Really sorry if I am being repetitive with the posts here. I know I see hundreds of the same posts so really sorry

Ive had a quick search and have found a few things of good advice but still lacking that something I need.

Theres this girl I want to add on facebook. we only have 4 mutuals but she keeps popping up in the 'people you might know' collum.

I saw the poll about best ways to go about adding as in message first of add then message. So was going to just add her and wait till she accepts then send her a message.

I dont know what to say though and I dread the old 'DO I KOW YOU!!!!' So many hostile girls out there like that. Im not affraid of rejection just the way that comes across most of the time like their shouting in your face lol

Thanks for any advice!

I tend to add them, wait for the 'do I know you' and reply with:

'No, I was kinda just adding you cause you seem cute... '

And if you get a negative response, this one may turn it round:

Well, okay, to tell you the truth I wanna look like im a right player with all these hot chicks as friend. Thanks SO FUCKING MUCH for ruinging my act =]. '

I've had a fair few go for it, and a couple knock it back, but thankfully I a like that with everyone so people just see it as me taking the piss. No negative social rep.

As I always say: You gotta do what is congruent with your personality.

^^^
That will make you look creepy.

Why are people stalking facebook and not meeting girls in real life?

Actually, I've never had the 'creepy response... Here is one such convo:

HB: Do I know you?

Me: No, but you seem kinda cute and I like to look like a player... thanks for destroying that dream of mine =]

HB: Lol, busted.

Me: Just a bit. Right ill speak in a second, but I wanna go eat (y)

HB: K.

**TIME PASSES- day or two**

I notice a status convo with one of my good mates....

Andy
been to the gym to get all sexy and slim....Then to subway to put it all back on again
Sunday at 17:14 ·LikeUnlike · Comment

HB
subways healthy... :L

Andy
keep thinking that...

HB
it is.. Dont kill my obsession.... The chicken tikka with bbq sauce one i had today was defo gonna help me lose weight

ME
Andy you have the body god a god... don't let anyone tell you otherwise =]
...
Shame that god is buddah, though
*Kelly likes this*.

ME:
HB, try my own special sub: 12 inch Teryaki chicken, extra chicken tikka, two lots of extra cheese, all toasted on w.e bread you fancy, with no salad but shagloads of BBQ sauce....
re-fucking-sult.
Expensive, though.

HB
that sounds IMPRESSIVE!!!!! may have to try it some day.... preferably after christmas when i can afford to waste my money

Me:
fucking effort!!
Make sure they go mental with the bbq sauce though.

HB
i'm only little so it would have to be a 6"
DONT THINK IT
But i do love bbq sauce!

Me:
wait ONE second
you dont even know me, but already understand my sense of humour? whats going on here??? stalker =]

HB
that is EVERY male's sense of humour.. Dont flatter yourself

Me:
haha perhaps you dont know me then.... =]
Pffft I've been warned about girls like you.

HB
girls like me? :/

Me:
yeah- slags. =O

HB
ouch! =P

Me:
awww! ‎*huggles snuggles n dirty cuddles*

Sorry to break it to you =] But yeah listen im off to work on my physique... by eating copious quantities of penguins and drinking champagne with my mum xD I might even pull.

So yeah speak another time, if ...you're lucky ;D xx

HB
lmao have fun

Andy
thank-you for having a chat on my status D:

Me:
Andy, girls cant help flirting with me... shame ______ is so shit at it =]

Andy:
_____ preferes to be straight up raped... Go for it.

Me:
ANDY!! you KNOW my style is to lull them into a false sense of securty first xD

HB:
thanks andy, make me look like even more of a slag D:

Me: =D god andy, can't you see shes tryna impress me here? =P


FB chat:

Kelly: I'm so not a slag

Me: Sure, sure.

Kelly: I'm not!!!

Me: Prove it.

Kelly: How?

Me: Take me out for a coffee and try not to fuck me =]

Kelly: Dream on.

Me: Gotta shoot for the moon! Shame I missed and ended up burning in the sun =]

Kelly: Haha, so you're calling me hot?

Me: Don't get ahead of yourself there, I think this coffee needs to be arranged first! Tuesday?

Kelly: Nawww, gotta look after my sis, sorry xx

Me: pffft, fine ><

Kelly: Wednesday? I'll try to keep my hands off you lmao

Me: you will fail.

Kelly: Meh.



Well, tomorrow is wednesday..... I'll let you know how it goes.

Still, my point is machida, Anything can be used as an opener so long as it is congruent with your personality. For me, the girls who knock it back aren't usually the type I wanna talk to anyway. Thay is why a lot of my game seems to be rather extreme and in your face. I want a girl who can play my game.

You cannot condemn someones game purely on theoretics. Perhaps to YOU it may look creepy, but I have field tested it and can say it works in a good 80% of cases...

As with many things in life: Dont knock it till ya tried it

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Thanks Taffy I shall deffo try that opener!
Thanks for the the reply.

And Machida I never said I don't meet girls in real life. This isnt about stalking one Person. I've never been a fan of putting my all in to online gaming. Mainly down to the effort put in for the little reward that comes from it. It's just something extra I do to help me improve my overall game & to gain possible meets.

If anyone has any other advice that would be great

Thanks

Depending on how many friends they have (if it shows) 4 mutuals might be enough to have them accept a request without questioning who you are. People make assumptions off people they know. Otherwise you can either distract them from thinking who are you, or leverage your request off something you've seen them say on one your 4 mutual friends pages or you can create the illusion of "knowing you" by having a conversation(s) with them on a friend's page, refer back to something in the friend request txt box.

Hmmm, there's a girl with like 23 mutual friends, all of my close friends seem to know her except for me lol.

What, the, fuck?

yes 23 mutual friends with me and I have never met her. She even sent me a facebook message two years ago congratulating me on a piece of mine she heard being played by an Orchestra. I was massive afc back then so I just said thanks and stuff pretty much...

I'm totally going to fucking hunt her down and get to know her just so I don't feel so out of the loop. LOL

Also Taffy, you are mega smooth. Skill. Skill. That's a little what I am like on chat rooms but you seem even better at the style.

Cocky and Funny on chatrooms... works REALLY well.

So what if she accepts not even asking who are you ? I am thinking of trying that one ... making it a lill confusing.

Me: added her on facebook not saying anything (4 mutuals)
HB8: Accepts the invite
Me: After one, two day I go online on chat and try to find her there and if there I open with, "Why you added me ? Do I know you ? "
HB8: You added me ...
Me: Huh I dont remember. Anyway you didnt answer my question, do we know each other ?
HB8: No I think we dont, not that I would know (I dont know her)
Me: We should, you seem nice, give me number and I call you when I am in center

then ... you are not in center for at least 4-7 days and then one morning you send a text. Hey I think ill be center today, maybe we can get on this coffe we planned.

And if she says, yes ok, you text her 2-3 hours before the coffe should happen saying ... Oh ... I have this one big thing came up I cant make it today. We ll meet some other time. (Do I add sry or not ?)

And then in 2 days you text her hey still up for the coffe ? Maybe we can go to a glass of wine today in the evening ?

So go drink full botlle of wine, woppppa f close

Edit: God reading one more time for the first and I dont like this opener, FUCK!

did that actually happen?

if they accept without question you don't have to tackle the who are you thing.They might still be thinking it to some degree but the fact they accepted gives you a free pass. They'll trust you're "alright" based on the implied fact that 4 mutual friends think you're "alright". It's highly unlikely they'll pointedly ask who you are. If you seem cool and fun they'll soon forget that thought.

this one works for 90% of the time on hot chicks, on not so hot chicks it will work like 95% guaranteed.
if it is on facebook
you add the girl, most girl will response right away, if she doesn't just say hey, but wait a couple of minutes (30minutes or something like that)
she : hi
you: hi
she: how you doing?
you : perfect and u?
she : good
she: who are you?
you: I'm ....(your name) and u?
she: I'm...(her name), do we know each other?
you : yeah
she : where do we know each other from?
you: :O , I can't believe you don't remember
she : sorry, I don't remember
you: guess
she: I don't know
you: you sure?
she: yes
you: we know each other from.....
you : Facebook
she: haha or lol or something like that

and the from this point start working her, I did it on about 50 chicks and it worked well for above 47 chicks or something like that

Haha, witty!

To the answer, no it didnt happen

Ok so another few comments. It seems loads of girls just ignores the friend invite even tho. we have mutual friends. Any thoughts on that ? We clearly have to open through private massage ?

Another thing which comes to my mind is a lot of girls is offline, they have chat turned off, so again aproach through private massage ? Aproaching with I dont know Hi, how are you ? through pm would be wierd so something not so "instant" is needed.