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The girl doesn't feel a drop of remorse for slamming no on this one.
You need to set it up so that you CAN be rejected, that's when the no slamming becomes uh mmm let me see, friday I'm busy but saturday I can!
Very true. Yoga doesn't seem like a big-group event. I'd reserve group-outings for university parties or bar-nights. Then she can bring a friend along and get dressed up and all that jazz, but for going out to the movies, for coffee or for walks or w/e, i'd keep it to the two of you.
What I like to do is when you're setting up your first hang-out, just ask like you normally would. If she says she's busy, she's probably busy lol. My rule is ask at least twice. I'd use the following line for the second time (I usually wait about 4days to a week until asking again[no texting or interaction between - if she texts you bonus])
"Hey I've been meaning to text you but I've been really busy. How have you been?"
blah blah blah
"That's really cool. Hey listen, my week's a little packed, but I'd still love to get together sometime this week, does thurs/friday work for you?"
Something along those lines, put your own spin on it of course.
If she says she's busy again, it'll probably go down like this (if you're getting the right IOIs that you were talking about):
"Yea I really want to get together too, but i'm busy again" blah blah blah
In this case, you might be getting ditched you might not be, but I'd recover with:
"No worries, fb/msg/txt/whatever me when you're free and we'll get together for -insert fun date here-"
At least this way the ball's in her court and you will never become the annoying guy. - from this point I wouldn't text or put any effort in, if she messages i'd work towards it but if not i'd move on to the next.