Hey Guys,

Ask you a question that I cannot seem to resolve.

So I have been dating this girl for almost 2 months now,

It feels like I am always the one that needs to call her. And that she rarely, if ever has called to check up on me.

Is this normal? I mean it seems that most girls I know have a reason to never/rarely call the guy unless the guy asks her to.

In addition, I am always the one that wants to meet her, never the other way around.

Is there some logic behind this? Or is the guy always suppose to be the one to checkup on the girl?

Thanks again!

Like this she can easily take you, your attention and your presence for granted.

Don't do it. Freeze her out by concentrating on other things than her (usually with friends and sport) until she also calls you/texts you. If she doesn't do it in an adequate time, I'd be worried a little in your case.

It depends what you want out of the relationship. If you want this to actually go somewhere than you will need to change some things. In all my past "normal" relationships the girls have always called/text just as much if not more than i would call them. Usually when things started going bad is when the frequency of their calls would go down.

Was she always this way even from the beginning? First few months of a relationship the girl should be calling you a lot. Sounds like you care more about it than her which means she has all the power. I would employ some aloof asshole game and just become distant and not as available for a while and see how that goes.

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Really simple, you're just calling too much so she never feels the need to talk to you as it's not been long enough since you last spoke.

maybe she isnt clingy desperate and needy, but instead is confident, has a busy social life that doesnt revolve around you and you need to make an appointment if you want to see her otherwise she has other things she can be doing

this may mean that she is an incredibly fantastic amazing girl, i dont know?

if she's not then i wudnt bother wasting your time on her

but if she is, then do what you can to keep her, otherwise you will lose her and end up going out with a clingy desperate needy girl who is unconfident and is so unconfident she calls you every 5 minutes to see what you are doing and if you still luurve her

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I used to think the exact same thing. Even with my GF of 7 months now, its always me the one setting up the dates. I don´t know, I guess its kind of a social thing that the guy is supposed to go for the girl. Just think about it this way: if she´s accepting to see you, then she wants to see you. She just wants you to ask her

in my experience there are a lot of girls out there who are in a different mindset. they have been raised by their parents to always think that the guy should always be the one to call first along with a few other things. i belive that its just an old fashioned way of thinking that has been passed on from mother to daughter. ofcourse i think with some work that it can be reversed if she really cares enough for the guy but i wouldnt worry too much about it. if you ask her to hang out or somithing like that and if she agrees all the time and never tries to make up excuses then she is diggin you and you dont have much to worry about

I once had a girl do the same thing to me, back in high school when i thought i was the shit and i could juggle 2-3 girls at once. So i wasn't thatttt interested in her but she was the hottest girl i was talking to at the time, and when I would text I would get lame, boring and sometimes short as fuckkk texts. She was down for the pound I was certain but I found out she wasn't anywhere as needy as I cause she was getting her mail through the backdoor by her ex the whole time we were talking. >>Find out if shes still eating leftovers, cause that situation applies to a few of my buddies as well so don't count that scenario out.

Also, if you do find out that the chick is just that way and you don't like that at all. Push the sexual vibe and see if you can't bed her down proper doper like an all beef whopper, then find a girl that won't leave you the fuck alone.

but i had a experience where i was in the same shape as u ya know the chick always wantin me to call her first but it was because i kinda hinted around about her being clingy so i'd just reccomend thinking back about if there was anything that you could have said that would have influenced her wantin u to call all the time

Even my female friends that I'm NOT romantically linked with make contact occasionally just to check in or say hi. Women are social, and generally want to talk about crap. Typically crap you don't care about.

Now, the question is: Are you calling her so often that she feels no need to call you? Or do you just call her a couple times a week and she doesn't say/text/call/email you at all in the interim? Because the latter would be weird.

ariana: Even if she's not making the plans because she's busy, she'd want to talk to someone she cares about. Betting even the most independent woman in the world calls her best friend a few times a week, right?

If she's not calling to tell you about the funny thing her cat just did, she's not thinking about you.

the only way to know is to stop calling her. Make note of how long it takes her to call you. If you usually talk to her every day, then she should not wait more than a day to call you. If she doesn't then something is up, or rather her interest level has gone down.

Real simple. Don't call or text and see if she gets in touch with you. Always take longer to reply to her texts than she takes to reply to yours, and only send 1 text for every 2 she sends you. Don't be so available. She clearly feels like she can take you for granted, and this will actually lower your value and attraction.

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There are cases where a girl is very traditional and expects the man to handle these types of things.

That said, they are rare these days and if you want more than just a friend, you'll need to get her to call you every now and then.

With the one exception above, if a girl really likes you, she will make an effort to be in contact with you, always.

Generally, if you have to think about if she likes you, she doesn't like you as much as you're hoping.

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yeah i have the same problem

funny thing is girls are told the same thing, dont call him, wait for him to call you or contact you,

so many stupid games, i odn teven know why i bother anymore

She should text/call back if she really likes you. freeze out for a few days, if she doesn't say anything in 5 days, id re evaluate some stuff in your relationship