i'm in college and wanna ask out this girl in my class. I've talked to her and we've studied a few times and talked on the phone a couple times, usually half about class stuff tho. I've never been on a date before so i have no idea what i'm doing. What are some good ideas for askin her out/ where to go for a first date?

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don't make it obvious what your intentions are dude... check out notice boards and stuff for a gig or party on campus or nearby and just drop you were thinking of going and does she wanna come along...

tune her there then ask her out to a place 1 on 1 is what i'd do

I'm sorry to say this mate, but from my experience and from your question, you've lost her. I've been there in my afc days and it didn't go well.

It doesn't matter how you ask her out or even where you take her out if you have a solid close. I only do cold approaches right now, and I know when I can schedule a stupid coffee date and when I need to take her out for a bowling game or something.

Here is your mistake IMHO and please correct me if I'm wrong. You are just another colleague to her, or maybe even a friend. That's not the way to get into her pants. Will she be surprised when you call her out? Is there any attraction between you two? I always used to play safe in these situations, instead of busting her balls. You said you've studied a couple of times together and if nothing happened while you were studying, I don't think it's gonna happen now. It's totally ok to study together and then escalate physically if you have the right frame. You didn't plan on that to happen, but hey, you just noticed how hot she really is and you are not afraid to tell her that. You are alpha and you take actions. Trust me, even if she rejects you, she will respect you. My frame for cold approach is "Just cause I'm talking to you doesn't mean that I wanna fuck you tonight", and I often tell them that.

I think you're in damage control and here is what you need to do. Next time when you're both on the same social gathering (I hope soon), game other girls, build a little jealousy plotline, make sure she sees other girls hitting on you, and then you'll have her.

If you just ask her out and it goes well, try to do something active and fun. Neg her, disqualify yourself, don't take yourself too seriously and you'll go well. Also, before you see her, hang out with your friends, it will get you in a good state.

good luck!

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we've never studied just the two of us so i dn if i'm in that colleague/friend zone....we're still in that gray area where we dont kno each other too well so i think I have a chance i just have to hang out with her in a social situation and build from there.

there's a matisyahu concert at my school next week and that seems liek a good idea

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Just ask her if she'd like to get a cup of coffee or tea sometime.

Defy may be right. If she views you as a friend rather than as a lover you probably can't change that opinion of you at this point. You need to understand how to spark attraction in women or you'll always be viewed as a friend or something and you'll never get laid . I'd recommend David D's book double your dating. It only costs about $20 and will give you the basics.

Okay! I'm totally going to disagree with everyone here and say you could potentially turn this around. You've talked about nothing but class and had group study sessions, so really, your not even friends, your classmates.

So establish a time to hang out and just do something fun. Go window shopping at the mall, hit up a nature center or go to a free zoo. I feel like going out for coffee is sort of generic, and friends go out for coffee, and you can't let that be misinterpreted anymore. Show her a more adventurous and humorous side of you! She's seen and heard the "in class" version of D.C Chillen, so let her see a side of you that will literally make her say "Wow! I would have never guessed you were like this!". It's like meeting her all over again, and this time you can tease and build attraction!

Take her around the campus. I'm sure she has enough comfort with you to hang out, so just do that. Calling it a 'date' adds pressure. I mean, then it's a date, and that gives her a lot to think about, she's going to think "I wonder if he's going to try to kiss me", "What is he trying to do?", "Will he try to sleep with me?". As where if you just hang out and your attitude adds a romantic flavor to the evening, she has NO IDEA what could happen. This makes her think "He's interesting, I want to know more", "I wonder if he wants to kiss me, I kind of wish he would" or "I wonder if we'll sleep together". You have to make her wonder, and by doing this, you control the evening and give her a unique experience as well as a new view of who you are.