This will probably make me out to sound like a total AFC, but.....

Can someone please tell me what an attractive lifestyle is?!

The very concept fascinates me. I have a very active lifestyle, so simply find the idea of an "attractive" lifestyle hard to grasp.

My life consists of;
Work (I'm very well paid), gym (10 years dedication has paid off!!!), mma, Church (I have 1 vice, well maybe 2 if they are happy to share me haha), clubbing, and every month I do at least 1 new activity e.g. snowboard lessons, learn sign language, etc.

That's my life. Gym 4 times a week, MMA 3 times, Work 5 times, random activity is on weekends, between clubbing sessions.

So what exactly is an Attractive lifestyle?

define: Attractive

Causing attraction; having the quality of attracting by inherent force; Having the power of charming or alluring by agreeable qualities; enticing; Pleasing or appealing to the senses

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life style: a manner of living that reflects the person's values and attitudes

= attractive lifestyle




it seems as if your post is an attempt to reinforce your own ego.

It's not an ego thing at all. I'm certain that my lifestyle, consisting of being around sweaty men for much of my free time, cant be that appealing to a woman. But what is?

I never thought about how a lifestyle can be attractive. I meant what is it that makes a lifestyle attractive?

Are women looking for someone that is adventurous and this is expressed in their way of life? Is it more a security thing they are looking for? Is it wealth? Is it excitement? Romance? What?

Literally the concept is totally new to me and I can't get my head around it.

What is an attractive lifestyle?

Someone that goes partying 3 days a week? Or art galleries 3 days a week or what?

I love the idea, but just don't get how it would be attractive or even how you would express it as such.

An attractive lifestyle is a very social one. The kind where you're the guy everyone knows and are constantly meeting new people. Good traits only matter if someone knows you first.

I see the math like this:

good traits X (popularity)^2 = lifestyle attractiveness

Think about who the most desirable guys were in high school or college. Nobody has much material wealth then, but there is a definate status heirarchy. Social circle is king.

Ok that makes sense.

Is that also why sarging with wings and taking women out with you is such a good idea?

So an attractive lifestyle is one that consistently portrays social proofing?

Yes, that's the secret of naturals. No DHV stories, no routines, no need to say the perfect thing. The prospective girl simply observes the guy interacting with other people and knows he's great before he even talks to her.

My time is spent working, surrounded by sweaty men (gym or at mma), or having an adventure by myself. Trust me, it's not attractive, I know it, and I'm not fishing.

I'm secure in myself, but continually seek improvement. The very idea of a lifestyle being attractive is new to me, because I always did what I wanted, not thinking of how others may perceive it.

I'm asking because I want to know, not because I want compliments.

Sounds like you're doing it right...

Pretty much what everyone said, things that you do in your life, hobbies, parties things that are attractive.

Attractive Lifestyle=Passion for life.

Ok I'm not a mPUA but I think that you shouldn't try to change your lifestyle to make it attractive. The only thing you need to do is Love The Shit Out of Life. Just try to enjoy everything you do with passion. Other people will notice it and your life will get more and more interesting while you learn about your passions and develope your skills (doing what you already do).

I love cars. I thing cars are work of art. I learned about them, I drive them I enjoy them.
I love what I do. I love my business, I love marketing, I love selling to people.
I love women. I love every inch of their body. I love them when they dress really nice for a night out and I love them when they get out of bed in nothing but a large t-shirt and really messy hair. I love them when they just cuddle with me I love them when they annoy me with little things.
I love knowledge. I want to know everything about everything. I love nature, I love space, I love science, I love psychology, I love computers, I love technology...

I LOVE LIFE. And I'm not annoying and point this out to everyone. But people notice.

Are you having really bad day at your job? Fuck it. The sun is probably shining, you'll be enjoying yourself in couple of hours. Just enjoy what you can and ignore everything else.

I don't need to race cars for my life to be attractive and I don't need to be high roller poker player, semi-professional athlete or rockstar. I can show anyone how to enjoy anything in any situation. Do you really think any woman will care what you do if you can show some passion. When you start talking about something you're really passionate about the room will go quiet. Not a single person will thing you're boring even if your talking about your Online Gaming addiction - if you talk with passion.

If YOU think your life is boring then find a hobby you'll enjoy. But learn to enjoy it with passion. And never let other people tell you that your passion is not important.

Nice answer mCare.

I'm not sure if that would be an attractive lifestyle though. Everyone else seems to say it's a highly social lifestyle that is attractive, which I can kind of understand.

A highly passionate lifestyle that exiuviates mediocrity, doesn't scream attractive. It says obsessive. I probably fall into this obsessive category though haha.

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Just give it a try. When you're with her (or a group) somewhere quiet enough that you can talk talk about something you feel passionate about. Your voice will get louder, more confident, people will listen to every single word you say. I shows you have value. Sure there are people that can talk like this even in normal conversation. I for one need to talk about something I love.

Ok so maybe not every hobby is interesting when you talk with passion but most are. And if you're passionate about something you can't be mediocre.

You should take my post lightly but usualy when you find passion in things you will get to know them really good and that is attractive. I started with passion in my business. Now I make enough money to fulfill my passion for fast cars, etc. From being passionate about fast cars I got to know people that own exotics and have the social circle. (And that wasn't my plan. I just wanted to do what I love).

And it goes on and on. Even if simple conversation about your passion won't do it you'll eventualy improve your life (and get more attractive lifestyle if you really feel the need to do it).

But do you really think that if you are reeeeeeeally passionate about MMA and how you kicked the shit out of some guy that you'll need to lie so your life will look attractive?

I understand what you're saying, and I do agree. But certain things are just rubbish. If someone started telling me about online gaming I couldn't help but to laugh.

I agree that passion is vital in expressing your lifestyle. However being passionate about what you do, and having what you do be attractive are different things.

Interest and attraction are not the same thing.

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I have to disagree with you there. I've seen many rather unimpressive men present themselves in an interesting way that's attractive. It's all about your social skills. Even the coolest hobbies sound nerdy if someone talks about them in technical detail. Yet nerdy hobbies can sound interesting if they're presented fun activities anyone can relate to.

For example: I'm a gamer. Like card games, board games, and battlefield minitures. Widely considered nerdy, and it would be viewed that way if I talked about in depth knowledge only avid gamers would know to someone I met at a bar. However, if I describe the last gaming convention I went to like a weekend vacation with friends, it sounds awesome.

Your hobbies sound cooler on paper than mine. You must really be boring people with details if they don't think so.

I just can't see it. I'm really sorry to say it, but I just can't.

I understand how it can sound interesting. But, using your example of gaming, if a girl was telling me about it, I'd sit and listen for hours, probably hanging off her every word. But after all that I wouldn't find her any more attractive. Is that just me not being into gaming (I've never got into it, I have a short attention span so could never learn the rules), or is it just not attractive "to me", while other people would like that? Or is it just me looking for deeper connections and compaterbility?

It just seems the idea of an attractive lifestyle is very specific to the audience/target, if passion is what makes a lifestyle interesting.

The very concept just confuses me that there is an "attractive lifestyle" that can be made.

On the note of being boring to speak to; I generally don't tell people what I do. If you say mma, people look at you confused. Then you have to say cage fighting, which sounds stupid every time you say it. So it's easier to just not tell people about the black eye, stitches, and stuff like that. I prefer to listen to what people have to say about themselves and let them guess about me.

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