OK, Theres this girl at my church that I'm pretty interested in right now. We've known each other for a while (we played on our church volleyball team for 2 years), but she was in a LTR at the time. We definitely didn't talk enough to be in the LJBF category though.

Anyway, I started going to a small group meeting this past month at the church that we attend. Since then, I've noticed I've gotten a few IOI's from her (throwing stuff at me, punching me, trying to interrupt when I talk to other girls, saying she likes my shoes, etc.), but so far I've been ignoring her for the most part while talking to other girls to try and make her jealous (I'm not sure if I should keep ignoring these IOI's, probably AFC on my part).

But I've also seen her at a bar and at a concert and made sure to DHV by socially proofing myself around her. I negged her on the fruity drink she was drinking. I also have these bracelets that I am selling that she wanted and gave them away to 2 friends in our church group and not her (probably an asshole move, but I've still gotten IOIs since then).

This has all happened over a 2-3 week span. This might sound like one-itis but I'm pretty into this chick.

But anyway, I was wondering where I go from here? I think I need to start using kino.

I don't think I've really done anything to convey that I'm interested in her yet (It seems to be my AFC drawback of trying to play it too cool). But, would it be wrong to compliment her in this situation?

We'll be seeing each other again on Weds. and I feel like I need to step up my game soon or else it won't go anywhere. Any help/suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

don't compliment anything!!! state your intention, act on the IOI's before you end up in that zone we all hate to be in, definitely Kino, if you're getting all these IOI's you better hurry!

dont ever use the word one-itis again! its a very, very bad word. to me thats the point of this whole game... not to get a fuck-buddy, but to build a relationship with a woman. anyways, sounds to me like you two need some definite alone time. coffee shop, bookstore, mall, dinner, movies? whatever shes into. but at this point alone time is a must.

I just used that word because I'm having a hard time keeping my cool around this girl. Also, what is meant by stating your intent?

I guess this is the hardest part I have to deal with. How do I go about setting this up with her. Just come out and say, "I think we should hang out sometime." or would that be AFC? I got a pretty good plan set up for a date, but I'm bad with going about asking a girl out.

If I were in your situation heres what I would do:
Next time you're around her act normal. Do what youve been doing. You've negged her plenty so Id keep that light. When you do neg, smile and give her some light kino (pat on back of arm for example). Once she starts giving you the IOIs, after say the 3rd...Isolate!.

Hey lets chat over here for a sec. Excuse the two of you from the group.

Since youve been noticing her Interest in you not only tonight but several other occations be direct.

Something like:
"I'm gonna go get coffee at (Place) , tomorrow before I ( visit my parents / run errands / help my roomate w/ the theory of relativity / cure for cancer / activity in which youre DHV). Stop by and try their (coffee drink / or tea ) w/ me.

She'll answer....If she doesn't suggest a # exchange, just take out your phone and give it to her. She better know what that means. If not I'd say.
"Yea if you hold it long enough, itll turn into a pink elephant that'll take you to clue castle, Then you'd have to figureout how to get ahold of me so I can come rescue you....geeez." Then smile.

There should be a #close. After that playfully neg her, Kino esc. Play push her.
Make some some talk, throw in a DHV story for good measure.
(I say DHV in this situation so that way she wont feel like u got what u wanted and ur done w/ her. Also raises ur value and more incentive for her to call.)
Ok lets get back to our friends.

thats my 2 cents

JUSTINcredible!

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don't ask her to go out with you... tell her that you'll let her take you out somewhere and make the date no options!

oh and state your intent means to tell her what your goals are not directly of course, tell her you think she should take you out to dinner or to the movies

Alright... Thanks for your help guys. One other situation that could get me in a problem is if we schedule a date, it'll have to fit into both our schedules and we are busy with school. How do I go about selecting the date and making sure that she can make it? My work schedule is set so I know when I have off. I want to keep control of the situation, but how do I do that if I gotta fit it into her schedule. I don't want to look too available.

okay first... do not ask what days she's available... and don't ask when she's open... instead ask what days she's busy and pay close attention eg. monday mornings, tuesday evenings.... now you know she's busy monday mornings so ask her out monday night!