At first I thought it was my problem, but recently my girlfriend confessed that she finds it hard to talk to me on the phone. I haven't really had this problem with anybody else in the past except with her (problem being from her side), so I don't exactly know how to cure this.

I thought decreasing the number of phone conversations would help, but it's almost like she NEEDS at least one conversation a day. It's like she knows she has this problem of running out of things to talk about, yet she wants to talk. Now, I remember having hour-long convos with my exs, & phone conversations are vital for women, so i want to get rid of this problem for US.


How do I make her more comfortable? Or should I just talk more than her.. because hell I wouldn't ever run out of things to talk about..

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please note phone conversations are NOT vital for all women, i certainly dont need them, esp lasting one hour!!! omg

to answer the question tho..is it that she:
- finds it hard to talk to YOU on the phone, rather than other people generally? - cant get a word in edgeways lol?
- has nothing interesting going on in her life?
- thinks you are not interested in what is going on in her life?
- is not 'all about her'?

have you tried asking her lots of open and 'probing' questions about her, her day, how she feels etc etc etc

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Ariana is absolutely right, phone conversations are not vital for women, and it certainly seems like they are more "vital" for you in this case, not your girl.

I too hate long phone conversations- in fact, I also hate texting, and taking part in MSN/Facebook conversations about NOTHING... If it starts with "So... whatchu been up to?" it's just annoying...

1. Don't call her. Let her call you. If she wants to talk, she'll call- if she doesn't, she won't.

2. Keep your conversations short. (This means 10-15 minutes max, not half an hour +).



-Roz

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