Hey guys
So I met up with a girl I liked on Monday, and we had a great day.
I invited her over to my house a few days later. I couldnt even put my arm around her, it was just the two of us.

feeling frustrated, worreid that since i hadnt kissed on Day 2 i was immediately in the friend zone, i called her up and told her straight up that im interested in her (I know you shouldnt do this, but to me it felt like a last resort)
She replied positively, saying she really liked me more as a friend also.

Despite this, I STILL doubt myself so much. I cant even imagine myself kissing her, thinking she is going to reject me.
Today is Day 3. She is bringing a friend with her (was originally a gathering with 17 people).
I feel SO nervous that i feel sick. Every date i get more nervous as i have more pressure to Kclose. And today i dont think I can, since her friend is going to be there.

I KNOW she likes me, its obvious the way she talks to me etc "You should be here "
Yet im still incredibly nervous to the point where i feel nauseas. I feel constantly like im going to slip into the friend zone, and have nightmares about it.

Im 18 and havent ever kissed a girl. I dont know if this is rash, but im starting to wonder if im going to end up gay. I dont like guys, but im the only guy i know who has never kissed a girl...im thinking MAYBE its because i dont "want" it enough? I have no idea. I feel like absolute shit though

What can I do to fix up my inner dilemma? What do i need to do to get in with this girl?
Is her bringing a friend a sign that shes over me? (she told me she liked me 2 days ago)

I think my confidence issues are based around the face that:
-I havent kissed a girl
-Im 5'6
-I look really young for my age (probably 15-16))

Im sorry its not even clear with what im asking..i really dont know WHAT im asking. I just need advice desperately.
Any is appreciated, thanks so much in advance

You are not the amount of girls you've kissed
You are not your length
You are not your looks


Everything you described there is you comparing yourself to society's (better yet, hollywood's) bullshit unreachable standard.

Comparing yourself to someone or something else is a losing battle to begin with.


BTW, ditch this girl

she mentioned you as a FRIEND. Game over there, buddy.

You are currently her cuddlebitch

look it up here

www.laddertheory.com

And

watch fightclub

and go out and meet new girls

no no as in she said she liked me MORE than a friend
haha not more AS a friend
(sorry)

Fight club rocks.
Thanks for saying that thing more importantly though, about hollywood standards. Youre right, they are unreachable. What you said really sort of made me think differently about myself, truthfully.

BTW I kissed her. Twice on the lips. Was effing difficult, but i could see she was nervous too as she was walking me out of her home, she kept being like "Im really sorry today wasnt that fun My house SUCKS" and I held her around the waist and stopped and said "You really that embarrassed? Do you honestly believe i would rather stay home then spend time with you?" and she paused, so i did it
Then we hugged for a few secs, and i went in again.
Since then, she has been texting me way more and is asking alot of questions like "what are you up to?" to keep conversations going.

Sorry about the more than enough detail, but im just so rapped. Finally k-closed for the first time, and i feel comfortable completely around her now, as i know shell let me do it again.

The point is, even if me and her dont work out, I believe I can do this again in the future It seems like it will be 100x easier the next time i try and kiss not only her, but ANY girl.

Thanks mate, REALLY appreciate your response. I need to stop comparing myself to others. Im a young guy with the potential to do this.