycho and treat their bf's like shit.

So that fact made me some what relieved.

But it's crazy to be saying "break up" over BS,of me not wanting my gf to be grinding on some drunk me.

We've literally broken up like 20 times in all(10 a piece)and we'd end up getting bacc together within a day or so.

So she maybe bluffing as usual out of anger.

But I dont want shit to keep reoccuring,breaking up with me to then have me come begging!!

So freeze-out it is or just move on.

Easier said than done.

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