Met a girl at bar had great conversation. Got her number. I text her couple days later with a good opener found on this forum. I got a solid response which led to a few lines of small talk then died off...

I good with the openers etc.. I never have anything good to say after the first few initial lines.. I dont want to texting to last forever, just short and sweet but i feel like when it dies of mid convo then its not a good thing.. Am i wrong... I am not very experienced when it comes to getting numbers then following up..

Also, Now that i have made initial contact and she hasnt writin me back.. How long should I wait till I open on her again?

Is it bad that the guy always initiates?

Basically my main question is how do I escalate after the first few texts instead of it fading into small talk?

It's probably too late.

Next time you need to keep texting to a minimum and arrange a day 2.

hmm.. that didnt really help me at all

Well he's right...

need to get to the date as soon as possible.......

until then... you have to keep the interest there... be funny RANDOMLY and serious RANDOMLY. find out about her a bit.. what shes into etc... if shes foreign where shes from.... etc....then throw some jokes in, som cocky stuff....

my text game is almost perfect... and one thing ive found is that some girls just suck at it or just dont invest in it.... you can usualyl tell right off the bat if its not going well. if she isnt playful.. if her msgs are short.... you're not gonna change her mind most likely cuz she doesnt like you enough... either the pick up wasnt great or shes just genuinely too busy and ur not much of a priority... and yes you can become one by hooking her with good convo and humour but IF she doesnt bite.. then she most likely wont.. you can just drop it cold... and try again in 3 weeks

yeah I understand.. but i would think 3 weeks is a long time.. There would be some definite loss of any attraction.. You were saying get a 2 right away, then you say 3 weeks.. kinda opposite.

I think the most important piece of advice is already been given: need to get to the date as soon as possible. Maybe this can be helpful too:

With texting and sending messages, besides the usual stuff (e.g. less text than her etc....) I always try to think one step ahead. What CAN she reply? More importantly, is she likely to reply? If she is unlikely to reply (or I dont know), dont bother.

no you misunderstood....... get the day 2 within the same week...if possible or the following weekend...

im saying at THIS point.... stop msgn her.. stop callin... and just let it be for three weeks.. THEN try and set up a day two... "hey totally forgot about you.. we are sooo hanging out this thursday..."

etc.......

if she happens to msg YOU while youre not talking to her.. wait two hours to respond... then if she is positively responding then respond within 30 mins and so on.. but otherwise NOW that its faded off..... you should let it die and start it up again later. ie in three weeks... or two. whatevs.

Ah okay, thanks for clarifying. That does make more sense.

So anyway, as I said before about the conversation just dying well she ended up texting me this afternoon replying to the last txt I sent.. Im assuming that that is a good sign? Otherwise she wouldnt have bothered right.. I was soo busy at work that It 6 hours for a response..

With all of your experience what is the best way to set up the day 2 when I barely know her?

BridgeBurner has it right - nothing may happen with her but best chance is to just leave it and say you were busy (worked for me in the past)

You don't want to come across as "I've been too busy for you" and you want to let her know you are keen on hanging out with her again. Bridge's sentance does all that and in an alpha way, it's a good one. But it's got to be you as well.

Here it is again for reference

"hey totally forgot about you.. we are sooo hanging out this thursday..."

Just read your last post, sounds like things are happening again anyway. What were the texts you've exchanged so far?

You just want to set up lunch, something light and easy, eg. Sunday afternoon. Fairly obvious you're not planning on "getting her in bed" if it's a work day the next day. You don't want to send that vibe, you want to send a "You seem cool, I'm just sussing you out till I know you better"

Not anything long..

She did text me this evening asking me what I was doing cause she was finding something to do.. I was thinking about going out but now would be a good chance to meet up..

What would be a solid place to go with my buds then tell her to meet up? Bar, club? I'm more more of a bar person..

Wow if she's asking YOU for something to do... smooth sailing from here I think - but easiest trap to fall into here is being too aloof when she puts herself out there for you. Being cool and aloof is all well and good, but if there is a key moment when she puts herself out there and shows interest (in a way that's difficult for her to do because she's making herself vulnerable), and you still act aloof, you'll lose her so fast you won't know what hit you. You should always reward her interest, by acting just as interested back, just a little less than she is.

If you're a bar person then you should meet up at a bar

In my humble opinion...

You don't need to wait 3 weeks. The conversation fades off because your inner game is weak. Do whatever you want, there are no 'rules' to picking up a girl. Three weeks is a long ass time, you'll probably forget about her, and she'll definitely forget (mostly) about you. Just get the date asap (aka NOW) not wait then try to restart. It won't work.

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Yes, I agree. Three weeks is a very long time. We ended up not seeing each other the other night, but her texting me was a good thing. I will prolly open her again to with a solid funny opener and take it from there.. This time I would like to ask her out..

What would be the best way to do so.. where is a good place to meet up for the first time? Coffee? happy hour?