Hi,

its not really an emergency but I do need advice in the next couple of hours. Long story short ive been gaming this girl in class for a while and today I n-closed her and invited her to a party. Basically, unless she is faking all the IOIs in class she is into me. She is a HB9 or HB10 though so she knows she is hot and I feel like she is a bit of a tease with most guys.

Anyway here is how it went;

(After class, walking to next class, she followed me as I dont usually go the same way as her. She also showed me the "tan lines" she got on vacation; ones that werent on her back so im guessing that a major IOI)

ME: should I go to my next class?
HB:nah
ME: Yeh ur right Ill skip it, prob go home and sleep, I havent slept in days cuz of work for classes
HB: haha
ME: And then im drinking, havent done that in a while either
HB:I need to get drunk
ME: oh yeah, speaking of which, Im hosting some pre drinks tonight in my appartment and we're all going clubbing after, if you want to come.
HB: But Ive got a test tonight
ME:so come after
HB: then I gotta meeting I gotta attend so I can give my pledges a pep talk
ME: So? come after
HB: But Im not going out tonight
ME: So? just come out, its not like you are going to do anything better
HB: Ok (Me thinking: wow really?)
ME: Ill give you my address
HB: here give me your number, I cant believe I dont have your number yet.
ME: haha me either, its **********
HB: ok ill text you mine


After this we walked and talked about random stuff for 5 more minutes.

Problem is; it feels a bit like she just said yet but didnt really mean it. So now I gotta actually text her my address and make sure she actually comes cuz I feel like she might change her mind. So question is WHAT DO I TEXT??? and I need to know before I do it in like an hour or two. I dont know if to make the text personal or make it sound like I sent it to like 10 people. I was thinking the latter, something like this;

"Like I said Pre Drinks at my place, address is ------------, bring friends if you want, I have alcohol"


Other problem is I dont really have a definite thing happening tonight. Me and a friend discussed it last night and I dont know if people are going to bail on me. So what, if anything, do I text if nothing is happening or if people decided to just go clubbing instead.

u aii m8... i no its a l8888 reply lol... jus wanted 2 c how u got on? n what did u do?... cos i've had loads of situations lyk dat, the girl seems flakey and says yh yh etc but nothing comes of it you get me

ME: should I go to my next class?
HB:nah
ME: Yeh ur right Ill skip it, prob go home and sleep, I havent slept in days cuz of work for classes
HB: haha
ME: And then im drinking, havent done that in a while either
HB:I need to get drunk
ME: oh yeah, speaking of which, Im hosting some pre drinks tonight in my appartment and we're all going clubbing after, if you want to come.
HB: But Ive got a test tonight
ME:so come after
HB: then I gotta meeting I gotta attend so I can give my pledges a pep talk
ME: So? come after
HB: But Im not going out tonight
ME: So? just come out, its not like you are going to do anything better
HB: Ok (Me thinking: wow really?)
ME: Ill give you my address
HB: here give me your number, I cant believe I dont have your number yet.
ME: haha me either, its **********
HB: ok ill text you mine






Maybe she wanted to do something in the afternoon, or simply playing it cool. Theres definetely some interest in there.

I pretty much texted what I was going to and guess what? She didnt show, she replied like 4 hours later too with this text; "thanks, im still at work though". I ignored it and invited other girls over, we had fun.

So now its 5 days later and she is facebooking me random crap. She didnt bother contacting me all weekend and she didnt show to class today. There are a whole bunch of lets say "interesting" photos of me and two other girls on fb from the weekend so maybe there is jealousy?

I KNOW she wants attention an I KNOW there is a way to deal with girls like this I just dont know what that is. I have had experience with girls like that before, they txt, fb or call and ask random shit for hours on end seeking attention until usually months later I give up or she getsbored and tells me she is dating someone else. I didnt meet any like it since I joined the PU community though so I wonder what results the new perspective will yield.

As soon as I read that I new she wouldn't be comming out with you mate. If she says she can't come out, she can't come out. Then you begged her to come out like a little puppy. Not to worry, you can learn from this and move forward.

Going out with other girls and getting pics on F.B will definitely redeem you. It makes you look like you weren't WAITING for her to show up. Moreso, you were going out anyways and invited her to tag along.

You can recover. Next time say your going out with friends and she should come. If she says she cant, just say "ok no problem, I might text you about it next time".

Game on.

Im actually not that responsive to her. I just decided to make a move cuz she flirts with me in class all the time. Normally I dont care, I actually invited her to two parties that I threw and she didnt show to previousely. Afterward, I didnt even mention that she didnt bother to show.

I just got fed up with this constant teasing in class so I decided to gamble it all and see what happens by ACTUALLY asking her out rather then an annonymous fb invite. No biggie btw, since I usually have several girls lined up that im gaming (hence the photos).

in case you didnt fully understand the post above..


YOU BEGGED HER TO COME OUT!, then insulted her social life and she didn't really like that.. she kinda turned the light off on you at that point.

Other girls lined up or not dont keep gaming like this....

next time say, "ahh cool cool. schools important. We get on so well tho we are DEF hanging out soon! gimme your num"

then pick it up later....

NEVER beg.. and also if you do that you probably give girls hard times when they flake or cancel plans...dont.. it doesnt affect you... "thats cool.. we'll set up another time then.. but make sure you can make it next time cuz im a busy guy!"

dont be too confident to not recognize where you're going wrong here.