Hey Guys,

First of all, I would like to thank you for taking the interest in reading this post and perhaps, shed some light on the situation I am currently facing.

I met this girl the other day to work (My route usually falls into [Take Train A to Train B to Train C to Train D] Yes I transfer trains a lot). She was sitting by herself in a two seater (I'd say she is a HB9, if that even matters because it is fairly biased scaling a girl from 1-10), so I decided to take the seat next to her. I didn't initiate conversation at all, in fact, I was straight up trying to sleep. About 5-10 minutes into the ride (during Train A), she made a comment to me about her coat becoming too warm due to heat from the train's heater. What did I think about it? No idea why she was telling me this. Anyway, since she made first contact, I decided to follow up with 'So what are you on the train for? Going to work?' And so one thing lead to another, and we talked all the way through Train C (where she went to her stop). Throughout this conversation, I had made her laugh/giggle and disclose personal information about herself such as family, aspirations, job, and insecurities (such as finding a job post internship...*NOTE* She is a year younger than me and is currently taking an internship. I on otherhand just started the real life working deal). So at the end of the day, I got her phone number and she said to text her my number when we got out of the subway. I did, but did not receive a reply.

Today, I met her on the train again. We sat together and ended up talking through Train C again. She ended up mentioning (I did not mention at all) that she was sorry for not replying to my text because she busy (or something to that extent). Again, our talk had little to no pause and was fairly productive.

Problem is, how do I know if she is interested in me? And do you think she just gave me her number (after I inquired for it) and keeps talking to me (I ask her questions as well as she asks me about myself) because she is just a nice person or is genuinely interested? I also found out yesterday that she mentioned she had bought something for her boyfriend (but that one sentence was the only time boyfriend was used out of the two and half hours I spent talking with her)

Two days ago, I saw her on the train and was talking with her again. I made a comment to her about my awesome tie that I had on and she pulled a sweater I had on underneath the jacket and said she really loved it. Also, she mentioned to me that she needed a good excuse to get out of work because her boyfriend was paying for a ticket for her to go visit her (He's in a far away state and much older 9 years?). But yeah, after talking about that she said she'd see me Monday.

Im confused. Why continue talking to me if she has a boyfrend? We just met a week'ish ago.

I am certainly not an expert in any of this stuff, but from taking a dispassionate view of your situation, I offer this:

1) She is into you enough. Obviously she isn't head over heels in love with you, but she is clearly open to talking to you. I don't think the whole, "she said something to me first" really matters, but whatever, you're talking.

2) IDK what your conversation has been like, but you should certainly be teasing her/dropping innuendo every now and then at this point.

3) Disregard her BF. I have known girls who will flat out lie about stuff like that, regardless if she does have a BF, that shouldn't stop you.

4) I know this isn't advice you've asked for, but just make sure you don't over pursue. You're just some guy she talks to on the train, establish dominance first.

Hey, Thanks for the feedback.

Questions: I do drop the sarcasm bombs (aka negs) once in awhile, but tend to not overdo it for more obvious reasons. I'm also trying not to drop any sex hints because I do not yet know for sure where I stand in this situation (she may/may not have a boyfriend, but she mentioned (and it seemed asked) he was wanting her to go to his place to visit and he was paying for tickets, but she needed a good excuse to get out of work)...Although, she did seem nervous when she left the train, she mixed up the dates of when she'll see me "Oh, Ill see you tomorrow...oh wait, no, I have work...on Monday!"

How would I establish dominance? In what ways were you thinking of?

The best way is to stick with the teasing/negs. Obviously you don't want to act like a jerk. Another way, which isn't one I have really seen people talk about is moving the topic of conversation away from semantics towards your field of expertise. I am sure there is something you are very good at, don't be afraid to show off how smart you are every now and then. Dominance is kind of esoteric, but you just don't want her to think she the better of you two. You are talking to her because she is there, not because you think anything of her(just yet, obviously you need to show some interest at some point, but it needs to be in more of a "hey, I guess I'd hang out with you" type of way.)