so I saw this girl on FB and she was friends with this girl I use to hang out with.

this is how it went

I posted this on her wall. Hi aren't you friends with Brittany C******?

she sent me a message. her:
don't post shit on my wall like that dont need tha whole fuckin world to see. yes im friends with her!

me: damn sorry. I don't know you so I don't know you don't like shit on your wall. chill

her: yeah me either. but thats like a personal question and rude, now you know bye!

me: ummm alright. NVM then. bye

What do you guys think? Where did I go wrong?

you let her be in control. should have said something playful like 'ooh, fiery! give me some more!' although i don't know if it would work, she sounds generally like a bitch.

try watching these videos on bitch shields http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/2010 ... itchshield not sure how well it will work online though.

My first thought to reply with would have been

"Hey not bad! I've heard better pick up lines though. So are you girls like secret best friends because I've seen a lot of James Bond movies and I'm pretty sure I could teach you a thing or two. That last one was weird though. Did you see it?"

Is it gold? You can decide. I didn't spend too much time on it lol.

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Sorry I'm going to have to agree with the girl, I wouldnt post on someones wall if I had never met them girl or guy

Send her a message tell her you used to hang out with Brittany or whatever. To her it's like you entered her personal space even if it is on the net. I assume all you wanted to do is get to know the girl so approach her in a way that will make you both comfortable

I'm sure you understand where im coming from

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lol, seriously? what is so bad about posting on someone's 'wall'? people are so strange.

Pink, personally i dont care, but I can see it from her perspective, girls care alot about social value and the likes, perhaps this boy didnt fit into her social circle or whatever, either way he still offended her and there are other ways to approach which arent so confronting (in her opinion) its just a lesson for next time

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hey I actually think the problem was the way you approached why did you depend on her being friends with another girl you could have poke her and used one of the many openers for that or sent a private message were you could have opened with some other opener, you could have even just sent a friend request. and when she started to get pissed off your best bet would have been to be playful and not acknowledge her anger to bring the conversation to another topic. Theirs not much room to game when posting on the wall because it's public and you're basically putting your conversation on blast.

the thing I found out was that most of the girls hate poke wars I've seen post saying "stop poking me people." I ask a question on a wall because I feel like sending a random message sounds cheezy to me and it like pushing yourself to the center of attention

Update:


Me: sorry for posting on your wall

her: its fine but jus dont post shit like that on my wall

do you guys think I can save this? What should I say?[/b]

Go back to the start pretend it never happened, ask her how she knows Brittany, it will take a bit longer to build trust back up but your talking aren't you.

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If at any point, any person talks to you in this manor, let them know they are out of line, inform them of your intent or lack thereof.

If she doesn't want people posting on her wall, she can fix that in her privacy settings.

Tell me, what do YOU think about what you said. You should never apologize because of others opinions on how you should act. Examine your own actions and if you feel remorseful about them, act accordingly.

Attaining this alpha trait: the ability to peacefully diffuse discord and rejection of dishonor, is a major key in the understanding and mastery of social dynamics.

Know when you are out of line. Come out of the situation without bitching out or bullying others. Gain respect and attraction.

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I knew they where friends the whole time. I just wanted to use that opener because I've used an opener similar to it.

I said: oh well I'm Danny by the way

Seriously guys, if she comes at you like that she probably just isn't a decent person, or normal. at all. with problems. Even a response like "oh, fiery! give me more!" would be no good on a girl like that, although it is creative she would still come back at you with a defensive backlash. Seems like she isn't well mannered. There are tons of other girls! Go after a nice one. You didn't do anything wrong, she just has a problem. That's my opinion. Lata dudes