Ive just come out of a 4 year relationship. Yes I got back with my ex for four months. Big mistake!


As you can imagine I am in no rush to get back into a relationship. So how to you engineer a "friends with benefits" instead of falling into the relationship zone?

Will watch this thread closely, I need advice on this too.

And how do you do it without breaking the poor girls heart?

well in my experiences and from what ive seen, there isnt much of a way to actually ask/tell them you just want to be friends w benefits because almost every gets pissed off and we all know where that goes. from my past all i could tell you is that you could ease into the whole thing (start out kissing and slowly progressing, you know, the whole thing) and just dont talk about dating and DONT say i love you, ie made that mistake before. if things go right then it should just fall into place for a FWB relationship and if farther down the road you actually want to date the person then your all set.

The only downside to this is its almost all risk and reward, if things dont work then you pretty much have to cut the ties w the person(not saying dont be friends or anything just that they wont be FWB w you), so if you have a specific person in mind and no one else then tread carefully. but if things go right your all set.

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It will still be a point that she is going to ask you if you are together and if she has assumed that this was a relationship then she will be angry too.

I think FWB can work if it is the girl's idea.

scenarios
She tells you she has a bf- you have a gf
shes single- you just got out of a relationship

that works for me, but be prepared for her to asked about your "ex girlfriend"

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Be honest... that's the best. Just let the girl your going to be seeing know that your are NOT looking for a relationship and that you just want to enjoy that time you guys are having.

Samex

But you would say that after the first time you have had sex right?
Or would that lead to feeling of resentment because you basically used her?

I just know the response I will get "....you......don't want to be with me? fine, dont talk to me anymore!!"