blondguy
So, the time when asking too many questions is bad, is when you're asking quick, interview style questions to try and build and maintain rapport and seek commonalities. For example

AFC: Where are you from
HB: Spain
AFC: Oh cool. Uh, what do you do
HB: I'm studying
AFC: Nice. What?
HB: Literature
AFC: Uh huh. What'cha reading at the moment?
HB: Oh, lots of stuff. Listen, I gotta go meet my friend
AFC: Oh ok. Nice talking to you

I'm falling asleep just typing that shit!

The next level above that is at least having something to say about the topic. For example

AFC: Where are you from
HB: Spain
AFC: Oh awesome! I love Spain! I visited Madrid a few years back and had an amazing time! I saw X and Y and Z and it was great!

Now here, congratulations on DHVing, but again, you're not getting anything out of her. As soon as you've finished your Spain story, if she doesn't ask you anything, you're back to another interview question for her again.

The next level is turning questions into statements to get her to qualify herself immediately.

rAFC: You don't seem like you're from around here
HB: Why do you say that?
rAFC: Ah you just seem like you're seeing everything around you for the first time, and are a little confused by it all!
HB: Jaja, oh I see. I'm visiting from Spain actually
rAFC: No way! I love Spain -> DHV story.

the final piece is to tell your DHV story in a way which allows pauses for questions that allow her to open her own threads.

rAFC: No way! I love Spain. I actually stayed with a family there for an exchange programme years ago. It was fun but the family was really strange. Lemme ask you - is it normal in Spain for the men to do NOTHING but watch tv in their underwear whilst the women work, and then cook and clean all day?
HB: Yes / No / It depends -> maybe story of her own
rAFC: Yeah cuz the family dynamic was so weird and I felt really bad for the women of the household who were like saints! Is that what your family was like?
HB: Yes / No / Maybe story
rAFC: Oh ok. Well in my family it's like this...

In this example, I'm immediately getting quite personal info out of her, whilst DHVing about travel and understanding cultural difference and family dynamics. At each point, I give her an opportunity to open a thread of her own, but if she gives a one-word answer, I can just move on with my story. This is how you keep building thread after thread, and have that feeling that you never run out of things to talk about and can tell each other almost anything openly.

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You have some good points, but DHV USING STORIES is not necessary. You can DHV in a more affective way through body language, attitude, and confidence-being comfortable with yourself and not letting people walk all over you.

You want to get her to ASK YOU questions. THEN YOU DHV through story telling. If you are asking questions just so you can talk over and over about her answers and how that relates to you, you are going to come off as self-centered. DHV stories are just a means to sell yourself.

Why are you selling yourself to a women who has yet to qualify for you? Seems kind of desperate.

Being a mystery is more attractive than putting yourself out there. You want there to be something for her to figure out, like a puzzle. If you come off like something hard to figure out, the ego will tell itself "Nobody else can figure this guy out but I will be the one to do so."

You have two ways to converse that will reel her in.

Getting her to qualify for you.
Getting her to see if you qualify for her.