I have tried everything, I'm 16 never had sex, never even had a girlfreind :/, Even though I have extream aproach anxiety I have aproached women, but all of them were met at bustops standing on there own :/ My aproach anxiety dosn't let me aproach any were else , I have tried npl anchoring, I don't have afucking clue what to do, all my problems in my life lead to women, It's my largest desire and also the only thing I don't have, Please someone help me, Btw I dress quite smartly and have been complimented many times, so it isn't my dressing code, maybe my race? , but is don't think race matters in pua, please:)

With all that desire you have to find a girl it is not surprising that you have such a high problem of approaching anxiety.

You're 16, you have your whole life to improve and learn. Everyone has their natural talents, for some that it getting girls, not so much for others. If you are not a natural you simply have to learn, it's like anything else in life.

Another big issue is that girls are not the most important thing in your life, you do not revolve around them. They can supplement your life, but you need to focus on yourself first.

I'm 18 right now, when i was 16 I never kissed a girl, even held a girls hand, I don't think Ive ever even cuddled. Basically i was in the same situation as you. When i was 17 i got my first girlfriend, she had problems but thats ok, I wasn't expecting it to last forever. Thats when I had my first kiss, held hands and all that other stuff. The point is itll come with time, practice, and determination. I'm still a virgin at this point but thats entirely my fault, she was completely willing. The fact that her mom was crazy and would probably kill me is what deterred me, that's not the point though.

Stick with it, If you think you're at rock bottom now the only direction is up right?

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haha youre fucking 16! im 19 mate, didnt get laid till i was nearly 18.

im pretty sure id never 'approached' someone until i was 18 and until a few months ago; sober.

just complete the newbie mission (as you cant do nightgame) and just literally do it constantly for as long as it takes until walking around town or a mall feels normal.

may take a few months, may take a few years. either way as long as you keep at gaming women you'll get laid before i did, you silly billy!

just do your best to make conversation with strangers and women and then to game them. make little goals each day/week to do involving what you do/say to women.

but make sure saying "hi" to a hottie you see in the street is a normal part of your being.

man i wish i started gaming at 16, saved me a lot of embarrassing moments in my life and crying. oh well.

peace and love

Shah

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"You don't want girls to think you suck dick at fucking pussy"
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I aproached a 9 on the yesterday had her laughing her balls of, I can only aprocah women that are on there own, and after I aproach them I don't give ashit who comes to the buststop or where ever it is i'm talking to them :/, I can never sit next to and talk to a hot girl on thebus/train walking, in agroup , only girls at a place like abustop and only if shes on her own :/

make it your MISSION to open a group of girls 2 or 3.

make a weekend of it, go to a big city if you can and spend your day, start off saying hi to everyone then open 1set women and get them laughing as you can then build up to groups.

a good way is to just start off with opinion openers if your having trouble and make it a genuine opinion question you want to know about so you actually are interested in what they have to say.

all we need are baby steps man.

EDIT: why are you being depressed about opening a 9 and doing well?

thats good. stop trying to live upto unrealistic standards. youve accepted you need to do something (open groups) and accepted you cant do it. now all you need to do is work on it. you should be happy.

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"You don't want girls to think you suck dick at fucking pussy"
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Thanks man you guys are actually alot nicer than i thought , really calmed me down, but what i'm frusdtrated about is not being able to aproach women in a public area :/, I can't even fucking aproach girls in my college class if there with there friends , thats the only problem I have My confidence is low for some wierd resson, I'm gonna go sky diving soon to get out of my head , dunno if it'll help :/, can I meet up with anyone here ? who lives in manchester that will be amazing O_O

I noticed you posted this in another section too.

Dont go skydiving. Just go around manchester shopping centre on a saturday and speak to women. open sets in mcdonalds or whatever.

This isnt a skydiving forum. you state your depressed and say that our posts have calmed you down.

but are you going to implement any?

social shyness/approach anxiety is caused by the typical human emotion built in but it actually stops people because they dont have a enough experience in doing so to realise that it really is nothing.

im still working on controlling my AA and im 19.

so be serious are you going to go do the newbie mission? then progressively add kino into your "hi"'s with the women you see?


yes and the newbie mission will cure that as long as you put effort in. i cant approach in college either i find whilst im walking around in public or nightgame is the only time. you will build your confidence to open anywhere as you progress.

This could be why for 2 years you havent gotten far because you're not taking advice.

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you might be right O_O, Went out couple of minutes ago opened a 3 set wtf :O, but the girls wern't hot, I'm slowly starting to realise that when aproaching I feel really hesitant no mater if its a girl a guy or an old grany O_O.

You guys have actually helped alot i never posted for help cause I didn't really think anyone would give a shit, I wasn't gonna comit suicide I just felt like it, I matured quite early because I have been through alot of shit and I mean ALOT!, I also studied psycology for 1 year properly , and yh thanks alot for your hewlp guys I really Really apreciate it .

Ps:can any one like give me their msn or something so we can talk in detail? That will be really help full.

Would going to a psychartist help my aa atall?

I do! but I am 28 years old and a girl and it would be strange to meet you

so?, Only mature people can understand what i'm going on about O_O

Don't sweat it,at 16 you have all the time in the world to experience life's disappointments and all the negativity in this fucked up world.I'm 19 and know what ur saying.The thing is,if you choose to do something stupid you destroy the chance of being happy.
Hang in there,think about progress not results.

Your 16 so your still young. But don't think that you have all the time in the world or someone will just come along. You have to work on it. There are people in there 30's and 40's who have less experiance with women than you do.

Let go of the perception that women is your main "desire" and learn how to love yourself, your friends, hobbies, etc. It sounds to me like you need to work on your own mental health rather than letting your approach anxiety get you down.

I was in your boat at one time. I envied people in relationships and wished I could maintain one of my own. After a while, I grew out of this phase and eventually let go of the idea that women or relationships are what is most important in life. I was a shy and introverted kid who realized that I needed to better myself if I was ever going to be TRULY happy in life.

A nice technique for overcoming social anxiety would be to simply smile or say "Hello" to women that you walk by in malls or other places of that SPAM.