first i think i want to mention that you had both had something to drink when this 'incident' took place, so alcohol prob didnt just affect her behaviour/thinking, but also yours and how her talking to another man made you 'feel'
does this sort of thing only ever happen when you are both out at bars/parties?
my suggestion is that you two go out for dinner somewhere and discuss this calmly and without alcohol inside you. dont 'drill her' about flirting....there are always two sides to every argument so, if you both agree not to make accusations, but to say honestly how you both feel, listen with an open mind to each other, and both respect each other's feelings, and both agree to consider each other more then i dont see why this cant work out
also, if when you two go out normally, you both tend drink a fair amount, maybe you could agree to drink a bit less, or to go on more dates that dont revolve around bars and alcohol - at least for a while until your relationship is on a more even keel and you both feel more secure again

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Camus154,

I have the same exact problem. In fact I set out to become a super alpha male in the room specifically to gain my girlfriends attention. Needless to say, we have been dating for a year. Her respect and integrity still haven't changed. Becoming a PUA did land me some 3some's with my girlfriend. But I would much rather have a girl who knows how to stick to moral values. I really think you believe you can change her into a more respectful girl, and you must have some strong feelings for her. But her values aren't going to change while you're with her. People already have a preconditioned code in their brains for their behavior.

Ultimately you have a decision to make, and you can't be afraid of the outcomes. I think we both deserve better my friend. I have simply gotten to the point where I just don't care what she is doing, when, or with who. I just go right out and do the same to her. My worries have drifted away and I have accepted that there are very few women left with integrity.

Your values and effort exceed the payoff of the relationship. You can always train a girl to have good sex. But you cannot train values.

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Well, after several more days of her begging me to talk to her, she sent me flowers and an apology and I finally gave in. She never said she was flirting but did say her behavior was still rude and disrespectful.

ariana, you have a point. I was pretty damn drunk that night as well and not in the mood to be out anyway. She actually brought up the drinking herself and said we should try cutting back.

ethan_hunt, I wish you luck. I suppose only time will tell these things.

I have been cheated twice by my girlfriend.We have a verry nice relationship we have an amazing sex life and also emotionally we are bounded to eachother anyway at first I forgive because she seemed devastating to me and keep saying 'I wont doi it again I am so sorry' but from her earlier relationships she always cheated her boyfriends lots of times and when we were talking at the begining of our relationship she said to me that I never cheat you because I know the horrible consequences and I love you so I believe that lie her but after two weeks ago she cheated again me with another boy so this time I deleted her from my life
NOW she calls me everyday says sorry I am so bad right now I cry everyday every moment please accept me bac but I dont want anymore my heart was broken already.She seems like she love her roomate but actually she doesnt she actually made her broke up with her boyfriend secretly but her roommate doesnt know that she use her every time and her roommate assume that they are close friend but its a lie.
I really find her roommate attractive how can I pick up her roommate and make a clear finish about this girls curelty please help me
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Well things are going pretty well. She actually invited me to go back home with her for Xmas.

I still have some concerns, but I'm assuming if she really was playing me, she wouldn't be inviting me back to meet to the parents.

Fair assumption?