So I got back with my ex we are not in relationship we are taking things slowly she is waiting for me to become things official.
She told me she had one rebound guy immediallty after we broke nothing sexual, I had my share of girls too . The problem here that she lied when I asked her how many guys she had, but since im very good reading body language I notice she was hidding something but then after a couple days she confess to me that after one month and half of our breakup she was introduced to guy(he was from another continent) in a wedding that she said she spent two wonderfull days. She told me that even I wasnt that special, she told me also that they probabbly would be together if he didnt have to go away. So after 2 months of that guy here I am with her, but i didnt like the" even you wasnt that special like him" that thing hurt my Ego unfortanely I have a big ego lol.

After that she went to her parents house and going to stay the weekend there she is saying she miss me and all that neediness and im flaking out a bit not talking much to her. im kind mad. Waiting always her to contact me

So what you guys think should I be offended ? what would you do? How would you respond? Im feeling Im the second choise should I? Im thinking of breaking up but after all those time trying to get back im like all this hard work.

id be super choked if someone says that to me. especially an ex. and if she said shed still be with him if he didnt have to go away would make me have alot of trouble trusting her. i think you should be very careful either drop her or take it slow like wait a while more before becoming official.

if you want to hear a worse story here it is
I have been cheated twice by my girlfriend.We have a verry nice relationship we have an amazing sex life and also emotionally we are bounded to eachother anyway at first I forgive because she seemed devastating to me and keep saying 'I wont doi it again I am so sorry' but from her earlier relationships she always cheated her boyfriends lots of times and when we were talking at the begining of our relationship she said to me that I never cheat you because I know the horrible consequences and I love you so I believe that lie her but after two weeks ago she cheated again me with another boy so this time I deleted her from my life
NOW she calls me everyday says sorry I am so bad right now I cry everyday every moment please accept me bac but I dont want anymore my heart was broken already.She seems like she love her roomate but actually she doesnt she actually made her broke up with her boyfriend secretly but her roommate doesnt know that she use her every time and her roommate assume that they are close friend but its a lie.
I really find her roommate attractive how can I pick up her roommate and make a clear finish about this girls curelty please help me
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bra_dy

bra_dy,

I know you have to post 20 times before creating your own thread, but hijacking others to get your own advice is kind of weak. Just be patient and participate a bit.

Carlos,

I don't think your ego is necessarily too large because you're bothered being told you're basically #2. What she said was just plain shitty, and honestly if it were me I would have told her then and there that if I wasn't that special, then there's no need for her to waste her time with me.

Maybe more importantly, you were exes for a reason. Maybe it's best to remember that and cut your losses now. Not saying you can't ever work it out with an ex, but you're already having concerns on the second go-around. I feel you that it seems like a waste of time and investment, but such are relationships, and they don't ever have to be a "waste" as long as you take something away from each one of them to make the next one better.

Good luck.

Carlos424"

She told me that even I wasnt that special, she told me also that they probabbly would be together if he didnt have to go away. So after 2 months of that guy here I am with her, but i didnt like the" even you wasnt that special like him" that thing hurt my Ego unfortanely I have a big ego lol.

No, you shouldn't be offended by her childish, petty, sh*t tests because she can't help herself. She doesn't know any better. Unfortunately, you have now screwed yourself. The fact that you are with her communicates 'weakness'. Now she knows you will take whatever she dishes out and her respect for you is zero.

By flaking out and making her initiate communication you are playing her immature games. You are acting like a hurt girlfriend, instead of the Alpha leading the relationship.

What you should have done (after her comment) is set her a$$ straight in a true alpha male fashion then kick her to the curb. Her comment, although childish is disrespectful.

bra_dy:

I really find her roommate attractive how can I pick up her roommate and make a clear finish about this girls curelty please help me

What you need to do is forget this girl and her roommate. Why would you want to mess with the girl's roommate anyway. All you are doing is setting yourself up for more drama and nonsense my friend. But then again, maybe you enjoy the abuse?

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

I'd drop her after that. Not cool.

Didn't you write the thread "How to behave with ex girlfriend"

So now back to basically the same thing. You come here asking for advice, who knows how many have told you to dump her, but you make excuses...You don't want advice or you would have dumped her the first time, what you want is someone to agree or tell you to keep working on her, so I'm not going to tell you to dump her, I'm going to tell you just what you seem to want to hear.

Go for it Carlos, do everything you can to make it work, let her break your heart, rob you of your self esteem, shatter what little bit of confidence you have, humiliate you, hey, but don't worry, it'll be all right, after that she'll cry and tell you she's sorry...