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Here is the situation:
Run game on waitress...not getting IOIs so I ignore
after a couple weeks said waitress starts chatting me up, touching me, throwing IOIs. It got really good when I started gaming another waitress but that story can be for another post.
Finally get waitress's number but also find out she has a boyfriend. I text that weekend but she doesn't respond so I delete the # (don't like wasting time when I could be looking for others).
Well last night she comes up to me slaps me on the arm, splling my beer some, and she says, text me again, last Friday I got your text but couldn't come out and I got a new phone so I don't have your number. She asked ME for it...cool lol. After getting a big smile and telling her she doesn't get my number if she is always going to be so pushy, I told her the truth, that I no longer had her number. My friend was watching and said the look on her face was priceless. So, there is definite attraction here. My question is, because last time she didn't respond to my text, I want to make sure there is no flaking again. Would it be ok to send a text making her qualify at this point? Maybe something like "Hey I'm about to give you the opportunity of a lifetime!! You can come out tonight and prove to me there is more to you than just looks" Or do I not want to have her qualify yet and wait til she is out with me? This has been a lonnng process with this one, but I feel im finally turning a corner. Just wanted opinions on how to take this further.
Also, if she doesn't bring her boyfriend out would that be considered an IOI? And if she does, should I just befriend him like any other obsticle? Thanks in advance guys, I know this post was somewhat poorly written...it's late here in the states!
Sounds like you've managed to get the attention of a hard to get girl, if she's chasing you down after you didn't text her and you deleted her number, she's obviously not used to being turned down like this.
But now that part's done and there's no need to be an arse. She's chasing you now.
That text you suggested is terrible, IMO. "The opportunity of a life time" is so ridiculously self-inflated it sounds insecure. "Come out and prove to me there's more than looks" sounds just like you're trying to bait her to come out, sending the message that you assume she won't.
Generally, you always want to send a fun and friendly vibe. People want to be around that kind of person. Don't let the PUA material fool you into thinking you're always supposed to be DHVing every step of the way and being overly cocky. It just produces stupid sentences like the one you suggested.
You should form messages that send the vibe that this is all normal for you but you're also keen on meeting up with her again.
And yes - never text when you can call. Choosing when to text or call gets better with experience, but generally speaking - calling should outweigh texting. Major exception is if it's becoming fairly obvious she's a "text conversation" girl and needs to build comfort through text conversations.
Last time she didn't respond to your text because of technical difficulties, she explained that. If you send that obviously "hurt" message (which is bad at the best of times) but in response to what was just an honest mistake on her part, you're going to seem like the biggest wuss ever.
So at this point - just ask her out the way you would any other girl. Put the same amount of effort in. You don't have to do anything special to get her attention, just the usual amount of flirting and funny stuff that you usually do, to maintain it.
Odds are the text you sent was a bit wierd, and she didn't reply, and did need to make a bit of an excuse. what was the text you initially sent?
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