Alright guys, I'm in a bit of a dilema and I think you lot are the only people that can get me out of it.

So my old man owns a pub. I used to do alot of labouring work at this pub. While I was working there my dad employed an 8.5 to work behind the bar. We ended up getting pretty close. There was definite attraction there but I never had the balls to do anything about it. Then she left.

About 6 months later she came back to work at the pub. I'd nearly forgotten about her but was disapointed with myself that I didnt ask her out (this is way before I dicovered the seduction community). So I finally work up the balls to ask her and just before I do she tells me shes got a boyfriend. Game over. Or so I thought...

With Christmas coming up the pubs going to get real busy so I agreed to work for a couple hours christmas day. That day I get a message from her saying shes down for crimbo, shes single, and wants to meet up, turns out were both working Christmas day. And thats where I need your help.

I want to play it cool with her, like I'm not bothered. But in actual fact I'm shitting it. I want to sleep with her, and maybe even take it a bit further but every time I even think about the christmas shift I start getting all nervous. What am I going to be like on the day!? Can you guys offer me any advice on keeping my cool? I fooking hate one-itis!


Trashedteen

Are you approaching other females?

It seems like you've singled her out; perhaps your first or second lay?

Either way thats a bad idea not to have options. Women want a guy with options, even if they were just cheated on by a bf.

I'd say approach other females even in front of this girl be social, do all you can but don't put too much emphasis on one chick.

No, not approaching other girls at the moment, feel like I need a lot of inner game work before I can start approaching. She'd be my 7th, I'm not anxious about sleeping with her... its just, well I don't really know why I'm anxious and thats what makes me anxious!

So I've got 3 weeks before I have to work with her, what do you guys suggest?

Alright, so she came in the pub again today, got really nervous again. Had to get out of there. Could really use some help here. What annoys me is that I dont get nervous around anyone else. Just her.

I have 2 weeks to sort out the situation. Anyone got any advice?

Since she already liked you before you knew about this community it isn't really necessary to start training and practising with pick up lines and things like that.
It all has to do with inner game in this situation I think.

Someone (can't remember who, but props to the guy) once taught me that when you're intimidated by a girl's beauty (inner and outer), you should focus on her flaws. Realise that she's just a human being (Yes, severe one-itis might make you forget that.) with many insecurities as well.

Make yourself realise this and I'll help, I'm sure.

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Just make sure when you work with her you arent focused on her, focus on another girl in the pub or all the girls inthe pub, focus on a guy(as a friend) and let her initiate contact with you, good luck!

sounds like you've got cold feet about this whole thing, lemme guess not much self esteem and a naturally nervous type...

someone already said it but dude SHE LIKED YOU before all this (despite your best efforts)

She is attracted to you, accept that as reality and be comfortable in your own skin, just dont blast ehr with attention and play it cool- sean connery james bond cool

maybe after your shift you can share some hot cocoa with booze in it in a christmasey setting, she wont forget that

Haha, cheers for the help guys. Your all right, I'm basically pysching this thing up to be be something its not. Its christmas, my little baby brothers just been born and theres alot more to my life than this one girl.

I'm going to play it cool, Sean Connery James Bond cool , and just see how it goes. If there's nothing there then it really isnt that big a deal, theres plenty of 8/9s out there for the taking.

Really appreciate the help, hopefully anyone else in my situation and can learn from this post too.


Trashedteen.