I've been getting a lot of lmr with my girlfriend at the moment. Any advances I make she objects to , I ignore them or tell her I'm leaving and she will drag me back to bed to make out again , but then the make out will only last a couple of minutes or so and then she will physicaly push me away with her head , not giving me enough time to actually physicaly esculate , making it mere impossible to have sex

I know I'm turning her on , I can lituraly make her moan by kissing her neck , she just objects to it.

This being one of my first serious relationships I'm quite confused as its a lot different from "nailing and bailing"

I'm realy lost and want this to work , suggestions ?

Oh yeah we've done it in the past when we first hooked up , its just been ages since I last did it with her

Most likely, you did something wrong during or after that first hookup- think about what it could be.

- Did you provide enough emotional comfort after you had sex? (ex. did you hold/cuddle/talk to her afterward, or did you just get up and leave?)

- Were you distant and cold with her after you had sex? (ex. did you call/text her the next day, or did you just ignore her until you felt like fucking her again?)

- Did you say something along the lines of "You do good work" or "Thank you" or "You're faking" ?


Other reasons I could think of:
- She's developed a certain insecurity about her body (ex. weight gain). When you're in bed with her, it helps if you tell her how hot you think she is, how much she turns you on, etc.
- You aren't open enough with her; all you wanna do when you're together is fool around.
- The sex just wasn't that good the first time around
- She's seeing someone else

I'd also say
-She wants exclusivity
but I suppose you're already there if you say she's your "girlfriend".

As for suggestions on how to deal with LMR, I'll leave it to the guys; I think they could do a better job. If anything I've mentioned rings a bell though, let me know.


-Roz

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Mmm, well how long are you dating at the moment?
A good advice is always talk about your problems with her, she might also have doubts about it....
If she says there's nothing wrong, or it's not your fault, it probably is, and she doesn't want to hurt you....
This is my opinion on it... correct me if i'm wrong!

Amonx9

You've done it in the past, and now all of a sudden she won't have sex anymore?
Something must be up, this doesn't just happen out of nothing.

She's your girlfriend, talk to her about it openly. If you feel uncomfortable talking to her about this, then I suggest you reconsider being in a relationship at all.

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Well I dont think its because of our first time , our first time was just a drunken night , something was said about it and nothing esculated we were both happy about that , I see her a few weeks later we hit it off again , we start paying attention to each other more and do more boyfriend\ girlfriend stuff and then eventually became exclusive to each other for the past 2 months.
I think thats one of the problems Roz that she doesnt like her body.


Im hoping its not that ha !
Im just going to have to grow some balls and just ask her about it

on a side note how much is too much texting ? as i feel like im fulfilling her emotional needs via texts too much.

I remember one of my friends put off having sex with her boyfriend because she wanted to "lose a couple of pounds first"; these situations are more common than you guys think.

Like I said, the best thing you can do is tell her how good she looks, how hot she makes you, how much you want her etc.
Try getting it on at night with the lights off, under the covers... she might be more comfortable that way.

The bad news is that only she can make this problem go away; either she needs to work on changing her perception of herself, or work on actually fixing whatever is making her so insecure. Unfortunately for you, until one of these two things happen, you probably won't be having sex with her on a regular basis.
And by the way, if she is in fact holding back due to body issues, she will never admit this to you.


-Roz

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Cheers Roz , im going to apply this next time i see her and try and make her feel better about her self

You sure another guys not giving it to her?

positive , We have a mutual trust . besides the fact that it would have gotten back to me by now , i know where she is like everyday and she would be too scared for the guys sake as she knows that i would break him .